you scout out a new lady... ya like the pictures... you love the write up... and you make the call..... and set up the appointment.
You get to the place and use the 2-call system. The door opens... and behind door #1 is another lady - clearly not the lady in question.
What do you do? What should you do?
We've heard 'go with the flow;' 'provide a tip for time and expense;' 'hang a 180 and leave' and other variations of activity...
What say all to the appropriate response? what should it be (assuming that Bubba is not in the next room ready to cap your ass!).
then I don't believe that you need to leave anything. If it seems that the pics were more likely old or heavily touched-up then it's a grey area. Most professionally done shots will make the provider look better and with many obscuring the face it can be difficult to know for sure if it's a different person. Obviously, personal safety trumps all other considerations. It's worth remembering that in the case were it's clear that it's B&S, the provider is dishonest & running a scam...not something that should be rewarded with either a cancellation fee nor a "oh well I'm horny might as well stay".
I know, you get all dressed up and mentally prepared for a sexual encounter, but there comes a point where the provider isn't providing as advertised. The big head says that you're being set up, ripped off, or at the very least deceived. But the little head says go for it anyway. Don't do it. It may take another day or so, but you can get laid and you know it.
Unfortunately, that's not what happens. We think with our dicks all the time, especially when we're in a dick driven situation, and these scam artists know it. Now, there's a difference between a lady that is just making herself look better for the website and one that is totally scamming by pulling an upsell or a bait and switch on you. But if she is going to outright lie to you about what is on the menu, then she'll lie again and leave you very unsatisfied. Get outta there, or you'll wish you had later on. (Yeah, easier said than done.)
"(Yeah, easier said than done.)"
Actually its very easy to "just say no" once you put your mind to it. Aside from that, I agree with you 100%
Please,please, please, don't reward bad behavior. Thats what keeps the scamsters in business. I will never reward B&S with a plugged nickel, I won't offer an apology, pay for gas money,NOTHING. You are doing your fellow hobbyists a disservice by encouraging this kind of bad behavior.
Now if you want to know how I really feel. lmao
I have had this happen once. At the time I was so new to the Hobby that I didn't know what to think.
Now I would probably excuse myself particularly if the recent reviewers said the ladies pic were accurate.
I would be concerned that something else was going on. Possibly LE or something else othewise why would it be a different person.
Say "Oops ... sorry to bother you" and move to your next choice.
If it is someone different than the picture ask what happened, if you like the girl go with the flow. What ever you do be confident and in control of the situation. It is up to you if you don't feel comfortable just leave.
I had this happen recently. I was expecting a date with a girl who looked like Terri Hatcher (from her Lois & Clark days, not from Desperate Housewives) but when I opened the door, a very different looking girl opened the door. So much so that I commented, "Wow, you look very different from your pictures". I was thinking B&S but she proved she was the girl by showing me the tattoo across the small of her back and then explained the four hour hair and make up process before her photo shoot. Plus, she was one of those girls who looked very different w/ permed hair in her pics vs. straight hair when she opened the door.
Usually the "Photos accurate" category refers to old photos or a few pounds gained since the photo shoot. In this case, the photos were accurate because they were so professionally done. Still, they were accurate in that she was still young and attractive (just not young and model quality pretty) so I stayed and I'm glad I did so.
I've been in the situation where the lady either was older or heavier... but still the same person as in the picture... That would not be a B&S - this was not the same lady... by any objective standard. In fact, the picture would have made OFF proud. I should also add that this was a new with no reviews on TER. (I have submitted one)
In the end - it is the principal of the thing to me....
Bait & switch has happened to me numerous times---part of the pitfalls of hobbying. When this situation occurs, I tell the girl:" I can't go through with this------I'm married & feel guilty" & leave without giving $. This ploy has ALWAYS worked for me in the past.
won't take any risks anymore, I would just leave. I was never the guy to go to buy something and the salesman convince me to get something else cause they didn't have what I came there for.
When seeing a provider for the very first time, one of the main reasons a hobbyists prob. scheduled the appointment with the lady was based on her overall looks. Men want to be with someone they are attracted to. If it’s a case where there was clear gross misrepresentation by the lady, that her website pictures do not match her current appearance, as the paying client, you are clearly not getting what you bargained for. Honesty is the best policy and you need to tell the lady exactly how you feel immediately. I feel that you do not owe the lady any form of remuneration. In essence she lied to you about what you thought you were getting and the provider is not justified to receive any payment.
This situation is VERY tricky because it’s difficult to define "gross misrepresentation"? If the lady is currently 15 pounds heavier than her photos, is this enough for the gentleman to leave without paying? What if her hair is now blonde instead of brown? What if her hair has been cut to her shoulders instead of mid-back? What if she now has a tattoo on her leg and you do not like this look? It’s a real cloudy area where there are no rules.
Of course, let’s be honest here. Unless there is absolutely no correlation between provider in person and her photos, most of us will stay. We have invested our time to go to the appointment and want to get laid.
If she's lying about her pictures who knows what else she is going to lie about? Fake pictures don't surprise me when dealing with lower priced agencies or CL girls but at the $$$ plus GFE level I expect to see the real deal when the door opens.
You would be my alltime hero if you handed "her" the Watchtower mag and she gave YOU a donation !!!!
I might use that technique daniel san. lol
Depending on my mood, I would give her 100 roses and tell her to get on her knees.
If she is a skanky addict or fat nasty, I would tell her to go fuck herself and leave. If Bubba sticks rears its ugly head, I would .... . ... ..
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