I agree.  The intangibles of attraction are hard to put your finger on, but women can smell fear across the room.  It's not surprising that confidence gained by your hobbying experiences would translate into broadcasting a sort of subliminal self-confidence to which women would respond favorably.

Let's face it, we've all seen ugly guys that get women ("Is she really going out with him, is she really going to take him home tonight?").  I'm probably one of them, too .  The key is they don't act like unattractive or shy guys, they act self-assured and comfortable around women.  Women often respond favorably because an average looking confident guy can be more appealing than an akward good looking guy.

I started seeing escorts in between GF's, because I realized my time alone was causing me to revert back to some testosterone saturated male that was forgetting how to be comfortable with the ladies.  Every month that went by was making it harder (npi) for me to get a new GF.   An occasional refresher course with a fine courtesan was just what the doctor ordered, and it has added benefits as well.  

So it's not in your head, er, yes it is, well you know what I mean.

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As we all know God is a Woman(lol).....Why

do you think she would wait an additional 4.9999 seconds to strike down with a lightning bolt the poor b*stard who figures it out first? Foreplay? roflamo

The revelation of my first sexual encounter with an escort had nothing to do with the sex, but rather with the honesty of the relationship.  Perhaps my first ever social encounter with a dating age woman that didn't have an ulterior motive or hidden agenda.  After the dating scene in LA, I found the change to be very refreshing.  

It also better prepared me for all the game playing of the general female population-  when you know there's an alternative source of female companionship available, you don't need to let yourself be jerked around in the hopes you'll get some.