....that doesn't expect or even want the lady to stare me down while she's performing her best BJ technique ?

I just want to lay back and relax and enjoy, looking down now and then in order to allow that "Hot as Hell" visual to be ingrained in my memory forever.
I certainly don't mind a casual glance now and then from her in order that she be able to reassure herself that all is moving along accordingly.

I guess that I don't get the whole " she made excellent eye contact the whole time " up to the point that I finally shot .......

If I had a preference I prefer that she perform that favorite interest of mine with her eyes closed at least three quarters of the time. It seems that she would have a better chance of getting lost in the moment with her eyes closed.

Or how about on her knees with her hands behind her back (look Ma no hands) while wearing a blindfold ? Now that to me is exciting.

I don't mean to take away from the wants and needs of the many, you guys deserve whatever gets you off.
But ladies, when I am sharing time with you, please don't lump me in with the masses.

WTF Over !

keeps her eyes open the full time you are kissing her. It can feel like she's in a state of hyper-vigilance. Not relaxing at all! My solution! I close my eyes, and it all goes away.

Just having a woman, no matter if her eyes are open or closed or crossed, sucking on our angry little man ? I'd do it myself but my ribs and blubber are in the way. Just an old,fat, ugly guy with an opinion.

Personally, I like a lot of eye contact.  To me, it's like she's saying, "Look at me!  I've got your cock down my throat and I'm fuckin' loving it."  Of course, a good part of the time I'll have my big head back and my eyes closed, reveling in the pure sensation of it.  But when I look down again...well if she's got her baby blues staring back at me, well, like they say, "It couldn't hoit."

Some ladies are suited to one level of energy, some to another. If I'm going for a soothing, warm encounter (which, frankly, is rare), I choose the appropriate companion, and eye contact is unimportant. If I'm looking for a bit more of a workout, I choose accordingly and like the mix of concentration and eye contact. But when it's time to break out the Nine Inch Nails, the wrist ropes, and the riding crop, I want eyes and spit and general disdain for socially-acceptable activity - I want to see and feel what you got, and I want you to know I love watching you, and I want you to show your skills off to me. Not every guy here wants to be a porn star, and not every lady does, either. You just have to choose your companion appropriately.

Love seeing a beautiful woman down there doing her thing, but the whole eye contact thing isn't necessary (for me)...

I like to give intermittent eye contact myself. I definitely try to read the guy's cues, which I don't think is that hard to do, but just like when I receive oral pleasure- I like to close my eyes and revel in the situation. Some eye contact is definitely good, but constant contact can distract some from all of the other pleasures simultaneously occurring.