You know you are not and that is what matters.Forget what those two guys said to you of course a natural reaction would be to be upset by their comments.Not every woman who is chinese is going to be a small body size and petite.
Women of all races comes in different heights and weight.
Hold your head high and keep providing a great service to your clients.
There is always going to be some people who are not satisfied.

Letting it go. Now you can move on and only hope others will be more kind and understanding. But when something like this happens again, and it probably will, don’t allow them the privilege of making you upset or angry. I know that’s not easy. But they are not your friends or family and should never own any part of you that caused pain and anger. They have to pay extra for that.

In the future when asked tell them you can get naked to show but maybe you are not comfortable or don’t want the massage and services others enjoy and they are free to cancel providing a cancellation fee for your time. Sad people are this way sometimes. They are shallow people. So feel sorry for them, not yourself.

If it upsets you so much talk to a friend so you can get it out of your system. Post here. But please get it out of your system and go on being the good masseuse and mother you are.

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I can see from your pics that you are not a tiny woman. Kudos to you for accurately representing yourself.  If it were me and they asked me if I was transgender.... I'm afraid I would have said "why? Would you like me to fuck your virgin asshole? That'll be 5k" 😂 and then see their reaction then lol
I'm so sorry you had to go through that love. Don't let these 2 idiots even be a thought in your mind at all. I know that is easier said than done but they aren't worth it.  Dealing with that and being so far away from your daughter? Ahhhh.... my heart breaks for you 😢Just remember,  where there is 2 assholes, there are 100 wonderful GENTLEMEN out there.  
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Can any of us really say we find all women (or all men) equally attractive?  I've been married a few times to jealous women who thought someone else was always out to snatch me away.  I've also often been bluntly rejected by other women as too ugly to consider.  On the flip side I have my own ideas of female beauty or ugliness.

There are certain physical attributes that connotate masculinity or femininity -- simple height being one of them.  Others are muscularity and sharper facial lines (females tend to have softer rounder facial features, men have jutting jaws, etc.)

Who knows what precisely triggered these two?  Clearly not all your clients react the same way.  Just attribute it to differences in taste.  Not everyone is going to like your looks or my looks or anyone else's looks.  That's just life.  

Brutes and Fiends

I am so sorry that your feelings were hurt by these two miserable cretins.  I’m also sorry that you seem to encounter other morons who don’t seem to know or care how to treat a lady (or people general probably).

 
Honestly, their rotten actions and words are reflections of /them/, not you.

 
-sigh-  Edited for grammar 🧐

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I'm thinking of post an secured question like  

"What is my favorite color? "

"Blue "

at the end of my self-descriptions To my website.  

Whoever calling to make an appointment I will ask the secured question.

 If they know the question answer that is mean they do pay attention to my website and already know I'm not those tiny small Asian woman so they won't have the wrong image of me.

Anyone would think is a good idea?

From what I read, both men felt uncomfortable. The first asked if you were transgender and the second clearly displayed discomfort as well. Being uncomfortable and speaking up about that does not make someone a jerk. Many providers on these boards ask men repeatedly why they finish appointments with women they were unhappy with and go on to write bad reviews? It’s mean, or horrible to speak up and leave an uncomfortable situation? I would rather know up front if there is going to be a problem personally. I don’t want to be with women who feel they have to grin and bare being with me. When that happens to a guy, it’s called YMMV.  

I can understand how you feel, I have been rejected by many women in my life. I was once laughed at by a carload of women at a stoplight who made remarks about how skinny I was and that I had no muscles. That doesn’t feel good at all.  

There is nothing you can do about the fact you don’t meet the mainstream societal standards for beauty. I certainly wasn’t women’s idea of attractive or boyfriend material, so I’ve felt what your describing many many times. Nothing I’ve ever done has made me attractive to the majority of women, so I just accepted that and focused on all the positive things in my life and the great people who are my friends. As you pointed out, you are marketing yourself honestly and are doing well most of the time.  

Feeling anger toward people who don’t accept you will only affect your own happiness. Them speaking up allowed you to move on to customers who are happy with you and your service.  

There will always be douche bags.  

I am always fascinated by tall , strong women. My loss you are in in my part of the country.

Damn, that's a fabulous percentage!

