Late night radio show proposed this type of question about two people meeting at a bar.  Would women prefer to be seduced into sex and afterwards the guy just leaves and never calls, or is it better for him to offer up front to pay for a night of passion.  The female co-host said she'd be offended at the money offer.  But acknowledged that the next day she'd rather have the money and closure rather than wondering if he'll call or was it just a one night stand.

The flip side was who had more character: the guy who offered payment, or the seduce & never call guy.

I'd be curious of the results from a public survey among civvie adults who currently have open non-marital sex.

Cool show at midnight, wish I knew the station but I was channel surfing the airwaves while driving on a trip in central Pennsylvania last night.  Maybe someone on here heard it too?

I'm just curious as to whether the seduce/bang/abandon situation implies some element of deception or an outright lie to get her into bed? It just seems that seduction and honesty are not mutually exclusive, nor is a goodbye precluded. I'd think deception and abandonment are pretty good grounds for feeling used and regretful in the morning.

The money is nothing but a surrogate for honesty perhaps?

"abandon" implies that there was some promise of continuity. I'm getting fuzzy on details as I get older but my memory of one night stands is that there was never an explicit promise to pursue a relationship, but neither was there an explicit declaration of the intent to bang and bolt. And that goes for both sexes btw - more than once I tried to pursue something with a one nighter, only to be rebuffed because I was a rebound guy, stress relief, or better looking when she was drunk. Poetic justice I suppose.

But I'm not sure how one could reasonable conclude that a guy engaging in p4p has less character than a guy who lies to get a woman in bed. The former violates social mores that don't apply everywhere, or during every historical era, whereas deception to achieve an end is a de facto character flaw in any culture. Might get you rich, though.

If you took a general population survey, I bet that most would consider offering/accepting payment as beyond the pale, yet making empty promises to a romantic partner is par for the course.

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I have enough dicks in my face during the week then when i am not working i am too busy with spending the money and having fun sans sex.

             I can only take so much sex!
                                                        last summer i initiated a few flings and made it clear to them i have no energy for socializing with them , that i basically wanted to use them like a piece of man meat and the kick em out basically immediately after. They gladly accepted my offer for n.s.a. sex sans the dinner and talking about well no offense but i wasnt interested in getting to know them . i just wanted them for my own pleasure and then becoming friends wasnt really something i desired of them or felt i wanted.

 
                 It required being extremely blatant and upfront . i had to basically say look i wanna just fuck you then use you and then you can leave after. I dont want the drama and the dating and whatever.
                      in the end i got what i wanted i got my no strings attached flings with the eye candy I hand selected for myself in my travels...  

 

 

I just am happy making 22 every time i have sex. I am not interested in also having sex in my time off from work.  

 
when not working i am all hyper and excited to run around and get mani's and pedi's do these really involved work out and diet regiments, I would be annoyed by having sex or a guy up my ass as in around me and as in wanting sex ater my appts each week.

 
BUT alot my clients are also hot and pleasant and enjoyable so I dont feel lonely or like i am missing out on anything either. I feel oretty dam fullfilled mentally and sexually.  

 
So no i wouldnt accept an offer for sex with out pay from a random stranger.

 
                                     In the rare event i met one i felt i DID want, trust me i d approach them asap. and have in past. And i would do so in a blunt manner rather aggresively and tell them exactly what i want to do with them. and all the details.  

 
civvie dating I am not involved in currently and i dont feel like i am missing anything nor do i yearn for a boyfriend like not even fuckin close. !!!  

 

    There is a very special person to me coming home this fall though that I met from my ads at age 26.

and he not only paid my way with everythign paid for appts and set up appts with his sexy inked up friends for me too which i loved,  

 
  he was best of both worlds he gave me tons of money and gifts and trips , we stayed at a place that was close to 600 a day once !

 

 
   so other thing is he also for me I also was incredibally attracted to him physically and on an emotional level too.

 
he comes hom in a few months after 5 years. that is one exception where it is some one i d want in my face up my ass in my bed, eating all my meals with me,

 
and in fact I used to get really sad when we had to seperate at all, i was so attached to him.

 

he will be back in the same city as me november. That is one exception of a guy i d want as a boyfriend around.

 
                           and even if he was broke i woudl want him around, but he never is, far from it, he always dressed impeccable, had tons of nice cars trcuks motorcycles boats!  

 

 i would be his girlfriend. but that it there no one else that has interested me since him. I do look around, but i have so much fun being single too i never once sit at night and feel lonely

I decided that a nice expensive piece of jewelry would be the most correct way to say thank you but it's over.

It seems to have worked.

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would you tell him how much it would cost? To me "Seduction" and "Pay" don't go together. But, then, I don't live in NY so things might be different there.

The other is disingenuous  to a degree because he never outright says he only wants to being the woman, but sort of implies that there might be more.

Getting paid is a no brainer...you fuck then leave and that's all folks and she gets compensated for being a willing masturbation tool with a pulse.

I offer the young lady ( usually young lady ) the following question when it's late & time
"You have two options:
Come be with a guy who really wants to be with you or
Come be with a guy who really wants to be with you AND
will leave you a very nice gift"
They always come and I always slip something very generous into their purse
Interestingly none EVER mention it!