Ok guys, after a year plus of posting here on TER, and a year long foray into "the hobby", it is time for me to move on.

I got married (again) about 3 weeks ago, and it really is my intent to be a monogamous husband, just as I was the first time around (perhaps that isn't for everyone, but it is what works best for me and my SigO). She is a great gal, and she deserves to have "all of me", emotionally and otherwise. For her to find out I had been with someone else while we were husband and wife, would hurt her deeply, and I never want to do that.

Thanks to everyone who has shown me love (both on the board and "otherwise"...you ladies know who you are). Thanks for everyone who has engaged me in thoughtful debate.

Apologies to all I have offended. 99% of the time, I really did mean well - I often found myself genuinely concerned about some of you guys...all I wanted to do was to try to help you keep your wits about you (there is no drug like a beautiful woman...trust me, I know...)

My VIP memebership has 5 days left, so I will be around to read and respond as appropriate to this thread or to any PMs...then it is off into the sunset.

Thanks again!!


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Good luck with your new bride.  I hope that you both have all you wish for.  


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I'm excited for you!  May you have many days of bliss "in" and "out" of the bedroom together

You have challenged members of this board with insightful and sometimes provocative thoughts.  Whether we agree or disagree with you, I believe many members respect your opinions, appreciate your intelligence and value your sincerity.

I will definitely miss reading your post.  However, it is better to make a clean break with TER in case your bride accidentally discovered your alternative ego here.

Knowing your exacting standard, your bride is definitely a beautiful and wonderful woman.  She is indeed a lucky girl.

Good luck to both of you and congratulations again.

Actually, she has...some time ago. She has been "lurking" on this board for sometime. She knows my handle. She knows my past. She loves me anyway. Amazing, huh?

To be honest, there hasn't been any hobbying on my part since we started living together (sorry guys...if that makes me a hypocrite...posting on hobbying when I haven't been in the game for a little bit, then I am guilty as charged, and I apologize).

That is part of the reason for the clean break however. She hasn't even asked me to stop posting...I just figure since she loves me in this manner, I should do my best to honor that love. Since I know she rather I NOT be in this community, even though she'd hasn't forced the issue, I care enough about her to respect her wishes...

honor her by leaving this scene.  Participating in TER boards could take a lot of time.  It is much better to spend time with your lovely bride.

I have known for a while that you have not actively seeked any hobby activities.  I just thought that you were busy with your career and the re-certification.

She is a very smart woman.  No wonder she captured your heart.


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I will leave you with my good wishes and the following:

You say that love is nonsense....I tell you it is no such thing. For weeks and months it is a steady physical pain, an ache about the heart, never leaving one, by night or by day; a long strain on one's nerves like toothache or rheumatism, not intolerable at any one instant, but exhausting by its steady drain on the strength.
* Henry Adams

To Life!

Congratulations and best wishes to you and your lucky bride.  as primarily a lurking member, i have enjoyed reading your posts and the challenges you have posed to others to think about many things.  Your presence will be missed, but I believe that you are making a good call.

Congratulations and I wish you all the happiness that any great woman can give you. She is lucky to know someone who will truly respect her and care for her. I hope she does the same for you.
Kisses and Good Luck

I have enjoyed your posts regardless of whether we agreed.  (Mark Twain once said that if you and I are thinking the same thing, one of us isn't thinking.)

For the Star Trek fans here, I will adapt the last line from "The Menagerie"...."You have reality and we have fantasy -- may you find your way as pleasant".

I think you will.

-Hoot.

eom

Hate to see you go, but congratulations and good luck!  I always enjoyed your posts and what you had to say.  You made me stop and think a time or two.  Best wishes to you and the missus.

I never did solicit providers while we were "engaged".

I haven't been with a provider since my SigO and I moved in together. You could count that as our "engagement" if you will, but another truth is that we didn't make the decision to marry until the first week of September.

As some people who read this board know, I have been conducting an "experiment", if you will. I wanted to see if my previous behavior was indeed the "new me", of if it was a factor of my circumstances (in a relationship I was unhappy about, in a place I was unhappy about, still recovering emotionally from 9/11, etc...). I needed to know if I was again capable of fidelity and monogamy, as I had been during my first marriage. I needed to know if I could be a one-woman man again, because if I couldn't, what was the point of getting married?

After a period of time passed, I knew. So, I proposed. We agreed in past discussions that we didn't want a big wedding (if your wondering how a two month engagement is possible) with all the expense and pressure, so we had a small gathering of family and friends, followed by dinner at a 4 star restaurant. It was perfect.

Like I said above, my SigO lurks on this board. We don't have "secrets" of that nature.

So yeah, like carpevinum said, I'm wondering, why the jab? Are you feeling guilty about your own actions, or is this just a case of the crabs pulling the attempted escapee back into the pail?

She's a lucky women!
Just remember I'm still your friend off and online.

cannot use the handle mylifeasme. it will now have to be a
handle such as ( our life as we ) lol good luck and take care
of you two!

Just kidding. But keep it in mind.

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On the last day of my VIP membership, I want to thank everybody for their well wishes pasted here, thank everyone who sent me sincere PMs containing kind words, and thank the ladies of this board who have shown me love (here and elsewhere....).

Please remember guys and gals, be careful, not just with your bodies, but also with your heart and emotions. Be careful with your life...not just your physical well being, but with your life circumstances, your state of mind, the well being of those in your life who are impacted by your actions and behaviors.

In is supposed to be a "hobby". It is supposed to be fun. And for some of us, it is supposed to be profitable!!  :^)

When it stops being those things...when it is no longer harmless fun, but a harmful addiction...when it is no longer an interesting and exciting way to make a living, but instead something that robs you of your dignity, your self-respect…

When it is no longer a fun thing in your life...but instead IS your life, becoming who you are, versus something that you do...

Then it is time to stop. Some of you I actually care enough about that I'd like you to remember that.

Take care board. Thanks for having me.

Thanks! You were listed amongest my favorites, but I never made it to the Twin Cities...I'll just have to imagine what it could have been like, based on your hot reviews.

See you in my dreams Misty!!

(Sigh) Anotehr big booty WF that I never got to spend time with....lol  ;^)

I will always remember, and thank you for that friendship.

Let's indeed hope that love lasts for a lifetime...

Best of luck.  Sincerely, I wish you and your future wife only the best.