There are a lot of guys here who believe a GFE is the beginning of finding a real GF, these guys set themselves up for a fall and I can imagine they are crushed to find out that the woman who just rocked their world was only performing a service, but doing it really, really well.

You meet a provider and hit it off.  I mean, it's one of the best fucking appointments of your life!

If someone else has the same experience, no surprise.  That shows the girl is consistent.

We are talking about your ATF.

If the guy had the exact same experience, I'd get the notion that the provider was playing by the numbers. As it is, many reviews sound the same: kiss, she gives BJ, he does DATY, they do mish, CG, whatever, she does another BJ, he cums, showers and leaves.

If you just be sure to give every person your A game, most will greatly appreciate it and allow themselves (on some level, at least) the fantasy of thinking they are a big deal with you.

I do that and yet I know in my heart of hearts that it is really a fantasy, but I don't let it get to me.

As the good book says:  Render unto Caesar that which is Caesar's.

The ones that get all caught up and can't tell fact from fiction are the ones that have problems, and quite frankly, you should be glad if that type stays away from you because that's where the drama comes from

which I don't have (I have a current favorite), and the other guy's review was a blow by blow (pun intended) description of my sessions with her then I am going to assume that the little green eyed monster is going to rear its' ugly head.. but just for a moment.. then I am going to slap myself up alongside the head and remind myself "self!, she's a hooker!, this is what she does for a living so unless you want to support her, get over it!"

and still do your job to the upmost,

All you have to do is stop taking his money. That's all the proof I have ever needed. The last active provider I dated used to get great reviews, and quite frankly she would do even MORE with them than with me. but her job was all an act. I got the real thing. and like every woman here at least already knows the real thing can be very different than the fantasy.

To make a long story short, every time the green eyed monster would rear it's ugly head I would remind myself that she came home every night to me of her own free will and that she wasn't with me for the money because I didn't give her any. Well no more than any other BF/GF situation.

Maybe this is the answer you are looking for???

and yes I am sure Turdy believes that every woman he is with thinks he's "special" ah the arrogance (and foolishness) of youth.

You guys are too damn professional about all this!  Where's Rod Tidwell?  Maybe I should've just PMed him lo

If she went to Greece with him and O'd 4 times...all bareback.

I'm a woman lover, a mangina, completely pussy-whipped.  I love women in general and try for some connection with the lady past the physical in every session.  When we're going at it and something happens and she starts laughing (e.g., d**k accidentally comes out) but then apologizes for laughing, I gently tell her that laughter is a sign of a great, relaxed session and laugh with her.   I try to get through the professional persona and make a connection to a person at the other end of my dick.   I am glad that's how I am, won't apologize for it or take any shit about it, so don't start.

yes it would get me thinking that "oh, it was just another session for her so maybe there's no real chemistry going on" and then I'd try to come back to reality.  

That is an interesting perspective.

That the guy would think I was just doing my job on an assembly line.  

I'm sure you've been in relationships before and deal with more people than most guys here, do you really need to be asking us this? LOL  

If you want him to feel better, go Greek bareback to let him know he's special. Unless of course, that's your specialty, then use a condom, he'll think you actually care for him.

Offering bbfs doesn't translate to genuine feelings and connections. I would think she's probably doing that with many other clients too and it would make me feel concerned about her safety.  

If your reviews are just a bunch of acronyms, then its one thing to have same exact experience, but if they are detailed dissertations, like BCG (Tobi T) calls them, then its almost impossible for someone else to steal your thunder.

So basically, the only way to prove to this client that he is special is to not charge him, give him OTC time, or bareback Greek.  Lol.  

That I agree. I sometimes write them long to make up for my 1/2 inch dick.

Very hard to steal from a detailed dissertation. It's impossible for two independent sessions to be written exactly like the other the more detailed it is written.

I'll be happy to see that another hobbyist wrote a similar experience, this way I have some assurance that she's consistent and I'll know that I'd like to repeat with her. I'm not in this to find a mate (although I think a provider would be the ideal mate if I were). But what I do want is consistently good service. My ATF was exactly what you described, the same reviews as I had experienced. and if she hadn't retired I'd still be seeing her. I for one don't have any delusions about what exactly this is, and I find it to be perfect.

So, concerts are my thing.. I love love love them!! Travel far and wide...

If you're talking about "special", and not just doing special sexual things...

and I haven't gotten down to the bottom of this thread yet, but it sounds like you're getting the same answers, so that should be telltale.

then she has made me feel like it was genuine for the 2-3 hour fantasy and this makes me happy. It would be way too emotionally draining for a lady to really feel this way genuinely connected to that many guys, I think anyway.

We all seem to get the fact that this is a business, but she doesn't

Please don't tell me that this is a "I've fallen for a hobbyist and I can't get up" post from a hooker who wants "true love" and still wants to get paid as well

If you're trying to make the client feel more special while continuing to take his money, you can write some thoughtful cards, give him a small gift after seeing him for a session.  Also, you can swallow his load after the session if you don't normally do that for clients. Then tell him not to write it in a review.  

