There once was.....

Once upon a time there was a girl who met a boy and they fell in love.
They fell so hard they fell clear down the stairs.Bumping and banging all the way down the stairs hitting their heads together ,on the walls the stairs themselves and the bannister all the way.. Finally they reached the bottom all bruised, bumped and lumped up. When they did they collapsed into eachother arms and cried in unavoidable pain from the fall .
After the realization that she would cloud his vision as she could see he couldn't even make out where the stairs were she left him , because she loved him and didn't want him to hurt anymore.
They remained dear friends and went their own way, he still calls her every morning and every night before bed and she still says no each time he asks to take her away on his horse to never never land of which she will never ever go. She still does love him , she loves him enough to leave him alone. Kendall

Re: In love with a provider help

There is the erotic highway board.  You could ask the Love Goddess.  She deals with those sorts of issues.  It would not appear you have done that.

Gonna assume you wrote this with out much prep since you mentioned you got engaged prior to falling in love and don't state whether you ended the engagement or are pressing on.

Are you upset because she didn't tell you earlier or that she is still working?  Are you supporting her or is she still paying her own bills?

It seems like your problem, not hers.  You need to decide what to do.

No one can really give you any reasonable advice with the rather small amount of information you have given here.

You really need to talk to someone who you can tell the whole story to and get a resoned response from.

No one can advise you because we don't know so much (and will really never know the key fact or two.  You may not even know.)  It is important to know if she works for the money which she needs or she likes the money but really likes the work.  The most important thing to know is whether you can be comfortable with this or it will drive you crazy.  If this is making you really upset and you think you can "tolerate" it, things don't look great.  If it will not bother you as long as she comes home to you and loves you, things can be fine. Good luck.

As orthodox mentioned, you really should look throught the posts on the Erotic Highway. The Love Goddess (the mod there) has offered some advice for situtations very similar to yours. Look through the previous postings there and I believe you will find advice by her and other hobbyists that will help you. If you still feel like you need additional advice, the Erotic Highway is wonderful place to ask and get assistance.

Good Luck,

C_K

Your situation has definately been discussed on the Erotic Highway, and the pitfalls identified.  The question is what each of you see in the future, and if both of you can embrace it.
Will she quit the business?  Ladies do retire, and move on in their lives.  
Will she comtinue in the business?  Are you seceure enough to know that it's a separate personna and that you're the one she comes home to?
No one can answer these for you two.  
Some of the ladies here are married...  if you scroll back through the pages you may find their insight.
skb

The Love Goddess on the erotic highway might be able to help you with this.

We got engaged fell in love then i found out what she did before.....

Do you want her to stop working? Ask her to and see what happens.

IMHO Love is an involuntary reflex.

Good luck

Re: Sorry bro, but if sharing her with us is

already bothering you enough to ask our advice, IMHO, it's too much to deal with.  Either you can deal with it or you can't, there is no advice out there that can help you get past it. Look inside to decide, but remember that a poor choice may only lead to heartache and bitterness.

Does she trust your feelings now

For me as A provider I have been through this before and must say I never want to again...

Being accepted for who you are and not what you do is very hard for most.It can be a living hell for some.

I always tell new ladies to step lightly into this lifestyle. Your personal life will be hard pressed to stay the same. Everything changes when you start living a lie.

The past is just that, the past and i'm sorry the past is creeping into your future. Sometimes jealousy and mistrust can push us back to our comfort zone.

There comes a time when the person you love is less comforting to be with than the gentlemen friends you see.

Kisses Haley

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Most people aren't virgins when they meet... fall in love... and eventually get married.

But if she can't stop providing...  that's going to be a serious problem.

Normally it's "we fell in love then got engaged"

Was your relationship a traditional one before you found out about her vocation? Did she voluteer the information? Do you cohabitate?

Not trying to be nosy, just trying to fill in a few blanks. Without more info nobody will be able to give you any type of meaningful advice, and in all honesty even with all the details it will still come down to how you, and her feel about the situation.

it is not a situation most men can deal with, are comfortable with or want to be a part of.
You need to tell her how it is upsetting to you. She is either going to stop or not, and then you have to decide what you want to do about that.
trying to block out your own feelings about it all is not right. It won't just go away, if you are bothered now, you will be bothered later but maybe more so.
My SO could not handle this, he would be so deeply hurt if he knew. Thats the last thing I want to do to him. I agree, post on the Erotic Highway, LG is awesome... Good luck .


Nicole

"Its more complicated then that .... We got engaged fell in love then i found out what she did before ..... Now she workes every now and then ... Any advice to how to deal with it ..... I even tried making it like a sexy fantasy "


She told me she wasn't going to retire .. If you can't deal with her job, I am sure I can..Review to follow..