Just ask her.

There is no union that sets customary rules around here.

If any of my old friends has a concern about anything in our relationship, they will communicate with me. Likewise, if they would like to try a new toy or position, they will communicate. Communication is key!

With that said, a friend of mine experienced the same dilemma you describe in your post. His solution was to communicate with me. He just said he wanted to make sure he brought the appropriate donation for an ON. I factored in his grandfathered rate and told him what to bring. It was quite simple.

Just communicate with her. She will appreciate your willingness to be open with her.

Good luck!

Xoxo, Giamarie

This is a good question.  I have one Fav who had a rate increase.  I noticed the increase & asked.  She was kind enough to grandfather me.  As you knnow, there is no set rules whether a lady chooses to grandfather or not.  

My impression is that the bit about never discussing rates...  applies mainly to first dates so as to avoid soliciting charges from LE.  Still we all flirt with the illusion.  

Once we know each other, there should not be that concern.  With a change in service catagory, one would have to ask briefly.  "I was thinking about an ON.  What would the  donation be?"  No haggle, just accept what she says.  
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With this economy I have been seeing rates drop drasticly myself included.

So when I see this question I have to giggle. If her rates were to lower would you still pay her the previous rates you were accustom to?

Just curious?

Whats a little talk between friends. Would it not be better to ask than have her feel disapointed in the end. Hard feelings can make even the best friend not so good.

Check to see if she has an overnight rate on her website and if so are you comfortable with it. If so you have now made a good choice and no need to ask.

Kisses Haley

Everyone,

Thanks for your insight.