... how another client really FEELS about you - nor how you feel about him.  Thus if I read a review that is very similar to the experience I had, it doesn't bother me in the slightest.  As others have said, consistently excellent performance by a provider is a GOOD thing.

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Because if it ever does I will have lost perspective and I hope whatever remaining shred of sanity I have will be enough to convince me to take a long break from this, or perhaps a permanent one.  But so far fair seas and smooth sailing.

Hahaha if length and detail are the issue, then you will never run into this problem.  

Posted By: CurlyW - Nats Fan

If your reviews are just a bunch of acronyms, then its one thing to have same exact experience, but if they are detailed dissertations, like BCG (Tobi T) calls them, then its almost impossible for someone else to steal your thunder.

and he reported she made a statement Of appreciation for his efforts...  the same exclamation that she said to me several years prior.  A little creepy, yes, since I still see her sometimes but then I decoded it was just her expression to use as she saw fit & I'm fine with it.  
If the details are too similar...  I wonder if the reviewer copied a previous review!  An over view would probably sound the same anyway.

Without knowing what the OP provides, I was suggesting she provide more to the hobbyist than the others, so he would "know" she felt special toward him. Of course, in this business, it's hard to tell what's the truth and what's bullshit.

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or more importantly, you keep telling him that. He might believe you, but I don't. You might think he is a bit more special than your average client, but no mistake here, he is still your client.

and no, I don't blame you in the least if the guy is married, but don't lie to us, and don't lie to yourself. when the feelings are REAL the money won't mean shit to you.As long as you still want him to pay, your feelings will always be suspect to any guy with half a brain.

...your interaction during the session is how it's special to those you want it to be special with. He (special guy) shouldn't take the same sounding session as exactly the same experience as his. Unless he has said something to you I think you may be overthinking this.

only so many ways to have sex or for a session to evolve.

Our point, which you seem to miss, is that if you were genuinely "crazy hot" for this guy, it would be easy to prove. Simply stop taking his money and that would remove all doubt.

What you have is at most "chemistry" you and him "click" which is fine,, why do you want to be the one complicating this? Guys come on here all the time misreading the signals you ladies send out and 99% of the time, it's them reading more into a GFE than is really there. Why do you want to give false hope to a thousand manginas who have "fallen for a hooker and can't get up"???

Lie to us all you want, what's really ironic is that you appear to be lying to yourself.

I've seen you brag on many an occasion that your dick is a full inch long, Now I see you finally admit your dick is "average asian size" at only 1/2 an inch.

Now our secret of why we have "big brains" is out forever. rofl

She clearly stated that she wants to show him that the epic session she had with him was a genuine and mutual one.  

As long as I'm paying the girl, I'd think that she can say whatever she wants to get me to continue to pay her. It doesn't matter if she's giving me MORE service with an expanded menu.  The only way it's genuine is if she's doing it without me having to pay her for it. I won't be convinced otherwise.  If money is involved, it's just a sugar daddy or a close provider/client relationship.

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A provider can absolutely feel a crazy connection to a client, while insisting he pays her.  Why would I want to change the dynamics and have him not pay me?  Then it would be a married guy having an affair with me.  That is not what either of us want.

I am not unsympathetic to the challenges that come with falling for someone who is married, but that's why most providers have boundaries.

Good luck

there is one lady i have seen many times, my ATF, and honestly I would be very upset and hurt if I read a review of her that was just like our times together. Call me a hopeless romantic, but I feel like we have a special connection. Never intended to, but who can predict these things? So yes, I agree with you

That I met a client and we are crazy hot for eachother.  Then another guy wrote a review of a session which reads exactly like my time with the client I am crazy about.

From what you tell us, it seems he doesn't need to know that your feelings are genuine or special for him.  

I see this as fantasy land and I don't read anything more into it.  If my review is the same so be it.  If I receive more communications other than the usual thank you note then I'd feel special but just that special and noting more.  At the end of the day just be honest with him includeing you don't want the p4p arrangement to stop..  All the misunderstanding in the world could be solved with honest feedback.  Maybe I'm a tool but that's how I feel.  A women would have to come out point blank and say I want to date you or I'd like to be your friend before I'd think our relationship is anything other than p4p.

Did he bring it up? If not and you are not prepared for him to run like Bolt then maybe keep it quiet. As for me I have one lady that I pull out all the stops for. I don't have much and she knows it but for our time together I make her the whole world. Then I go home and try not to get caught smiling. It can not go further. Until you see the decree and some movement from him just play it coo land don't get too invested in him.

Glad that you sorted through your emotions and came to face the reality.

I mean, I treat all ladies with the same respect and level of performance, so I'd expect the "pros" to be every bit as consistent as me! ;o)

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If I would feel disappointed or catch myself thinking about “connection” with a provider, I would back out right away and try to stop seeing this girl completely.  I am all or nothing kinda  guy so that probably would not end well for me.  Come to think of it, I am dealing with this situation on and off for the last few months, not fun.

Florida, if I may, after briefly scanning posts here on your thread, here's a few of my thoughts on this topic....

Good luck.

Florida: