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thomas2011 1401 reads
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Hi everyone,  

I've been around for a few years and have seen several ladies -- like many guys, it was kind of scratching an occasional itch.  But I find that what I'm looking for may not be typical (or maybe it is??) ... I'm not looking for a physical experience as much as an personal/pseudo-emotional one.   Hard to be specific without feeling like a tool in an open forum (maybe I'll do that in a follow up message!) , but I think back to when I was in a long distance relationship and we'd see each other after weeks apart ... the closeness, sweet nothings, affection.  Maybe not too manly of a statement but I've often enjoyed myself more with clothes on ... not that clothes off is a bad thing of course :)

For awhile I just filed this in the back of my mind as "do not attempt" for fears it would come across creepy or inappropriate.   But after reading one random review of another lady today, the reviewer was going on about all of this with a provider he had seen a few times:  exchanged a few notes leading up to the encounter, and saying "she started out saying how much she missed me..." and even commented that they'd exchange "I love you's" during the act, but acknowledged it was all part of the performance ... and I admit, I was envious.

So, is this the type of thing that I should just avoid, or hope it evolves naturally?  Or should I bring it up with a lady whom I'm getting to know better?   I'm not looking to cross any lines but at the same time, I feel I should speak up.  If it is okay to suggest this, how do I bring it up with her?  To be clear I'm not looking to bring it out of the hobby, just make it part of the experience.

Many thanks!

Tom

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thomas2011202 reads

Thanks Rockstar --

Actually, I will say I hope this wonderful lady is the one -- the ladies I've been with have all been nice but I haven't communicated any of this ... so maybe that's what I need to do.  Just wasn't sure if it was proper to do so, or how to encourage it without her thinking I'm getting too personal.

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anthony6268 reads

if thats what your looking for just bring it up with a girl you like to visit and hopefully she will be into a little role playing. just tell a lady you are looking more for an intimate, romantic setting, i am sure there are girls who can play the role.  or you can go the naturally occurring route, although that one is kinda of tricky in my opinion and a lot of different variables have to line up to get it going. lines can get blurred too.

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thomas2011135 reads

You hit the nail on the head -- it's a bit of role playing and that aspect really hadn't occurred to me until you said it.   I agree that letting this occur naturally is probably a mistake -- might look like I'm getting too personal, I'm not sure ... but I think bringing it up with her is the best approach... thanks much, I appreciate it.

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mrfisher204 reads

which many gals do very well.

Just don't get confused into thinking that she IS your girlfriend.

The boundaries you refer to need to be respected at all times.

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dantananot132 reads

That's as short and succinct an answer as you can get for your question.  Within gfe, the possibilities become endless.

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thomas2011164 reads

Thanks fellas.  I guess I was just concerned that this would be crossing a line (even as a role play type of scenario) but I feel a bit better ... while the ladies (and this one in particular that I have in mind) have all been GFE (at least, in my opinion), as one person above said, this starts to get into a role play scenario a bit.  Part of it is certainly being familiar with each other, and part of it is understanding where the line is drawn -- I totally get that.  It sucks to want to say/do something with a provider but hold back needlessly.

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Dr Who revived168 reads

There are many ladies who would be quite happy to fulfill your "fantasy".  As another poster suggested, seek out a "courtesan" gal who is looking for that connection with her customers.  But never forget that your fantasy is only that (and the illusion ends once you exit the room).

I am sure if you contact some of these ladies and tell them what you are seeking, you will be pleasantly surprised at how many will engage you with this "fantasy".

If you are suggesting that you are actually seeking a real "love" affair, then you are not playing in the right arena...get over to match or eharmony...as that activity would not sit well with the ladies here (IMHO).

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thomas2011176 reads

Posted By: ChgoCPA
There are many ladies who would be quite happy to fulfill your "fantasy".  As another poster suggested, seek out a "courtesan" gal who is looking for that connection with her customers.  But never forget that your fantasy is only that (and the illusion ends once you exit the room).

I am sure if you contact some of these ladies and tell them what you are seeking, you will be pleasantly surprised at how many will engage you with this "fantasy".

If you are suggesting that you are actually seeking a real "love" affair, then you are not playing in the right arena...get over to match or eharmony...as that activity would not sit well with the ladies here (IMHO).

Thanks much!  Yes, absolutely within the realm of fantasy.  I think I'll try to bring this up with her -- we really don't know each other that well yet, and while some of this is certainly GFE, as one reply above states, I think it's a bit of role playing as well... I appreciate the input -- many thanks!

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Calienteguera4u195 reads

Just be very careful you do not get too attached and become stalkerish.  It is great when you both enjoy the time together.  I have had gentlemen say "I love you" to me and I prefer they didn't go that far.  Sure I love them as friends, but do not want them to start getting jealous or crossing lines.   I have had to back off from seeing a few gents before because they were getting too clingy with me.

For me it is all about the experience for both of us.  It's wonderful being with someone you have seen a lot and know each other inside and out.  We just have to remember what the relationship really is.  I've had to catch myself and stop before I got too attached. It isn't healthy for either the gentleman or myself to blur the lines.  I am here to provide the best GFE I can.  Sometimes it's too good.  LOL

Susie

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thomas2011129 reads

Awesome reply, thanks Susie!

I agree completely.  For me it's about the context for our time together and trying to enjoy it the most.  I'm all for occasional emails/texts leading up to it to build some excitement, but certainly not looking to take it out of the fantasy or become stalkerish, but I completely get what you're saying.  

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