I've been in sales/customer service/retail ops since 1969 and have had THOUSANDS of customer interactions. Most of them have been good to outstanding -- but there will always be unhappy, dissatisfied and just plain asshat people who find their way to you. As an example of how bad this can get, I've had weapons pulled on me twice while in a retail environment -- THAT can ruin your whole day!

As long as you are representing yourself honestly and authentically, then the issue is theirs -- try not to take  it too personally. Nobody likes rejection but when you're in a business dealing with the general public, you will get a fair amount of it.

Good luck and move forward!

And I’d love to meet you! I don’t know if you know other providers in MN but if you don’t (or if you do even) I’d be happy to get lunch with you sometime! This job can be difficult emotionally sometimes and it helps to have friends.

and I wear heels that are no less than 4.1/4 inches. Absolutely will not consider it! I just purchased a pair of heels that are five inches high and I have a few pair already as tall. So in those heels it puts me at 6'4 at least. I have been asked twice in the past about my gender. It seems it is beyond some men's comprehension that there are tall women! I cannot and will not wear flats!! Sorry but to me they are not sexy and they hurt my feet! I also am now training with a very muscular woman and I actually hired her because of her physique! I like a defined body on a woman. She did tell me that due to my height when I get muscular that I will look like a monster! I was like wow but I smiled. If anyone feels the need to ask my gender when I do reach monster status lol I will show him the door. l am a woman, through and through. Had my sex been something else previously before I would share it. I am sorry to hear this happening to you, even after you show them your pinkness. That's terrible! I saw some pics but maybe take some in sexier dresses and heels lol! Heels rock!!!! Depending on your foot size I can lend you a pair for new pics!

you look like a girl too me!

Just checked out your site & pics. Your site says clearly you're tall & athletic. All lot of guys don't read, they look @ pics and dial.  

Things will get better. Keep your head up.

1. There are many big and tall women who are on TER. I am short, but sometimes I like to be with a tall woman, as long as they are thin and tall, not "big" and tall. Not every tall Provider creates doubt in the minds of their clients. (Also, I am talking about full service Providers, not massage only.)  Your pics on P411 clearly show that you are athletic and tall, not thin and tall. That can create some ambiguity. One suggestion: take some pics with your HAIR PULLED BACK. Sometimes the SHAPE of the face can convey M or F characteristics. Does your face have feminine features? Can you add a little makeup for face pics? You can still use blurring. (Maybe I will add a recent story, at the end.)
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2. There have been other FS Providers on TER who touted their NCAA volleyball backgrounds. One even mentioned that she played varsity on an Ivy League V-ball team.  The two I am thinking of were "California" blondes: tall, curvy, etc. with unambiguous, very fetching lingerie photos.  
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3. Thankfully, I have not been in many uncomfortable situations. If I was in such a situation, I think I would try to use my sense of humor to try to ask or make my direct comments very indirectly, always trying to gauge my hostess's sense of humor and to give her a chance to "get" what I am talking about. A close made up example might be about rock hard fake boobs. "Wow! What are these made of?  Kevlar body armor? ... When we're finished here, let's go rob a bank!" But I would already have some sense that she would "get" the jokes and not be hurt by the criticism of her boob choice. Humor is very hard to translate across languages and cultures. (I have many Chinese friends. Chinese jokes are really hard to understand.)  (Some K-girls I knew both before and after their surgeries knew me well enough that I could joke about preferring their pre-boob job boobs.)  
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4. Where humor didn't seem appropriate, I have either really been ill or pretended to be ill. "I'm not feeling well. Let's just hang out for a while ... So what position did you play on your V-ball team? What's your best Standing Vertical Jump?" (This will get me in BIG trouble: Women can't jump!)
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Sometimes, "I'm not feeling so well. I think I had a bad piece of sushi or something. I'd better leave. Here's the envelope. Sorry." (There was also a situation where I really was ill even tho' I wanted to proceed full speed ahead!)  
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5. The guys you described were expressing their discomfort, perhaps very clumsily. Some people say that the BRAIN is the largest sex organ. If they got some idea in their head upon meeting you, it can be very hard to dispel. They won't be comfortable so they ask to leave or to avoid certain things. Although their comments were hurtful to you, I think they were trying to be mean or insulting. They were just socially inept.  Are you comfortable enough to answer the door in your V-ball shorts? Those shorts do not hide anything!  By the way: beach V-ball (even MORE revealing) or indoor V-ball? If your pics leave any doubt, V-ball shorts will put an end to that!  
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6. I am in urban areas where there are many Asian civvies of every size and shape. My glances are more attracted to spinners, of course, but also to the tall, thin women.  But I also enjoy ogling the tall, "big" women, some of whom have picture post-card or cover-girl faces.  
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7. A few weeks ago, I was on a crowded subway but I was pleased to be standing in front of a late 20-ish attractive black woman dressed very hip and stylishly. Over the course of several stops, I'm checking things out. From the bend of her legs, I can see that she is very tall. She had fashionable leather knee-high full-lace boots. But her feet were huge: maybe size 13 mens. (My foot was not too far from hers for a side by side comparison against the tiles in the subway car.) Her hair (or wig?) was straight and light brown with a big jeweled ribbon - head band thing. She had on winter clothing, but her coat was partially unzipped and her chest was not flat. Her big stylish shopping bag thing was on her lap so I had no view of her crotch. Then I got to her face. A faint dark fuzzy mustache. Some lipstick. No eye makeup. ... To me, this face was 100% male. She did not smile. She squinted and scowled right at me. It was a little bit scary.  I "framed" just her face in my mind and this could be somebody I used to play basketball with (men's basketball, not co-ed).  I am nearly positive that it was a guy. I didn't leave early or ask for my fare back or ask her wassup but I just continued to my stop.  
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Embrace the positives. Don't hold on to the occasional negatives. Let it go.  
Let it go, let it go.
Turn away and slam the door.
I don't care what they're going to say.
Let the storm rage on.
The cold never bothered me anyway.
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Summary: New pics with hair pulled back to show face. Greet guests with hair pulled back and more revealing outfit. Maybe some makeup.
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Haoyun!  Xin nian kuai le!

