"No upchages."
It hints of a negative/defensive personality . Likely session will be full of bad attitude. Even if reviews are good, I will pass. An ad needs to convey a friendly and welcoming positive image. Agree?
Seems to me you’re more focused on the marketing than actual user experiences.
The OP may be cutting off his nose to spite his face. I would never make a decision based on his methodology. That isn't nearly enough info to make an informed decision. If she is hot, her reviews are good and my other research pans out, her word choice in an ad is almost meaningless. Plus, a lot of guys may not even realize this, but some women don't even write their own ads.
Would be helpful if the sellers in this biz also cared a lot more about user experience than marketing.
And attempted to manipulate or ask for reviews less. Instead of worrying how they are perceived, a lot would be much better off making a better product/service... and quality of the product/service making people want to buy it.
But marketing is way more important to them too.
Not really a client problem when the sellers are jduged by their marketing. And yes, rules, "nos" and such are part of marketing. And it's natural when someone sees a hundred particular nos on a dating profile, they prolly swipe left.
Chances are someone with a lot of many specific nos enumerated has an even bigger list in reality. It is what it is.
Yeah and also seems like someone who doesn't respect boundaries. 🚩
It's almost like going on a civvie date, and all she talks about is her previous bad relationships. Leave your baggage at home, and keep it off your website.
Of course there are providers who can give great service despite negative content on their ad, but it's just one more hurdle for a client to jump over when making his purchasing decisions.
A lot of it is in the wording as well. "Sorry boys, I don't...." is far friendlier than "NO, NO, NO..." but conveys the same information.
So, the Provider should just do whatever the Hobbyist wants. Like Deep Throating (Even if Deep Throating make her throw-up)? Well if that's so then I won't be getting many clients, because Deep Throating makes me throw-up all over the clients.
her throw up, then she should know to keep a small waste basket within easy reach of where the action is taking place.
I agree but sometimes it depends on the context. I appreciate it when providers are clear about what they offer and what their limits and boundaries are. There are ways to communicate this in a respectful way. But if I get hints of a negative attitude and see an ad with a lot of "No this, No that, No..." all I can help to think is "No Fun." Any ad or social media profile that is filled with bad attitude, complaining and negative sentiments is an immediate no booking these days.
I agree but sometimes it depends on the context. I appreciate it when providers are clear about what they offer and what their limits and boundaries are. There are ways to communicate this in a respectful way. But if I get hints of a negative attitude and see an ad with a lot of "No this, No that, No..." all I can help to think is "No Fun." Any ad or social media profile that is filled with bad attitude, complaining and negative sentiments is an immediate no booking these days.
I've seen provider websites that have a long list of stern commands that seem to border on condescension or even disdain--they're written as if for particularly dense children given to pulling flies off wings. I can infer from this many things, all of which may be wrong, but if the list is long enough and the language strong enough, I might infer that this person is already on the defensive and I'll be walking on eggshells during my visit.
And of course some ladies say simply that certain things are not on the menu. I can see where a lady might take offense if men consistently disregard that and request those things. In that case, the language might become more strident.
Either way, I don't have a 1 or 0 rule about these things. Along with her reviews, I try as best I can to figure out what the lady is about. Just because certain things are on the no-fly list is unlikely to be the one deciding factor; unless of course it's "no DATY". 😁
if a provider publishes what the limitations of her menu. I'd rather know when I'm deciding whether to go or not rather when finding out after I arrive. With that said, if her limitations are more severe than the norm for the majority of providers out there, then she is a pass for me. There are certain activities I expect any provider I see to engage in, namely, DFK, BBBJ, DATY, and CFS, as these are the basics and easily obtainable from most providers. Anything additional I will consider a "bonus" and might break a tie between two ladies I'm deciding between, but these four menu items are non-negotiable for me. If they are not offered, it's a pass.
I've seen very few providers explicitly say they allow DFK, DATY etc.. This you get from the reviews and messaging reviewers.
Ironically the ones who do state they allow those things are the ones likely doing bait and switch...
if specific services are offered or they will probably ghost you because you sound like LE, and I doubt very many are this specific on their website, so how do you get the information? You just ask them if the menu shown in their TER profile is up to date. Never had anybody try to hedge on the menu after responding affirmatively to this question up front.
I do not have any of this info listed because most everything is YMMV with me and your hygiene. If you have black, rotten or missing teeth and/or obvious tarter and gingivitis I am not going to kiss you and your mouth is not going anywhere near my money maker. If your dick smells like limburger cheese it will be a NEE for a BJ. If you want to know what services a provider offers it really should be gleaned from reviews. I cannot warn guys enough that talking about anything sexual in a message along with $$ for said services can get you in hot water really fast. There are now some states in the US that have upgraded solicitation to a felony. I am not aware of any male that wants to deal with the ramifications of having a felony on their record just because they wanted to know if the BJ would be with rubber or not. Not worth it.
"money maker"... LOL
I do fully agree that tone is very important. I'm super good if a lady wants to clarify what is and what is not offered. But, how that information is conveyed is very important.
That said, most ladies prefer to cater to 'well groomed professional gentlemen'. But, in reality, attract all kinds of dirty, disrespectful assholes (I'm ashamed of how many women have to remind clients about basic hygiene). Therefore, I don't blame ladies for being a direct in their delivery.
well said!! absolutely. Who would have thought you'd have to remind people "don't smell like a foot if you want her smiling at your johnson." lol
I agree with everything you said. Only thing I would add is if the lady doesn't want to see a dirty, ungroomed guy, and who would, simply state, "in order for us to have the absolute best experience, please come freshly showered and groomed." I would never see a lady unshowered or ungroomed, but to read, "if you come dirty I will blacklist you" is a big turn off for me.
I appreciate anyone who can respectfully read the information provided prior to contacting.
"No upchages."
If they put that in the ad then likely there will be an upcharge. Reminds me of a shady life insurance salesman who put "Honest it the best policy" in his voicemail message...
I suppose you think the one's that put "GFE" in their ads are saying your session will be "Sorry honey, I have a headache now." LOL
Most providers I see don't advertise any services, i.e GFE, DFK, BBBJ etc.. This you get from reviews and messaging reviewers directly..
Being told upfront that she won't do A or B is a H*ll of a lot better than after you've handed her the envelope!