In SophiaLA's post below, she remarks that providers have to be therapists sometimes.

I don't doubt that, but my experience is that I often am the therapist to the provider many times.

Do other clients feel that way, or does it go both ways in your experience.

Gals and guys respond please.

I feel that way with my ATF. She just needs someone to talk to. I know so much about her Personal Life both Good and Bad beacuse she just tells me about her Life. I have Never Ever asked about anything in her Life. Hey we all need to talk to someone about things going on in our Lives. I guess she feels she can Trust me about telling me about her Life. She's So Sweet and Adorable. I could listen to her talk to me all day.

Everybody hurts, sometime.  Most of us just need a ear to listen to our problems.  Sometimes the client or the provider has to be that ear when no one else will listen.

Unless you got some really kinky ass sex therapist type female shrink, then I think you may want to spend the extra bucks.

I commend you for having the curiosity to ask, and I'm curious as to the answers…

But I do think that providers and hobbyists should refrain from making the session a psychiatric consultation.. Dates are meant to be fun and to forget about the world, problems etc...

Referred to me by Tommy Tutone. HaHa, gosh damn I just cracked myself up

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I enjoy those sessions who ever is the giver.  As someone else noted, we all need support sometimes.

as my profession is in this field....

I've been with a couple very nice ladies recently who had some personal issues that they were dealing with and played sounding board for them, gave them advice, just tried to let them talk it out.

And have done so on many occasions.

I'm really good at what I do for a living, within the top 5% globally. But I'm no where near qualified to give anyone therapeutic advice in any way shape or form. If you need your plumbing worked on, call a Plumber, if you need your car fixed, bring it to an Auto Mechanic, if you need counseling, go to someone that does that for a living and is qualified to do so, especially with something so sensitive as mental and sociological matters

so that she'd have a nice nest egg when she retires.

I thought about it hard and finally came to this conclusion:

Don't spend it all on providers.

I think she was going to follow that advice anyways.

This is especially true with someone you know and trust. But, at the end of the day, are you qualified to give her advice? Probably not. Are you an appropriate person for her to use as a sounding board? Maybe so.

I can't take it with me when I go, and have no one to give it to, except St. Judes Children Hospital in honor of my Mother, so I might as well spend it on wonderful, beautiful, sexy awesome women while I'm here. and, that's exactly what I'm doing.

I first became aware of "the hobby" through a client who complained that she had to work an hour and a half for every one of my fifty minute hours....      that ratio continues to be about right....

Was enough to confuse "Sean Connery": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bxnuOdWUmA
 

I think the original idea of this post was to know if a Provider confides to a Client she Trusts to talk to him about going ons in Life. And Vice Versa. You don't need any Qualifications to listen to someone that wants to talk to you about their stresses in Life. I'm not giving my ATF Einstein type of answers. I'm just glad she Trusts me so much to tell me about her Personal Life and Family Life. I'm very Surprised that this Business hasn't Jaded her about Men. Well I think it hasn't. She's is so Sweet, Kind  and Adorable. How can I not listen to her. There have been a few times when she was crying as she was telling me about things in her Life. It was really very Sad some of the Personal Stories she's told me about what has happened in her Life. I have never asked or wanted to know about her Personal Life. She just tells me.

Seriously, we're all humans at the end of the day we should realize and emphasize with people more often. This shouldn't be the type of thing that is purely mechanical, temporary fun can still be meaningful for that moment.

... It crosses the p4p line: eg, she's in love, she needs more "help" than you can give at the time.  

There are a couple who I'm comfortable enough with that if a particular subject comes up, I'll discuss it, but for the most part I'm self-aware enough to know that very few people on this planet care to listen to me complain about my privileged white girl problems.  

...you get to see Angel!!