This is a very strange business.  I’ve seen some absolutely gorgeous women whom others felt looked masculine in their photos.  Square features like the jaw-line and shoulders, for example, create questions by some.  Perhaps those guys were previoulsy surprised by a tranny or two and are gun shy.  Who knows.  Try not to let it get to you.  

Wow

I am so sorry that happened to you. Some men wouldn't know a real lady if she bit them in the ass. Don't fret the simple thoughts of simple minds....you're a queen. Now straighten that tiara and walk tall..

Hugs from Vegas.  

Maddy

I dont know how to feel about this situation. on the one hand i cant help but seeing some humor in it. on the other hand i know first hand what it feels when the person who makes an appt looks or acts or says things that make us feel uncomfortable, but i also feel a little sad that you think being thought of as trans is some kind of an insult (unless i just read too much into your post). In short, i sympathize with you.  

would you accept advice from a colleague who is trans? if so here it goes: the more you try to prove you are not who they think you are, the more convinced they will be you are just that. In other words, certain things you just dont have control over, so why worry more than you ought to? Use their ignorance, and rejection as an inspiration, and use it to value yourself more for the uniqueness of your look that may stir things in people that makes then insecure about themselves. If you think youre beautiful and love yourself, then who cares what some people may think? but if they  make appts with you they should indeed pay for your time.

Genteically you are what you are.  Wanting to not be doesnt change what the BIOLOGY and GENETICS say you are

This is disgusting.  In this business, everyone puts up with a lot of bullshit. Whether provider or hobbyists, we all have been taken advantage of or insulted in some shape or form.  Can't we all just be a little more respectful and empathetic?  It's a shame such ignorance is being projected at you.  However, fighting ignorance with more ignorance is not going to improve anything.  Educate yourselves.  If you don't know something ask in a way that doesn't compromise someone else.  Try to feel how you are affecting others. Personally, I find much of this dialogue to be derogatory and stigmatic.   Did anyone here consider that a trans person might read this? I AM A TRANNY.  Last I checked it doesn't need to be censored.  I AM A REAL WOMAN. Because I said so, much like MckenzieGold undoubtedly told whatever dunce prompted this conversation.  I'm TERRIFYING, but no need to jump through the window.  I AM IN MINNEAPOLIS.  I encourage you to get to know the story of trans providers.  I would happily chat/meet with anyone who would like to hear the perspective from someone in the community.  You might find we are just people too.