Why is that lesbian providers get upset when their partner sees the same client ? I been hobbying for a long time and I noticed this type of behavior has not changed over the years. In most recent case with providers I was dealing with one tried to pull a gun the the other.

And the men who get off on seeing two women get into it are just as insecure IMHO.

whatever you're drinking.

The more submissive chick in the relationship is open to sharing.

With body slams during a fight over a customer. Other cases in rare instances sleeping agents put in drinks. Hair weaves and shoes stolen. Reference drama.  

Many guys don't even know there was relationship until they try to get references. I guess as tell tell sign is that they use to do doubles and stopped doing them.

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It's very tough. We did not ever advertise as a couple or do doubles with each other once things got more serious in order to avoid jealousy. Our problems came from the practical issues. There is a direct correlation between time with clients (or preparing for them) and income. So, when one wants to make more money, she typically has less time to devote to the relationship and the home life. Also, if one is working harder (OTC, off-the-charts menu, etc), she may feel resentful that the other is slacking.

I have a question that I hope isn't too personal.
I don't know if you identify as lesbian or bi (I'm not a big label person) but have you ever agreed not to see women hobbyists due to your orientation or out of respect for your partner? As a lady custie I haven't knowingly come across this in this hobby, but I have come across it occasionally from strippers who are gay and have promised their SO's that they would not dance for women. Just curious about your thoughts.

That is why le will search for guns first during an incall sting of providers.  Some providers are stupid enough to tell you they have a gun.

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My ex and I had a policy that doubles were allowed, but not couples. We never got jealous of other providers, but did feel threatened by she-mongers. Two reasons:

>Having done couples sessions, I know how different things can be. The breaking the fourth wall, the fast inside jokes, the need to be charming and unforgettable to the woman are all more prominent then for me. Same with my ex.  

>Two providers are in the same field. So, a she-monger with a different career sounds a little too potentially fascinating to let my SO play with. I'd feel this way if an SO and I were two accountants, lawyers, whatever. Any hobbyist career can be interesting, but more so if it's a woman who succeeded in a male-dominant path. No matter what my girl told me, I'd be picturing her and Kathryn Bigelow having a steamy time and feel all too threatened. Lol

And yes, we were both active in the lifestyle and on these boards.  

And, for that and many other reasons, we are no longer together.  

At first it seems reasonable, for a lot of reasons, even though restriction isn't really a part of my ideal relationship. I had a handful of female clients at the time, and while they were all cool with it once I explained the situation... it did take a bit of a toll on my financial situation. My girlfriend and I tempered that by doing duos together, which was a fine idea, save for the fact that it was mostly my men that opted for the upgrade. I don't hold that against her as I know she did her best.

However then, the rules started growing more broad. No couples (unless she was invited), no swing clubs (which were also a large percentage of my dates), and no strip clubs (wtf). Now, I have never had a presence here that suits itself to sitting in hotel rooms and taking appointments by the hour, and restricting the kind of dates I could go on was starting to hurt my bottom line - and the lifestyle that she enjoyed with me. I felt like she was jealous over my success in that arena as well... and that ultimately killed it.  

Jealousy is so strangling, for both parties... I don't know why a person would let themselves get sucked into it. Yeah, it hits from time to time, but when it hits me I just realize that it really has nothing to do the other person, take a few breaths, handle it like a big girl, and move on. Maybe go get laid or get ice cream or something.

~Mme X~

I have a serious boyfriend, and we have a long term girlfriend. They both support me seeing hobbiests. That's what you do when you really love someone. Give and take. There isn't jealously with us just honesty. I know that's hard to come by.We aren't exactly the norm. But I love women and men equally. That's my two cents!

your handle or list your website in you posts?

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No website or reviews. I'm UTR and this is an anonymous account for discussion. The anonymity allows me to speak a lot more freely than if my income were tied to my posts. Should I come out of my UTR cocoon, I would cancel this account and start a work one with a website and ads to avoid conflicting with any rules.  

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Almost certainly she wants to be able to speak her mind without hurting her pocketbook.

Most guys only "claim" to want to know what the ladies here REALLY think, once they see the ugly truth, they "can't handle the truth" and the woman finds herself being unable to pay her rent over some silly shit said on an anonymous fuck board.

Look at how many guys have told Lisa they won't see her because of her comments here.

Did you ever hear of jealousy?  Playing with fire, dude.

Yes I know, the first one introduced me to the 2nd one. I thought it was fair game for play. The jealous one called my cellphone 3 times and threatened to cause trouble in front in my house.  I told her to come up because my family was waiting for her lol.  

Lessons learned I won't do that again.