over the years, I have met wonderful ladies in this hobby.  Many I consider friends, but not pop-in type friends, more like a note every now and then to just say "hi" friends.

but they mean a lot to me.

If I were to die, would it be ok to instruct that you be notified of my demise - and to extend an invitation to the funeral?

I know, weird... but not meant as weird...

heck, the French, who IMHO have the intelligence of rocks... even they, invite their mistresses to the funeral.... are we any less?

Shit, If I die they might be the only ones to attend my funeral....although some of mine are pop-in type of friends.

Unless you have a SO or kids that would be upset by that.

For some reason this reminds me of an old Irish joke.  Two friends Paddy and Sean.  Paddy is on his death bed and says to Sean "Sean under my bed is a 30 year old bottle of whiskey.  When I die will you pour it over my grave so my bones can soak it up and I can enjoy it for all eternity.  Sean says "Sure, but would you mind if I filtered it through my kidneys first?"

Sorry to digress green one.

We meet very special people through the years that just seem to be like an old friend. You chat every now an then or exchange a card during the holidays. This doesn't mean you don't think of them and wonder how they are doing.

I would hate to wonder for who knows how long about someone I care about and never know they have passed.

I have been to a few funerals and sat in the back of the church. It's nice to be able to say good-bye and remember the nice times you shared.

Kisses Haley

One will be the usual service for the family. The other, a combo wake and meet-in-greet.

I feel ya. I would be more then happy to be a friend who would attend.
I do believe in the French way of life.
As long as the wifey doesn't follow me to my car to run me down..... American women are not French...
But yes I know one of my favorite men in Dc just had surgery. So I do know. I can't go see him ,send him a card.Or even dump his bag...lol
I know I have met so many wonderful men over the past 5 years. I am sure some may no longer be here amoung us now.
And that is a bummer. I actually have met soldiers before war. And they returned missing limbs.
I am privledged to know you guys. As like us ladies.
If something happend to us. You guys would never know if something happened to us as well.
The cost of the secret life.

several ladies I have known over the years are on my notification list and will be invited to the military honors portion of my funerary arrangements. I've recently added another lady to this list, at her request, after discussing this issue. A couple of ladies I know have lost clients with whom they were very friendly - the gents just disappeared. I lost a ladyfriend exactly the same way (I should translate - when I say "lost" I mean that they deceased....)

if a serious ailment befalls a gentleman or if a guy passes how would I know?
I enjoy the company of my men friends and would definately want to know if something happened to one of them.

"weird"? Not in my oppinion.

Relatives probably would think they were just  acquaintances.


If you have an open relationship that is one thing. However- it would be disrespectful to the Widow if she didn't know. The male is gone, but hte widow may hurt emotionaly.

i once scheduled a date with a friend quite deliberately so she could meet my accountant and executor. the idea was to clear the way for notification of that event and the eventual delivery of certain items without question.

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