I scheduled an appointment with a provider a few weeks out, and got the dreaded NCNS the day before and day of the appointment.  She recently made contact with me giving a rather generic excuse (family problems) saying she'd still like to see me.  Is it unreasonable of me to ask for either a lower rate or extra time when we reschedule our date?  

Yes, it is unreasonable.

Honest,

You are starting to sound more and more like me with each passing day. lol

Ask her for a deposit. Otherwise I would not hold the time open. That's what they do if a customer NCNS's. If she shows she gets the deposit back.

Of course that's not an NCNS, I am just thinking of what the OP "might" have been talking about.

Honest I could find better way to make threAD, then the reply i post as its just a make sense reply.  

Allow me to clarify using plain english.  We had an appointment this past friday evening which was booked in advance 2 1/2 weeks ago.  I send a confirmation text on thursday to no reply.  I send another friday morning and still no reply.  She got back to me wednesday.  

In all situations, whether provider NCNS or hobbyist short notice cancellation, the offender needs to take the lead on making it right.

I'd need more info really. Was she a well reviewed provider? What was her family problem?(if she told you)  
The reason I ask is, if she had a death in the family,  it might have devasted her. A car accident involving a loved One? A teenager with issues? I can see where these things would cause her to just drop everything.  
Also,  does she have a good reputation? Good reviews etc? I'd be more inclined to believe her if so.
If none of the above.... move on! Next!  
Shit happens but either way,  if I had something so tragic happen in my family, i could see just dealing with it but I'd STILL offer something to make it up either way. I'm not sure I'd ask if she didn't offer but if she didn't, move on.  
I too also wonder how someone can NCNS the day before.  
XOXO  
TL

I don't know how many times I've read sob stories on this board by guys who have been NCNS'd several times in a row. Each time I read their whines I wonder, why in hell would you trust her a second or third time? Don't be that guy. Lots of other fish in the sea.

After a NCNS, you’re dead to me.

I have my own small business and I lose my customers when I don't show up without a call to cancel.
Last minute cancelation because of personal problems is ok. NCNS is totally uncool. Like TL said, if it was something devastating, then that's a different thing. Like her third uncle dying in the last three months.  
If she is someone that I know well and have never had this happen before. Then I might try to find out if something serious happened to her. Otherwise, it's a total lack of respect for her client.

I said to ask for a deposit.  Its because no provider would ever do it.  This lets him off the hook with no hard feelings because it puts the burden on whether to go through with the session back on her.  Its a reasonable request since SHE is the one that NCNS'd the customer.  If she says NO to the condition of a deposit, she can't very well blame the customer.

either additional time (high priority) or a reduced rate when apologizing to you for the NCNS. Sounds like you are bottom feeding.

I was NCNS's by a highly reviewed provider...  I would not risk another opportunity, not even if it was free.  My opportunities are hard to come by.   Had I known, the night before, I could have attemted to salvage my opportunity.  

If she didn't offer you something in lieu of her fuck up move along.
I've had to 86 a date now and then. But,  I way more than make up for it. I don't mean ncns and weeks later reach out et cetera. That's just bullshit drug use crapola.

Not exactly a NCNS, but I showed up at the time of our apt, which was late morning.  The provider had her own private incall and had slept there the night before, which she normally didn't do.  I called when I arrived and no answer.  Since it was raining, I went to the lobby of her building, which had a drink bar, so I got some lemon water and waited it out.  I got a call a few minutes later, she had thought our apt was an hour later and was out walking the dog.  She let me in and I watched TV while she got ready.  

Thanks for the straight up, pragmatic answer.  
I think I need you to flog me!

Thankfully, I've never had a NCNS happen,  yet. I have had a couple of the night before and a couple of the day of, cancellations.
But, it amazes me that some mongers are so thinking with their dick, to be ncns and behave like it's ok.

If she canceled the day before it’s not a no call no show. That’s a cancellation.  
Earlier this week I was in a car accident where my airbags deployed. I had an appointment that night. As I was sitting there frazzled I sent him a message telling him. On top of being shaken up by getting punched in the face by an airbag and having to deal with all the madness that goes along with car accidents, I am so afraid if I did show up bruised I would get ripped on a review about it.  I did contact him though. I think being stood up is one of the worst feelings.  If she actually stood you up rather than canceled the day before then you should add her to your do not see list and move on to someone eager to see you. Why would you want to see someone who blew you off?

If she was a good provider, she would have offered you compensation at the time she wanted to see you again. She did not, so she’s not wort seeing . Begs to think how many others she has done the same to . If the previous provider who commented she  texted with a airbag in her jaw. The NCNS. Could have made a effort. Maybe she got a better gig for your time slot, who knows ?

I have a host of other painful tools of the trade as well 👍

Mistress may I have another?