So I got a question for the hobbyists. I understand the hobby's all about variety, but then again, there's always that lady that you like returning to for whatever reason, right?  So here's the question: During your first visit with a girl you've returned to several times after, at what point (what about her did you in/ what did she do or say) were you sure you wanted to come back for seconds?  I'm curious...

at which point the light bulb goes off.. Its all about how I feel about spending time with that person.

I'm not a very active hobbyist, having only seen 14 different providers over the past 10 years and only repeated with 4, so my input may not be helpful.  Out of the four there was only one that I knew during the session I definitely wanted to see again.  It was the combination of her looks, her energy level and the feeling I had that she really liked fucking me.   Of course, I know that the feeling is likely an illusion, especially since she retired not long after she saw me.  For the one provider I've seen more than twice, that feeling/illusion was present again.  And I'll see her again.  But I have to let my slush fund grow and there are one or two more local gals I haven't seen yet but want to.  But even with her I didn't decide to repeat until months after the first session when I came across her site, her pictures and thought, "Hey, I'd like to be in bed with her again."

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he variation in sexual performance from the low end to the high end is pretty big.  But the variation from the "middle" to near the high end is really pretty small.  So it is all the little things that make the difference.  Dressing well, setting the mood, being in tune with what the client wants, etc....  Basically getting inside the client's head makes the difference between a nice time and a great time.  All that simply sets up the possibility of the hobbyist connecting with the provider.  If there is a real connection (chemistry?) then there is likely to be a desire to repeat.

So good an answer, it boggles my mind with more questions. But that's another story....Thanks!

I usually know by the time the 1st session is over if I want to repeat or not. Many factors such as rate, services, location, etc. that all need to be considered though.

Your question is a nice break from...

No matter how well it seems to be going, there still must be a strong finish.  If she rocks my world, I'll be back.....until she doesn't.  What works for me is irrelevant because no two mongers are alike.

I totally agree, JB. For me, on the first date, if she takes the time to read me and tailor our session for that, which allows a more realistic session than something rehearsed, I'll come back.

Could not say that in the beginning.

After the appointment I reflect on the lady, her personality, the sex and the ease of setting up with her.  I've been a serial repeater for many years.  Some girls I see a few times and eventually get tired of them and others I see until they retire.  I've been seeing my ATF for seven years.  

There is no one thing that she can say or do that will hook me long term.  It's the over-all feeling I get about the experience.

Kind of like sybil...I always make sure each time is different
Cause even I get bored Ha ha....

I've seen a few clients where the first date is a little awkward, and I think 'Oh no! He didn't like me.' Then, they call again, and sometimes have become regulars.  
 
Some guys go goo-goo-gaa-gaa, cum 3 times in an hour, and basically ask to get married on the first date. Want me to see pics of their kids and meet their dog, etc. Then I never hear from them again.

of discussion on a discussion board???

What a novel idea. lol

As for the OP, I have to agree with Curly on that as well. There is rarely any one defining moment, and sometimes I don't even make the decsision until days or even weeks afterwards. Other times I know the moment I walk in the door that "I am going to have to see this lady again and again" Of course the last time that happened, I ended up in a "real" relationship with her that lasted for months.

...when we "click".  

Some gals I find that I have an instant chemistry with, and know I'll be back.

Other gals put in such great effort to impress me that I can't resist coming back.

Then there are combinations of the two, or other factors about their personality that I really like.  In some cases I'm not convinced during the session to come back, but after several days or weeks I find myself missing them.

I can tell you this much:  It's never just based on good looks.

and ground balls, when you finally get a HIT...You know the feeling.. Can we build on this HIT and put some score on the board..? Only time can tell...

....Nothing really....

I guess if you are talking about the Nats, the answer is NO!!!

Gonzalez vs Lee is as big a pitchers duel as it can get. [e]

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sound like the quintessential dream client who 'gets it'. Perhaps you should be Master of TER and teach some of the knuckleheads on here how it's done lol.

it's also why as a guy who bets on high scoring games, I left this one completely alone.

Sure hope so as Zen's way of playing is his way...and that may or may not work for many others.

Kyle Kenderick vs Zimmermann tomorrow.  

Was young, hot and a good actress. I will always know by the end of the date if I will repeat.

you could have a civil conversation with an apparent gentleman such as this, not the other fucktards on this board who think they're too cool for school, when really they're a bunch of childish morons spewing trash as usual and hate being called out on it. Tough. The funny thing is, you couldn't PAY me to mind individuals such as those few on here any time, any place, any level, any planet. It is quite funny and I laugh every time lil do they know. They consume less than 1% of real TER members like Zen who really are the majority who just don't typically speak out and understand what this business is really all about...thank god.

If you really believe that...then you haven't paid any real attention as to how inet boards work.

it out of proportion like everyone does on here. That's ridiculous. It's a general statement that the same people post the same shit over and over and that 'most' who don't post 'don't' have the same thought processes as those who do post. I'm talking like 5 guys here total possibly less. Naive? No. Just don't believe in the same crap in this industry as most. And don't care what those select few do think. Period. Who would in all honesty? They're a joke in my book. And the pm's I receive from those who don't post are enough answer for me to be able to state what I state in fact, not just heresay.  

hate being called anything just as much as I don't care one word that I ridiculously read on my screen when they do post. It's friggin hilarious to me that's what you fail to realize.  

If the girl does something that I see that others don't do or do it without enthusiasm. E.g. CBJCIM all the way or BBBJCIM.

CPA - you do know there is likely some type of normal distribution at work... with a center and a tail of "asshats" at one end and "gentlemen" at the other. Maybe we define the extremes!  

of course, looks, rate, convenience (parking available, incall at the early afternoon time i need, easy drive) are important.  plus is she amenable to my role play requests, all are important.

Looks and rates (and reviews, unless TOFTT) is what make me someone in the first place. Performance will make me happy during the date, but attitude and personality will bring me back. The so called "chemistry" or "clicking" is important. As for "when" I know, usually at some point during the first date, I already know I want to repeat, but a decision isn't made until the end of the date.

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wtf! I do enjoy the total experience but I'm not paying for watching TV & hanging out. If she wants to do that OTC ok but I expect sex in a session. If she wasn't in the mood she shouldn't have booked.  

It is probably easier to answer the opposite question.  Deciding you will not repeat can often happen in the first few minutes.  As others have said, the decision TO repeat may take days and often for reasons/factors we can't always clearly define.

Good answer, lol