Apologies to Joe Strummer, et al.
Every once in a while I like to ask these questions of etiquette, and more often than not I get my ass kicked for being a pussy. Maybe I am beginning to like it... Have at it boys.
Ladies, please tell me the best way to handle this. And no, I am not a newbie, I just am curious how others handle this. My way seems to work well enough, but maybe there is a better way.
The scheduled time is up, a good time was had by all, and we are just lying there, visiting, caressing. I really do not want to go and have gotten no signs that she is in any rush to have me leave. So, I will say "Looks like the time is up. I would love to hang out some more if that pleases you, but just say the word when I need to go." Or something along those lines. I have given her specific permission to throw me out when she wants. Now I can relax until she does, no need for me to watch the clock any more.
Sometime I am told to leave right now, other times she asks me to leave a little later, or tells me I have to leave by a certain time. Seems pretty good, seems to work, but I am wondering if there is a better way, ladies, to be sure I am not rushing out unnecessarily, but also not putting her in any sort of difficult position.
When I was a newbie, I also would offer to pay for extra time, but mostly that money was refused. So now I only offer extra if the time was spent on some special or prolonged play, and not if we were just hanging out.
Tell me what works for you.
Thanks,
Zig
Don't make her have to push you out the door. Be respectful of her time and stop trying to take advantage of her. If she wants you to stay bad enough, she'll tell you not to leave. If she lets you stick around, tip her.
we'd be spared banal posts of this nature. Zigg, I'd put this one up there with your priceless "rules for GFE" post couple moths back.
Most guys when doing incall go on common sense instinct about when to leave; Zigg, I'd advise you do same instead of asking people here to " tie your shoes for you"
Title of your OP was "should I stay or should I go"; if that's in reference to your board presence, I'd cast a vote for the latter-----
I never want my 'friends' to feel rushed. Part of that means I count on them to know when it is time to leave. I don't mind going a little over to take a shower and/or get dressed. But once our time is up, I will expect you to gather your things and get ready to go.
As often the case, if there is no clock in view, how would I tell, its time to leave?
Like the operating room , I turn my phone off, until I leave the building.
I get up when she gets up .
Nothing needs to be said.
I treat her like my favorite nurse.
If she is continuing to caress me,
I'm staying in the bed, unless I have to pee.
And I can't recall any gal's place that did not have a clock prominently displayed.
That's not a coincidence.
Unless she pins you to the ground and trusses you up, grab your ditty-bag and high tail it out of there so that the next guy can have some fun.
"And I can't recall any gal's place that did not have a clock prominently displayed."
Experience often differs.. Many times in Hotels and providers incalls,no clock was present.
If she has the clock turned around, its not my place to rearrange her decorating.
If her clock is not set to the correct time, its much too difficult, figuring out, when my hour is up.
I can only read what I see.
so I'm not too impressed by these arguments.
If the time to go has come, go, or you will have some philosphizing to do the next time you want some nookie.
I'll bet if the clock was ticking while you were with a lawyer or doctor charging you by the hour you'd figure out when your hour was up.
$16 at Wal-Mart and you can calculate her tip with the calculator in case you decide to stay over your allotted time:
Because when you say "Looks like the time is up. I would love to hang out some more if that pleases you, but just say the word when I need to go."
That puts us in the awkward position to ASK you to leave, or TELL you to go, which can makes us feel bad or make us feel like the bad guy...
especially when you say "...if that pleases you"
so then we feel like if we ask him to go, then we do not like this guy much or like his company, because if we are pleased, we would let him stay, just for shits and giggles, but if we ask him to go then we are saying we were not pleased...
see how that appears?
It is really easy to reply "Would love to hun, but I have to get going now." Nice, easy, gets the point across. It has been the most frequent reply I get, and no, it does not hurt my feelings or annoy me in any way.
