I love the hobby, and love the girls, but i am wondering if any of you have had provider's that won't see you anymore? It seems like my money certainly isn't good enough, it seems if MY performance is not up to snuff i.e. perfect Daty, huge or whatever, i might be excluded from their stable....i can't be that bad, i'm cool, clean and ok looking....is it me or am i with the wrong girls?....

As a rule the only people I won't see are the rude people.  Performance or size is not what I base a DNS on.
Now, I'm not saying this is how you are, but I had a guy insult my yard, my house, and my choice to be a provider and then tell me I liked him because he was respectful.  My perspective of how I felt about him was way different than his.

Are you friendly enough with at least one provider to ask her what's up?

well yeah its only happening with one in particular, but she was my atf, so i'm just trying to figure things out or move on...i don't want to confront her about it, i figure if she doesn't return emails, i should just take the hint and go elsewhere, no problem and i respect her wishes.....as far as being insulting thats not how i roll, i don't judge anybody, i am just simpatico as soon as the door opens, its a bfe thang...

I've never had it happen to me, but can you ask the provider[s]?  Is it more than one provider?

as Holly asked:
were you mean, gruff, an idiot, turned ugly during your session?

And how many have told you they wont see you again?
a pattern perhaps?

If you turn the tables a lot of men see one lady and then never again...s**t happens, and yes perhaps you are seeing the wrong girls or not telling us something?

well yeah its only happening with one in particular, but she was my atf, so i'm just trying to figure things out or move on...i don't want to confront her about it, i figure if she doesn't return emails, i should just take the hint and go elsewhere, no problem and i respect her wishes.....as far as being insulting thats not how i roll, i don't judge anybody, i am just simpatico as soon as the door opens, its a bfe thang...

There are only a couple of reasons that I have refused to see a client a second time.  It is NEVER based on performance, size, or looks.  I have refused to see someone who was too rough during a session and wouldn't listen to the gentle proddings I was giving to be more gentle.  I have refused to see someone who shorted my donation after I had stayed the full appointment time not knowing that he didn't have the full amount...I'm talking the amount that he gave was almost half of what was due.  Yeah, I can't believe he called me again.  He felt that I was overstating what was owed.  Talk about a difference in perspectives.

If more than one provider is refusing to see you again, ask why.  I'm sure they'll be blunt enough to tell you.

I know some providers are pretty much okay with anyone who treats them reasonably well, while others are very specific about appearance, age, chemistry, whatever. I have heard of women who will not see someone again if he has an exceptionally large penis that they cannot accommodate (I doubt anyone would turn you away for it not being large enough!) or if they hurt her in some other way (not that I'm saying you would do it intentionally, but if you enjoy it rougher than she would like, etc.?) Perhaps others may just not feel the right chemistry with a certain man and don't want to provide less than enthusiastic service and get reviewed poorly? Or maybe she has a base of regular clients whom she sees on a fairly set schedule and does not need or want to take on any more regulars or less frequent appointments? This is all speculation, but some things to consider.. For myself personally, I have not turned a man away yet (provided he gives me proper screening info) but so far most of the guys I've seen are new clients.

I also agree that it depends a lot on whether you have had this experience with one provider or many.. I agree with others that you should ask someone if you are indeed close enough to a provider to ask her.. Best of luck!!

XoXo,
Marea

that requires the provider to be in close physical and psychological contact with the client.  A provider can have any reason or no reason for not seeing someone.  My ATF tells me all the time that she won't see someone because of their "aura."  Damned if I know what she means, but I respect it.  don't be offended.  It's just the way it works.

thanks for your replies, all
i can say its none of the above, its only with
one provider and our last session was unbelievable, for both parties, you'll just have to take my word for it, i'm a perfect gentleman, passionate, sensitive to her ect...and yes i accept all the things that can happen in this game no problem, just lookin for closure...

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others have already given some good reasons why that might happen. I might add: maybe you weren't discreet enough when you got in/out of her location

It was probably one of the best posts I have ever written and my time expired -- never had that happen before. It was deleted before it hit the board. I'm too tired to rekindle those well-thought-out words. It took me too long. Urgh!

Hugs,
Ciara

Turk,

I would define "aura" as being the energy that is one's essence which is projected and received.  Might also consider it "your vibe".

Haven't you ever been in a situation where you either really like or dislike somebody - with little information other than what is in your "gut".  Well, that would be the effect of that persons "aura" on your energy field.

Hope that helps.

MSH

Another possibility, assuming your last session was as "unbelievable for both parties" as you describe; perhaps she was worried that you were beginning to develop a crush on her, outside a typical provider/client relationship, or vice-versa.

And you still have the page with the text and you could and it will still post it. That's using the Firefox browser, though. I don't know about IE.

When the new board started, it wouldn't do that, and the session time was really short too.  I lost a lot of posts that way.

And you still have the page with the text and you could and it will still post it. That's using the Firefox browser, though. I don't know about IE.

When the new board started, it wouldn't do that, and the session time was really short too.  I lost a lot of posts that way.


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If she's not returning e-mails are you sure she's still providing?  Maybe she had a real life emergency and has to be out of it for a while.  Or maybe she got shut down.

Why are you so sure it's you?

They don't care about your sexual performance. The girls aren't there for gratification. Where's Kathy Of 48th Street when you need her?

Wait!  This isn't about my gratification?  Shucks.  

Seriously though, she may have a personal issue or may be afraid you are becomng too attached.  Only she knows and only she may help you in your quest for closure.