I've been seeing this awesome lady regularly for about 3 months and her 1 hr sessions with me have been going on for about 2+hrs or more. Her sessions are out of this world. She does not have a care about time and I don't want to take advantage of her. We usually start out by getting undressed and then talking, stroking and caressing each other for a long time.  My main brain and little willy have been conditioned by other ladies to getting in and out within the hour or 50mins. While we are talking I sometimes ask if she's ready and she apologizes for talking alot and she continue to talk some more. I really enjoy her company and she tells me she looks forward to seeing me again, but I'm on a budget and can afford to pay for a multiple rate session. What should I do??

. . . you paid for 2 or more hours when you booked for just one?

Just pay for one hour at the start of the session; you don't need to pay more other than a tip if it runs overtime out of her initiative. Next time when you book make a point to tell her that the appointment is for one hour.

EDIT: By the way, if you enjoying chatting with her, chat at the end of the session.


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I'm sure she's well-aware of going overtime.  She's obviously not booked after you either by circumstance or design.  Maybe she's into you or maybe she's lonely and wants someone to talk with.  Either way, as long as you're clear about booking for an hour don't feel like you're taking advantage.

...advice on this unless he's left something important out.  Hopefully, he'll have enough sense to take your advice.


(edited for spelling)

-- Modified on 6/9/2006 7:24:31 AM

Seriously though, I realize that finances make it tough to make her whole for her time, but you should do something to acknowlege the extra time she is giving you.

I suggest you invest a bit in a gift, something small but meaningful, undies that you think she may like, or a bottle of wine, anything - so she knows that you care and acknowlege her.

I agree with the other posters -- make sure you do something for her to show appreciation.  You might want to also say a little something around the one-hour mark, like, "Do I need to let you go take care of something else?", just to give her an opportunity to tell you either, "Yes, please, my next client will be here in 45 minutes, and I'd love to shower" or "No, honey, we're having a good time like this, lie back and relax while I....".

If she continues to let you book extended sessions, then she's obviously OK with it.  Let her know you're appreciative of that fact, but otherwise just make sure that you keep having a good time, and it probably wouldn't hurt to make sure she does, too.

You must know something about her and her interest. Give her a very personalized gift that shows you listen and are attentive. (This advice goes out to all men dealing with any woman, provider or not).

I had a guy give me a book pertaining to black women in my career field. It was one of the sweetest gifts.
Of course you could just always tip her a from now on. That shows your appreciation as well.

She may have some special feelings for you?  She is human, you know.  It happens!  My Number one ATF went off on a paid trip with a guy, came home, packed up and moved to his city.  Last I heard, he had divorced his wife and married her and they were very happy!  Lucky Guy!

I agree with the advice of the others.

There is a particular provider I see regularly who is with an agency. On a few occassions, although it was late afternoon, I was the only person she had seen that day even though she had been there at the hotel since noon or a little earlier.

In those instances, she was very talkative and didn't seem worried about the clock. Once we finished, we just laid next to each other and continued to talk for some time.

I was more concerned about the clock than she was.

Though you may not know why this is happening, enjoy the time!

Walk the elephant and try to get the rhino to hit into a double play. LOL

I'm trying to figure out what is the problem here. Guilt? Afraid she'll present you with a bill for 500 unpaid hours at year end? Sounds to me like you have a sweetheart deal. Just keep doing what you're doing.

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