1. Why is it that 30% of married men never, in their whole lives, cheat on their wives?

2. Why is it that in recent data, infidelity rates for men and women are the same.

1. Because man is a creature that has the capability to overrule his natural tendencies for grander reasons (love for example).  Also the "bird in the hand" syndrome.  You and I are examples of how the number should be even higher if it were not for how life justs ends up taking unplanned courses.

2. Because over time, there is only so many "whats" a man can give his SO.  Eventually the "new what" is only satisfied by a different "who".

So my guess is that the difference between "what" and "who" motivations disappears over time.  Are there studies that show how long into a marriage the sexes begin to cheat?  If my guesses have a chance of being right, I would think that men cheat earlier in a marriage than women.

I can't believe I'm posting here. This will give a lot of people immense amunition.

When I was married my wife was more than plenty for me. She was also very much my 'junior'.

I can only answer the one question. I wouldn't have cheated on my wife for two simple reasons; the afformentioned and I have a very intense history with 'Theology'. This doesn't mean I fear 'Judgement'. I was raised to believe that cheating was the lowest form of evil that exists. Sorry for any toes that may feel stepped on.

Truth be told I never cheated on my wife either which I guess puts us in that 30% together. I do have to confess, if I had stayed on in the marriage even after it became sexless and doomed to failure I might have forsaken my vows and cheated. As it was I realized the marriage was doomed and ended it. I am quite sure it was the best thing for both of us. I am 100% sure it was best for me.

I have no answer for question number 2.

I don't have a SO at the moment. If I had one I would never cheat. That is the way I am and others are too. Frankly, if you really love someone you cannot possibly cheat because she is everything for you..those who say that they love their SO but do this are lying about loving her/his SO.

I agree 1000%, a person that cheats on their spouse is a total P.O.S in my book and I have no respect for them at all.

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100% of married men cheat in their lives, just 30% of them gave false answers in the poll.

For the same reason, the true infidelity rates among women can not be found either.

and how do you know that???

YES!! It's about fucking time that someone voiced that opinion loud and proud!

All this total HORSESHIT about men being predisposed to this...and society that....and blah blah blah....
It's all SHIT!

You either have morals and your vows mean something......or you don't...and the vows don't.
SIMPLE.

Cheat...in any way...and you are a total piece of shit. Love it!!!

Not all men cheat.  I am hoping you are just joking, or do you really believe that everyone cheats??

xoM

so they got it. it has nothing to do with politics or religion as far as i am concerned. it all had to do with the promises and understandings we made.

as far as the stats for infidelity equaling out recently.... i think that women feel less constrained to pretend fidelity.

I make my choices for my own reasons and I am willing to bet so do the other responders to this post.

I have no desire to make others conform to my moral standard, and I don't really give a fuck about yours. I am actually sick and fucking tired of moralistic, judgemental fucking assholes coming onto to a board created for the sharing of information between escorts and their customersand trying to impose their own set of morals on the rest of us. Just who the fuck do you think you are anyhow?

takes a lot of nerve to thump whatever holy book they subsribe to on a board about fucking peope you are not married to lol....

comes on this board preachin' morality!  The P&R board would seem a more likely place for these types to hang out. To think he probably just handed some lass a pot of gold to have his way with her body, jam his stick into her anus, then have her swallow his essence.

Seems a bit twisted to me for those types to be sitting in judgement of others, and spewing their morality (while they still have the scent of pussy on their fingers) on the lot of us that understand what this place we call TER is about.

Aye, tis a strange world we live in.  I just for the life of me, can't understand how someone can partake in the same acts of prostitution as the rest, yet consider themselves so morally superior.

Tis a question for the ages!

Just addressing the second question. Do you guys all actually think that women don't have sex drives?  That we don't want variety and spice like you do?  Are we living in the stone age??? Women are just as likely to cheat as men, for all of the same reasons.  Maybe you guys don't know women as well as you think you do.

I asked my wife this morning how many hours are there  in a week?
She gave me the right answer.  I then asked her why I get 40 min a week?  She said that is all she needs.  Thats why I hobby, nuff said!

