Just want to hear feedback about this situation. I kind of know what the clients will say, but I’m interested in knowing what providers think.  

I like to address it in the way like this. If I see the change like you did, I would reach out to her and approach it with a message basically saying “ I don’t want to cause any embarrassment between you and I, but I see that you changed the donation from $350 now to $400. I just want to make sure that we are still honoring the $350 rate. Otherwise, I’m going to have to make a last minute change as well by canceling”. Usually, you’ll find that they will still honor the rate that was discussed. Better to have the $350 then to have a big fat zero.  Actually, I’ve ONLY had that happen once and I never had to use the cancellation part of that message. They’ve usually been understanding and if they weren’t, I don’t think that’s the type of provider you want to hang with for an hour anyway. I’m guessing a bait and switch move as far as the services that they offered on their site might be a potential issue as well.  

The rule is that the rate at the time of booking applies.  I would put $350 in an envelope and keep $50-100 in my pocket for a potential tip.  I would definitely NOT do what is suggested above.  That would make you come across as CHEAP, annoying, and as someone that the lady is likely to want to get in and out as quickly as possible assuming that she did still take the appointment.  

I don't want to ask about it. I agree. Im fine paying the new fee. Just curious if handled differently is it a problem.

Why cause a potential ruckus over $50?

I kind of agree here ($50 to avoid the drama is not much -- but turning around and walking away is not that hard either) but honestly the chances I would have gone back and checked for any rate changes is next to zero.  

Why are you always under an alias?  

Hey I know we had a deal to buy my car at $10,000 but now I want $11,000. And you’re that big of a cunt that you won’t want to cause a “ruckus”? Also who uses the word “ruckus” any more Mark Twain???

If you have a confirmed booking at $350, you pay $350.   That's it.  

Is this the first time meeting you and you call an audible? If that’s the case, then I stick to my original post... FOR SURE!

I would just show up as promised, expecting to pay the amount agreed on.  I ALWAYS carry extra money on me anyhow and if I were so inclined AFTER the session I would leave a tip based on what "I" wanted to, not because of any guilt about honoring a deal already made. Personally, unless she brought it up I wouldn't even mention it until maybe as I was walking out the door AFTER the session.  

She always emails me when she comes to my town.  She invited me as usual and never mentioned the increase, I only knew about the increase because I follow her twitter.  

I often seen various rates for a provider depending on what site she's posted ads -- some ads are older, maybe she had a special, etc.  I just say where I saw the rate and stick with it.

Of course he is THAT big a cunt, if you doubt me just read some of his other posts on just about any other subject. lol

I think he should try a new alias. How about "Bobby the Bitch" instead of Respectful Robert?

Whatever Kurt.

Like him or hate him, Snake has been using the same handle for 11 years and just because he doesn't write reviews doesn't make his "real" handle any less real than yours. OR are you going to argue that only a handle with reviews is "real" in which case I suppose I am posting from an alias too.

First of all, GaGa you are so right in many ways and thank you for pointing out that I have used my “handle” for many years and I’ve never set up an alias for my “handle”. Why because I’m not a coward and a paranoid fuck. Yes technically, you could call a “handle” an alias but that’s not the case here and the way TER has it set up. Handles date back to nicknames via truckers, military pilots, social media etc. They are usually nicknames that fits your personality or characterize a simple flaw that you may have and is usually been given to you. Me I was obsessed with Snake Pliskken from Escape from New York so that’s how I received my call sign, hence “handle”.  Now an alias is usually used as in trying to hide you identity for malice reasons such as hiding from the law, hiding your identity or for maybe posting pussy things that you have a true reason to hide from your “handle”. All in all, how cowardly and paranoid are you that you need a alias on top of a privacy protected “handle” on TER?  Let me guess....  You need a condom on top of the condom you just put on just so you can feel safe, warm and secure.  

on what?

I'm suggesting the whole TER alias is used by cowards and TER handles never are is total BS.

As much as it pains me to agree, I agree --- this is more or less spot on with what I said below, which got Snake's panties in a bunch.

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Agree.  This is just some of the stupidest shit that I have seen in a while.  Also, worth noting that I have been using this Alias for almost 13 years (since 2008).  Snake comes across as a CDL or GaGa wannabe.  Difference is that CDL and GaGa generally make points that are at least somewhat logical.  Rather than trying to give advice on the big boy board Snake should be moderated and only allowed to ask questions on the Newbie board.  I would hate to see someone actually listen to his advice.

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But I have had enough of those cowardly cunts stalking me over the years, trying to do "real world" harm to me, but all the while not even having the courage to use their "real fake name" in the process.  

