I have an appointment next week with a provider. This will be my third time in the last two years. The first time was in Nevada with two girls (a lifelong fantasy), but I was so nervous that it wasn't what it could have been. It was good, but I didn't perform like I did in my 20's. The second time was close to home. Everything functioned fine, but the girl and I just didn't hit it off.  

I'm early 60's, and ED is a problem. The little blue pill really helps, but not if I'm really nervous.

I've always had to get to know a girl before I could really perform well. Once I got to know her, my performance was very good (or so I was told).  

Am I the only old guy here with slight plumbing problems and a bit of nervousness?

Some guys have written similar issues...maybe you might want to take a gander at The Erotic Highway and read some of the threads discussing this topic (go back over the last couple of years and you'll see that your story is a common one).

You may want to consider being a bit more selfish and see a FBSM gal.  Make it ALL about you.  May take some of that anxiety out of the equation.  And no need to bring this one a gift either.  She'll be just thrilled if you show up clean and with a full envelope.  BTW....most FBSM are considerably cheaper than hookers per se.  And they have only ONE agenda...to get you off.

Buy yourself a gift...take a xanax.  Screw the chocolates and booze!

Just approach it as you would an E-ticket ride at a roller-coaster park. IE: Eager, big smile, and ready to have a hoot!

So don't worry about it, just keep doing it until you get it right.  The more you do it, the less big a deal each session will be.  Then you'll be fine.

Easy to say if you've done this a gazillion times. But if he's new, he can be nervous and anxious, that's normal.  

Don't you remember you had a first time too at some point?  

I'm sure the gal he chose will make him feel relaxed and wonderful the minute the actual 'meet' happens. That is typically when the butterflies disappear for the most part after that split second. It's getting up to that point of not letting it play with your mind so much, that's the battle.

Yeah, it sucks and I can empathize with you since I also have the same issue.

Same problem here even with the blue pill. Sometime it works sometime it don't. Guess it's one of things' about getting older, shit happens !!!!!!

It's not always a problem of not getting it up. The first time, with the two girls, the pill worked fine, but I couldn't reach orgasm. Similar problem last year. Those girls really had to work for their fees.  

I hate getting old. When I was young I'd get a hard-on just looking at a girl, and I could control when I wanted to come.  

I'm really hoping I can find a provider with whom I can be comfortable and have a good time. When that happens I'll just keep going back, as long as things continue to be good.

I have enough trouble getting off without adding to it.  So since I don't have ED, and can get hard again on my own even if I lose it, no blue pill for me.  The one thing I can't do is get a second pop in an hour.  During a 90 minute session I've come close, but no brass ring so far!  Am I greedy?

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seems like escalade may be rubbing off on you asking those types of questions  LOL

No..you're not greedy.  Simply a cheap ass.  Pay for 2 hours and get off twice nick...or just the one hour and call it even.  Why pay for an extra half that doesn't work for you?

Oh...I know.  It's cuddle time.  

but I have to confess, I am in the same boat. The blue pill does nothing more than give me a headache and make it even harder for me to cum.

I would much rather book two separate appointments a few hours apart than book a single 90 minute or two hour appointment.

Does that make me greedy as well???

Not that I give a fuck what you guys think, Yes I am a greedy pig and this is what works for me, and it's all about me, right?

Also, fyi, I never cuddle.  I find 60 minutes puts time pressure on me and 90 is just right.  But thanks so much for your advice!  LOL!
Now, please...

But remember!  "He who cuddles, ends up in a puddle!

Shit...found this pic of you, nick, Pantera all with taylor

Cuddling indeed  LOL

Quit the idle chit chat for the first 45 minutes and get to it.

Sheesh  

"Am I the only old guy here with slight plumbing problems and a bit of nervousness?"

No you aren't the only one. I'm 59, I use Viagra (cut the 100 mg pill in half), and still get nervous on the way to the session. It's the good nervous though. Not the bundle of nerves it was the first time.

Since you have done this before you shouldn't have the same type of nervousness as the first time. But you're nervous about will things work. Can't dwell on that. Decide that you aren't going to obsess about will it work. Go in thinking I'm going to enjoy this and what happens, happens. She will be working to set you at ease.  

About Viagra making orgasm difficult. I have experienced it twice when the lady and I spent a lot of time in foreplay. I had taken the pill about an hour before the session as prescribed. So 2 hours after taking the pill and orgasm time has arrived it's not happening.  I thought I'd try waiting to take the pill until closer to the session time. Figured the longer I'm under the influence of the pill the more it effects orgasm. I had already noticed that I felt the effects of the pill very soon after taking it. I now take the pill 5 minutes or less before the session time. Talk and shower time (10 to 15 minutes including kissing before and after) and I'm ready to go. No problems now with not being able to cum.

None of this is medical advice. It's just what works for me. The half a pill was my doctor's suggestion. You know how quickly you feel the effects of the pill. If it takes a while then my idea to wait 'til the beginning of the session to take it may not work for you.

There is a 60 and over board you may want to read/ post on. This comes up from time to time there.

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Sure, I had a high anticipation level but I wasn't the slightest bit nervous. It could be because I approach the hobby the same way I do with a civie. It's just another hour of sex.

Why did you book with her?

Not wanting to know who it is, but if she is a professional, and I'm sure you did your research,  you will have the time of your life sir.

have fun.

Lol of course you weren't..too for school lol

lol o

My prob is not being a teenager anymore, combined with the simple truth that condoms cut down on sensation.

I've tried Vitamin V--it keeps me functional, but also keeps me from getting there, perversely--and/or when I do, the release is just not as satisfying.

I've done better by taking Cialis once a day for several days before my date.  In a pinch, if the date is more of a last-minute thing, I fare better with Levitra than V.

And as always, see if your provider is ok with female condoms.  Come bak and let us know how things are working out for you.

I booked with her because she's gorgeous, has an incredible body, and her reviews are outstanding. From the reviews, I have the impression that she's good at making guys comfortable. We'll see if that's right or not in a couple of weeks.