I'm a bachelor. Own a house and have 2 dogs that love the shit out of me.

When I die, I want it to be in the arms of a beautiful, wonderful lady!

With a smile on my face!

Peace!

M

I hope you don't think that my position was as 'you state' it may have been. My intent was not of condemnation sir nor an attempt to superimpose my standards on another. Imagine,given my 'Historical' declaration, the demons I wrestle daily. You should be attacking MY hypocritical nature, not anyone else. There are GREAT men (biblically) who have made 'Moral' decisions contrary to biblical teachings and 'they' were not declared 'pieces of shit' by GOD. I'm sorry to have created this fervor by sharing my "reasons" for my life choices. This shouldn't have occured anywhere other than the P&R board.

With my apologies, I must declare you wrong. Otherwise,I just simply post to hear myself talk? Maybe I was an oddity.

When we choose to use 'concrete' terms such as 'always','never','everyone'etc... we open ourselves up to being "usually" wrong.

many...maybe most.. if not all humankind think they are morally superior. even the self proclaimed pagans and sinners proclaim themselves superior to would be saints because they 'aven't the stench of hypocrisy.

the moral fiber is always greener on this side of the fence, don't you know....

Wow...how do you really feel, simple shit?

Don't over complicate. Really. There's no desire to make others "conform" or anything else.
I simply responded to a post where someone said that anyone who cheats on their spouse is a P.O.S.

I agree with that opinion.

Don't read anything else into it.

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Don't get so full of yourself. I have no idea who the hell you are...and have no desire to.

I was merely agreeing with ritchie. How you think you factor into this is beyond me.

Now go wrestle your demons and realize that it's not all about you.

Um...hello....genius...

No book was mentioned. No religion mentioned....
Just an opinion.
Cheat on your spouse and you are a P.O.S.

No more or less valid than any other opinion spewed across this board.

So don't read too much into it...and do try to comprehend what you actually do read.
It really shouldn't be all that hard.

You are now free to return to your ignorant inane polls.

Debate team quality your not. Have a great day!

and that just means theres an untapped market.

there's still time boys.

come and get it.

women of the 60's and 70's who were raised with the "save it for marriage" mentality.  Most did and were true to the vows ignoring their own enjoyment because they were raised to think sex was dirty and bad except in marriage.

Enough history.  Let's all get laid today or at least this week.

Why yes indeedy I am!!! Thank yooooou!  eom

you were not even on my radar lol


I was sharing a comment with the person under whom I posted.


Maybe *you* should learn how the board works before you go calling people names.

And since I'm talking to you now, I thnk your point of view is the definition of ignorance, simply in its stridency.  But this should be expected of someone so immature as to launch into an ad hominem attack over words posted on a board, opinions expressed by those anonymous to you.

Cheers

GTM

But people can also cheat (or not) within that sort of environment

work it's way to ZER0 soon enuff!  Give it time lad, give it time!

please hold judgement until you have walked a mile in my condom

That's the same way I feel. I was with my S.O. for a long time and lost her to a drunken driver who failed to see her crossing the street and ran a red light. In the long time we were together I never ever cheated on her. I respected her and loved her too much to do anything like that. I could care less what a persons reason are for cheating. To me a cheating partner is the lowest of the low and I stand by my statement!

Cheaters always have an excuse and always say the same thing you just stated.

!. If your in a bad marriage, get out of it. Its going to cost you money but think of it as a bad investment on your part. Also remember you chose your partner.

2. Involved in a loveless marriage and staying together because of the kids, that is the worst thing to do to them. Trust me they know you don't love each other and your making it worse.

There are many other excuses cheaters use, that's all they are excuses.

we all have our reasons...lol!

So then be a man, stand up for yourself and no matter how much it cost get rid of her and get on with your life!

I'm a bachelor also, own my own home on 25+ beautiful country acres, have 4 dogs and 2 horses and when I die I just want to be happy whether with someone or not. Also when I die I plan to leave my estate to the ASPCA so they can do whatever they want with it and reap the benefits. I could leave it to my family but they just don't deserve it.