First  you say her "donation page" 'which to me would mean my website ... which should always be accurate.  As noted here often scraped off ads are used as content by unscrupulous sites with rates that become inaccurate over time.  We have no control over them at all and it muddies the waters.  I always ask if a Prospect has visited my site and reviewed my rates if not I direct him there. Should I raise the fee before he visits I am applying the rate at the time we scheduled unless of course  he vascillated on confirming a date then it's on him.  I have had some who seem to have thought successfully completing screening was an infinitely open ended confirmation....not so.
I would never feel slighted if asked the question "may I confirm the rates for our visit" and if a negative response was forthcoming then you should look at that as a bad sign and move on.  

Last I checked, everyone on this thread had the same advise other then Jensen who uses his “handle” (respect) and you that has to use the cowardly alias. So really who’s advise they going to follow? The real men out here that would stick to the deal and hold their ground or the cowardly caving boys that would give in to the hooker that calls a last minute audible and then moves the goal post anywhere she chooses (That’s sports analogies so you may not understand. I would use more analogies that you would understand, but I really don’t know any in the knitting world). “Oh, here’s your $50, I don’t want to cause a “ruckus”. Pussy, grow some balls and stick to the original deal or move on. So you might want to man up, use a real handle and re-evaluate who belongs on the big boys board and who should be on the little cowardly boys board. The proof is right here in this thread little boy.  

You make no sense.  I believe that you are the one who called an audible (see your post above).  Sounds like you are calling me a real man and aligning what you would do to what I suggested given that I am the first one to respond to the post saying that the rate at the time of booking applies.  As GaGa would say, you really are a dumb fuck.

Let me repeat what I said to Jensen, not ALL alias posters are cowards, but many, actually most of my stalkers over the years on these boards have hidden behind an alias on top of their "real" fake name.

Is 100% true.  
Secondly, he wasn’t the first poster on this thread. Yes trivial but factual. Just look who posted first.  
I will admit that my response, yours and somewhat Voice’s were all around the same thing said but just differently spoken, if that makes sense. But what made me snap was the CHEAP comment that he made as I am far from CHEAP I took that as a dig. I don’t spend less than $500 hour and been know to go as high as 2K. Point is I so agree to disagree with some of the answers on this thread. Great job OP. You got the juices flowing on this one. I’m old school and once the hand shake has been made then our agreement holds true. Knowing that a lot a providers may not be that honorable, I just wouldn’t want to end up in that trick bag of “hey you owe me more money”. I would just want to verify before I take the time to go to her location and have the bomb dropped on me then. I agree this has gotten outta hand but hey it’s fun to fling some mud every once and awhile and get the blood flowing.  
Time to move on...
And yeah, GaGa we can all get along in the mud hole. Just have to know when to stop fling the mud. Lol
My .02
Snake 🐍

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That said, many if not most of those people who are friends now, I have had some serious "mudslinging" with before we became friends. Like you I don't hold a grudge, not even against cowardly little cunts like "Bobby the Bitch"  Well maybe there are a "few" exceptions to that rule. lol

That I'm a grandfather for the rest of my life too, as well as being grandfathered in with several ladies on the rates.  Where it STILL gets sticky is when they tell you that you're grandfathered in for life, and then five years later when they are on their third subsequent price increase, all of a sudden, you're NOT grandfathered in  for life anymore, and they want you to   "share" the increases they have had over the years.  They still give you a slight discount, but not the agreed grandfathered rate.   That's my cue to make a classy exit.  

Set up an afternoon date with a young lady on one of my trips to Vegas a couple years ago.
To start with she was 1 hour late, so not a great start.
Then when she finally arrives, we chatted a bit before she goes to bathroom.
She comes out and states I am $50 short on the donation.

I would’ve just canceled then and there. Ask for the money back and give her walking money. For one reason only...  The mood has just been ruined. To me the excitement and the thrill is gone. Like you said, “I’m now embarrassed” is exactly the way I would’ve felt and she should have continued the scenario (customer service 😂) and afterwards maybe “mentioned” the difference.  

The same thing happened to me in Phoenix last year, however it was a $100 discrepancy. A hundred is not a huge deal but It killed the vibe for me- which is a huge deal...and I declined, she left without any hesitation.  Its best if the provider/scheduler confirm the gift amount if they know there are different published rates out there.

If you did, $350 is OK. If not, paying $400 is the right thing to do.

...would the provider be happy w a donation change from YOU???...("gee $350...im on my way,but im only bringing $300...see you soon...")