Zig
I like that response! I may if I ever come into that situation, use it 
It does make things awkward for the lady and it puts her on the spot. Regardless of how easy it may seem to tell you to go, she shouldn't have to. It makes me feel like the bad guy too, Caitlyn, like I'm rushing the guy out the door. Just be respectful of her time, and leave once your time is up. If she REALLY wants you to stay longer, she will let you know.
I always assume my time is over when the scheduled appointment is over. If I'm asked by the Provider to go out to dinner or I get up and start to get dressed and she asks me to stay, and my schedule allows it, then I stay and assume it's off the clock -- but, I'll usually tip or take her out to a really nice place for dinner, or something in kind.
However, if not asked to stay, I don't get offended, and I would think it awkward to put it to her to ask you to leave...because I would feel offended if she said, "ok, you can go now."
You are telling her you want to stay. By dong this you are putting her in an uncomfortable position. She wants your return business so she is going to let you hang for a while just to be nice.
Stop taking advantage of these ladies.
I enjoy quite a bit of off the clock time with a couple of ladies that I have as regulars but it was and always is initiated by them. Dinner, drinks, even just hanging out are all demonstrations of a lady giving you her time-something that she makes a living by charging for. It is unfair for you to suggest that she give it to you for free.
Get dressed and leave unless she asks you, unprompted, to stay.
I don't extend my time unless a lady says 'please cuddle me for awhile' or she grabs me and says 'don't go yet, let's grab a burger'. This happened to me on 2 occasions. I stayed for the first occasion. The other occasion when the lady ask me to grab a burger, I had to leave because I had some things to do after our session. If not, I would have stayed awhile and grab something to eat with her.
This is just a passive aggressive way of getting what you want. You shift the burden to her to be the mean one who kicks you to the curb. Just stop it. You aren't the only one to have this brainstorm. When it happens, I'll mumble some polite nothing about "oh its no big deal" because hey, I"m a get along kind of gal and I wouldn't dream of stepping on your fragile ego by admitting that I'd rather floss my cat than continue chatting with you. So we chat some more and when you finally get your ass out, I promptly block your number so that I am not put into the position of being 'nice' again and donating my time to a freeloader.
You aren't "rushing out unnecessarily" as you put it when you leave after the time you paid for has expired. Stop trying to freeload off ladies by forcing them to put their foot in your ass just to get you out the door.
the clockwatcher when you say something like that - and we all know how you guys hate those! Just go and she might actually be glad to see you again.
At the end of your time you should wrap it up. I have stayed with Fav lady's on occasion but soon after the session was over, we began recovering clothing. I've stayed an hour or even close to 2. Had liquid refreshment or even a meal off the clock.
However I knew my time was up. Said Fav answered her phone as I expected she would. We slipped back into GFE for my departure.
Clocks are not always evident. After seeing one Fav (over 2 years on/off) I spotted a small clock which was to one side of the bed. The main room clock could not be seen. Some providers track time by sense or by music tracks.
In my experience, I let her actions guide me more than words... we were fully dressed when we ate that burger!
skb
There's no reason or need to ask a lady when you are with her, or here, how to handle the end of your time. What "works for them" is for you to get your shit and get out.
If, and it does happen....rarely, they are so enamored with your remarkable charm that they want you to linger.....they will make it glaringly clear.
Otherwise be a friggin' man and not a pathetic male.
Yes...there is a difference. Huge one.
I'd like to think most people would just know how to handle this. It doesn't seem so hard. I'm more of a clock-watcher than the girls I'm with because I don't want to presume on their time. I make sure to say something like, "Looks like we're running out of time" and wait to see what they reply. Even if the answer is yes, it's always been phrased considerately. And, yes, several times the gal has said, "Don't worry about it, we can go another half hour," or something like that. You just need to pick up her cues.
...and you pulled that shit, it'd irk the Hell outta me. I'd politely tell you that it's time to leave.
You would not be invited back.
Matt
i would think its a case by case situation. if its a non-rushed session, when you're finished with your business, there's really no need to stick around for more than a few minutes to recover and get dressed. however, if the provider has rushed the session, and you're finished well before your hour, how do you propose that's handled?
