Actually a lot of good could come from more people sharing that they see sex workers. There's nothing wrong with it. People keeping this secret as *if* there is some reason to hide is a good part of the reason why sex work has to be kept in the shadows. Fully functioning, regular people hire sex workers. So what?.
Not suggesting you announce it to your employer. Obviously, common sense is called for. But, it's_just_sex....lol...
Nothing good can come from introducing a friend to this world, especially a married friend, as then I join the hooker in being a homewrecker.
I don't care one little bit if someone finds out about my participation in our world, I have nothing to lose, no wife, no kids. I'd like to maintain the professional respect that I've worked my entire career to cultivate, but even should my employer find out, as long as I'm not shouting it from the rooftops and drawing unnecessary attention to myself or the Co. I am quite sure they wouldn't care.
But to introduce someone or suggest this life to someone, no I can't see an upside to that. That is a lose/lose on so many levels.
I am quite sure that I don't hide in the shadows, I'm fairly active posting in here and I have attended and will attend more M&G's. Sure M&G's are a select group, but these are the people who share my appreciation of this life.
Maybe he thinks it will be a one off date thing, but as soon as he pops he won't be able to stop.
Might as well introduce him to P411, datecheck, and/or RS2K and then help him find a newbie friendly provider with good reviews. Or perhaps find a newbie friendly agency willing to take a chance on him. Regardless, with no references he will likely need to provide work info to get verified with providers or agencies.
This is likely the safest way to avoid LE or scams.
A much less endorsed option is to troll strip clubs to find a stripper willing to go home for the night. However, this may end costing more with the combined costs of cover charge, drink minimums, and multiple private dances (you'll need private time to negotiate and it's likely that you won't succeed on the first negotiation) on top of the donation for companionship.
Maybe this only works if you have a provider/friend you know well. You can make an introduction with a personal recommendation, but it's not your job to verify the guy. The provider will still need to screen in whatever way makes her comfortable.
Beyond that he's on his own---like everyone else. But he's a big boy
Posted By: TwoMints
I got asked by a friend to help get him a one off date. All I can verify about the guy is that he isn't LE.
What would you do? My feeling is that he's on his own but I don't want him to get himself in trouble with LE or get scammed.
If we both had the same taste in women it would be easy - I'd give him the name of a reputable lady that I have already seen and had a great time with and wish him luck. Once I give him a name he's on his own. Giving him a great starting point and sending him in the right direction would be my help
Sharing advice that newbies without references and an established reputation like your friend should know, then why not? Especially if you trust him. But verifying that your friend isn't LE doesn't even begin to constitute proper screening. Even though LE is a factor, there are so many other possible risks to providers' emotional and physical safety besides LE.
I've heard about dudes "lending" their hobby personas and accompanying references, etc to their buddies in an attempt to cheat providers' screening methods. I'm sure that isn't being suggested. But yeah, I don't see the harm in suggesting a reputable provider you "know of" and sharing some useful newbie tips.
Do not share with him your TER handle, unless you trust the guy like a brother. (Not the evil twin kind of brother, however, the nice "always has your back" brother.
Maybe I am not the most sympathetic to your friends cause here, but no way would I do what you are suggesting. All the up side is to your buddy, and none for you. I've done more solids then I can count for various friends through my life. Can't say I was ever looking at the time I did them for any kind of a good deed badge, but time and time again, I have been surprised how short those pal's memories got after the fact. And as far as telling a buddy of mine the contact info for a local lady who I have found that does things the way I like so that if I were to recommend someone, she would be it? That's nuts. You would only have yourself to blame the next time you tried to set up a date with her and she was too busy.
Posted By: TwoMints
I got asked by a friend to help get him a one off date. All I can verify about the guy is that he isn't LE.
What would you do? My feeling is that he's on his own but I don't want him to get himself in trouble with LE or get scammed.
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