I posted this on the Newbie board, but thought I'd seek wisdom here, too:
 So how does a hobbiest maximize discretion, minimize getting busted by LE and SO? 1.) dedicated cell phone? 2.) source of funds separate from your business and any account your SO may audit? 3.) screen voice mail and use caller ID to the max?
 Any and all tips on the above-- and other areas-- greatly appreciated.

Better wear those cute undies all the time, and get used to shaving below all the time. Scrutinize your behavior, if you alter it, and switch it back SO will know. Make new variations hard core habits, or don't sway from your usual routines. Trust me, I rarely scope out a guy's shoes, but if you come home in different shoes than the ones you normally wear, the SO knows.

Squeeze the Charmin first thing. Never talk about money. Give it after, sealed envelope.

1. Buy a wireless laptop for checking sites, sending and receiving email, you should be able to keep at a storage location that you rent, find one that allows you to pay cash.  Do not keep it in your car(s) or at home.
2. Stay with well reviewed ladies, avoid the urge to try someone who looks great but do not have reviews from an independent source.  Check the directory of reviews of the guys who have reviewed her, although you do not have to check the actual contents of their reviews that are about someone other than the lady that you are interested in.
3. The phone one is tough.  Good, safe providers are typically good verifiers.  You may have to give up more than you will like to for this one, but you can set up some guideline on conversation that will happen when you are contacted and how long the conversation will be - this is where email becomes important in helping you set contact expectations with a provider.
4. The money is also a tough one.  If your SO knows how much you earn then she will probaly know what the inflow should be into checking and savings accounts.  You may want to set up a "christmas" fund then discreetly move the funds into an account that only you know about, this will take time but will allow yoy to avoid being outed by your SO.
5. Do not dramatically change your living routine, large changes are red signals that people who know you will easily pick up on.  Glad that I am single for this one, only I know what I am doing with my private time.

-- Modified on 3/25/2004 3:51:52 PM

Reucks discretely in a row...

Both netmichelle and stilltryin25 gave some very good advice.
So I say take their advice and lets hope those ducks do not have
A QUACK UP!!