Hello People, I'm new to TER (about 3 weeks). First of all.  I'm 29, married, no kids and I would say has a pretty good marriage life, I only been with my wife (sexually) and never had any sexual relationship with anybody else. The reason I decided to get a provider is out of curiosity, I wonder how does another woman feels like, how does she taste like, how does she smells down there and stuff.. Now is the day after my first experience with another woman and I'm kinda have mix feelings about it, It was a good experience but now I'm feeling guilty and shame and now I'm all paranoid that I might contracted any STD and might transfer it to my wife, Everything was covered during the act btw, but I'm still paranoid about it. Part of me wants to do it again and get another provider and part of me is feeling very guilty and ashamed for what I've done. Are these feelings normal? you guys should think I should stop, I just had so many mix feelings and I wanna know what you guys or gals thinks. Are there any guys out there that's in the same boat as me? meaning, they only been with their wives all their life and now getting a provider.

Confession is good for your soul.  It won't be good for her soul.  Suck it up.  If you talk to someone, talk to a person bound by confidentiality.

There is something missing for you in your sexual relationship with your wife.  Figure out what it is and see if you can fix it with her.  If you can't, you can divorce her or live in an "arrangement".  It's a collection of hard choices.  I and many other people here are struggling with the same issue.

I had twelve years schooling at Our Lady of Perpetual Guilt.
Everything concerning sex, even thoughts about it, was a mortal sin.

thats why they have confessionals. You can keep doing it as long as you confess. Its one of the greatest clauses in orgnized religion. Oops, forgot to schedule mine in since last provider.

Gosh, this is why dating and gaining Life's Experiences is so important BEFORE marriage. Marriage is a FINAL step, AFTER you've experienced life and have seen your options and choices.
I'm also under the impression that you are Catholic (?), not a native born American?

I don't think you'll care for my answer much.
But, choose one. The marriage, or the 'dating'.
If you've been married a short time, and right now you DON'T have kids, I'd see about annulling the marriage. You obviously weren't (aren't) ready.

Continue on the path you're on now, and you will have two unhappy people..

I was hasty in my previous post. It was a joke; possibly in bad taste, but Im catholic so I can bash me. From the sounds of it though you do need to step back and analyze what it is you want out of your marriage and life for that matter. I was married and took my vows seriously. It wasnt until after she passed away that I considered the hobby. When I was having difficult times in my marriage I talked about it with someone(a priest friend) who I trusted and accepted me and what I was dealing with without judgement(some topics should not be talked about with a SO)When I was going through the "wondering what it would be like" phase, I took every opportunity I had to make love to my wife and spice things up with all kinds of delicious goodies.ehehehe aaahhhh the memories She was ALWAYS appreciative; asking me what got into me. I was at the time always able to say "YOU!!!!"
So my advise is pay attention to take a look at your commitment and decide what is best for BOTH of you. [End of Sermon]

It's called "Guilt Without Sex".

Damn, now I feel bad... yes I'm a catholic. So I guess you guys think that continuing this hobby while I'm married is a bad idea? I don't want a divorce though. I'm thinking of continuing this hobby, shit I'm confused....

Continueing this hobby while "you are so confused" is what is the bad idea[IMHO]. All I am suggesting is take a step back and evaluate what it is you want from your marriage and then talk about it with someone who you trust(not your SO ya dope lol). Listen to your gut(heart, soul etc...whatever you want to call it) and do the next right thing. Good luck

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Depending on the fact that your wife is open minded... maybe you should drop some hints as to seeing her with another woman. If she is into it then you could always call another provider have the time of your life with two women at once and not have a guilty frame of mind.... If she really enjoys it maybe you two could make it a regular thing or even start swinging... Just an opinion from a Ladies point of view... Hope it helps..