I would be curious to know the number here. Or do most American wives lose interest completely after marriage.

Shallow asshole that I am, once she put on a couple of pounds I lost all desire to DATY with her. My interest in having sex with her disappeared shortly thereafter.

I never cheated on my wife, but realized that a sexless marriage wasn't worth staying in, and did the honorable thing and gave her all my money in return for my freedom. Ok, I didn't willingly give her all my shit, but that's the way it worked out, and in hindsight it was a bargain. lol

She loves me pleasuring her but repays the favor almost in a "I'm doing you a favor" sort of way.  When we got married she loved giving head and was awesome at it.  Now zero attention to the boys, almost like they grew toxic, just a bob up and down the same way with no variations.  I know there is no such thing as a bad blow job but the exact same one for years gets kinda boring, I have actually gone soft in the middle of one.  The sex went from wild to "I'll just lay here and you do all the work".  And it all went from every day to some day.

She has absolutely no interest, she's too self conscious about it to enjoy it. So that leaves me 10+ years out of practice.

and if we were having sex with our wives we would not be here that is for sure.

....if she lets me, it's more to please me.  In my mind, that's not what it's supposed to be about.  I'm not one of these guys that loves slurping body fluids just for the fun of it.  The fun for me is getting a woman off this way.  If that's not gonna happen, I'd rather just get on with the event.

The interesting thing to me is the difference with providers on this subject.  I feel like some of them truly love sex and DATY and pretty much tell you what to do to get them off.  Others seem to offer it up as if it  was an expectation (and in fact it is a factor in their TER ratings).  Then there are the ones exactly like my wife that seem to just want the dick and lots of it.

She always had 2 O's,one with me DATY and one with intercourse.
I wish it had been 2 O's for me also,1 BJ and 1 intercourse.(my O was with intercourse).
BJ's were few and far between,she wasn't very good at it!

lol your post could be the charter for a club I would be a member of...

Sadly I think this impacts my hobbying - I enjoy a good bbbj so much that in find in some cases I could forgo the main event because I get lost in it, or atleast the first cup will be from bbbj.


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It is the only way I can almost always get her to cum and it is part of almost every sexual encounter we have.

But DATY is one of my favorites! It's a must when I see a lady, and the only excuse I'll allow is if Aunt Flo comes to town. And even then, it's their call cuz I'll STILL go down there!