but the virtues of being "totally honest" are overrated at best. lol
I have been asked what my "number" was on occasion, Maybe some of you ladies who've been working a few years can answer this question. How do you tell someone you are sleeping with that there were somewhere between three and four THOUSAND sexual partners before him/her? I try not to lie, but I also try to dance around any direct questions as best I can. Her; "how many hookers have you slept with in your life?" Me; "I really don't know, I was kind of irresponsible when I was younger (yesterday), but it's been quite a while (also yesterday) since I've done anything like that" lolhow much do you reveal? all, a little or nothing about the "hobby"
but the virtues of being "totally honest" are overrated at best. lol
I have been asked what my "number" was on occasion, Maybe some of you ladies who've been working a few years can answer this question. How do you tell someone you are sleeping with that there were somewhere between three and four THOUSAND sexual partners before him/her?
I try not to lie, but I also try to dance around any direct questions as best I can.
Her; "how many hookers have you slept with in your life?"
Me; "I really don't know, I was kind of irresponsible when I was younger (yesterday), but it's been quite a while (also yesterday) since I've done anything like that" lol
His last line kinda reminded me of the lyrics from "Tenderness" by Steppenwolf at first but you're right...it's def "I am a Rock". Glad I'm not the only person that's mind catches random stuff like this.
I think it's more important what you choose to reveal about whether you're seeing providers NOW. If you're not, I wouldn't bring up that you saw providers in the past unless you feel it's important to let your girlfriend know you've had sex with other women, and then you could just say that without mentioning the p4p aspect.
If you're seeing providers now, then it's a question of what your relationship with your girlfriend is, ie does she think you're having sex only with her?
But there is not really much to be gained by lying, and it will certainly come to light someday, somehow and lying could fuck it all up. Another reason, of many, to not be accountable to anyone but myself.
I find it bothersome that she would ask you though, you can't change your past.
You have been really clear about that for years.
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The number of gals who know russ have all heard his sob story. He really needs some better professional care so he can finally move on with his life.
His continued chasing his ex for absolution is pathetic. She's doing great now that she's gotten rid of russ and his horrible negativity towards life...and particularly women.
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Talk about someone who needs to move on with his life!
The comical thing is that I said nothing about my "happy" story, the broken record just keeps skipping along though. He should run for POTUS, he'd stand a chance against the other clowns.
Oh well, Ron white said it best "you can't fix stupid".
as long as you should know the difference. 
After all..he has said a number of times he prefers the young 'uns.
Not sure why he's deviating now. Maybe it's an Oedipus thing.
There once was a TER user
Who thought himself quite the board bruiser
His obsession with Russ
Made him so tedious
That he was in fact just a board snooz
He comes running. It has gotten to the point of entertaining.
The thing is, even someone as ignorant as him knows that there is an ignore button, so he willingly reads my posts and raises his blood pressure.
Oh well, you are soo much better company than he is, so I end up the winner as I get more opportunity to chat with you.
but I have to give props to Mimi, That was funny. lol
For the record I am friends with both the good doctor and Russ, and I have no real bias here. I am just happy to see a battle of wits with participants other than half wits. Jake, fg, FatVern et al should relate to what I am talking about.
Never, in the 3+ years that I've posted in here have I ever once said I prefer young women, or young 'uns as you posted. Not once, in fact if you page through my reviews you'll see quite a mixture based upon age. I have said upon occasion that I'm not interested in a member of the OTHFB club, and I've qualified that numerous times with "Fat" and "Over The Hill" are state of minds, not an indicator of weight or age. Just for your edification I've spent time with MiMi and she is fabulous, if you had looked past the end of your nose, you'd have known that.
I'm not sure what your problem is with me, but it's really quite simple skippy, if you don't like what I have to say in my posts, don't read them. Surely even someone as simple minded as you can "get that". Better yet, TER has a feature you might apply for my handle, it's called "ignore".
It's funny how you seem to be hung up on twisting my words around to be what you would like to believe, and yet you, nor anyone else in here has even attempted to answer a question which I've asked numerous times "what is the upside or benefit of a man getting married"? I stupidly fell prey to that bullshit once, escaped it relatively unscathed, and I'll rail against that bullshit here and everywhere else for the rest of my days, if you don't like it, well see above. It is simply, a lose/lose situation. I could be everything that a husband is without the law or court system being involved and subjecting myself to someone taking half of my stuff if it doesn't work out. Marriage is useless, except for divorce attorney's, ohhh I've figured it out, you're a divorce attorney, makes perfect sense, you twist other people's words around to fit your warped mind.
By the way, I'm very happy. I'm living a beautiful life that I'm enjoying 100%. I have no need or want for another "ball and chain". There are quite a few friends who I wish I could tell about this wonderful life, but society just doesn't seem to understand that this life is completely beneficial to both parties, so I choose not to. I get, the best of the best, when I want, for as long as I want. I don't have to settle for the kind of woman that I'd have to if it weren't for the arrangement. I love my life, you can keep babbling on about what you perceive to be misery, I love it. Leaving my ex, was the very best thing that I've ever done. I've never looked back, as you seem to be stuck on. That fat, jealous, insecure woman is with some other poor sap, although I feel badly for him, I'm thankful to be rid of everything about her.
I've said it before, but ended up going down the rabbit hole again, I'm done with you. I will admit, it is fun ringing the bell and having you answer it, Pavlovian response, and you seem to have an intelligence equivalent to a dog, so evidently the shoe fits.
Russ out!
My my Russ....such a negative commentary. So now all women have "an agenda"?
Seriously...stop answering "the bell".
Please see that nice therapist twice a week. Your anger shows all too often.
Have Grandma Mimi read you another bed time story. She's quite the poet.
I'm not sure what your problem is with me, but it's really quite simple skippy, if you don't like what I have to say in my posts, don't read them. Surely even someone as simple minded as you can "get that". Better yet, TER has a feature you might apply for my handle, it's called "ignore".
It's funny how you seem to be hung up on twisting my words around to be what you would like to believe, and yet you, nor anyone else in here has even attempted to answer a question which I've asked numerous times "what is the upside or benefit of a man getting married"? I stupidly fell prey to that bullshit once, escaped it relatively unscathed, and I'll rail against that bullshit here and everywhere else for the rest of my days, if you don't like it, well see above. It is simply, a lose/lose situation. I could be everything that a husband is without the law or court system being involved and subjecting myself to someone taking half of my stuff if it doesn't work out. Marriage is useless, except for divorce attorney's, ohhh I've figured it out, you're a divorce attorney, makes perfect sense, you twist other people's words around to fit your warped mind.
By the way, I'm very happy. I'm living a beautiful life that I'm enjoying 100%. I have no need or want for another "ball and chain". There are quite a few friends who I wish I could tell about this wonderful life, but society just doesn't seem to understand that this life is completely beneficial to both parties, so I choose not to. I get, the best of the best, when I want, for as long as I want. I don't have to settle for the kind of woman that I'd have to if it weren't for the arrangement. I love my life, you can keep babbling on about what you perceive to be misery, I love it. Leaving my ex, was the very best thing that I've ever done. I've never looked back, as you seem to be stuck on. That fat, jealous, insecure woman is with some other poor sap, although I feel badly for him, I'm thankful to be rid of everything about her.
I've said it before, but ended up going down the rabbit hole again, I'm done with you. I will admit, it is fun ringing the bell and having you answer it, Pavlovian response, and you seem to have an intelligence equivalent to a dog, so evidently the shoe fits.
Russ out!
So, if you truly are a gentleman then you will publicly apologize to her for you disparaging remarks, and all will be settled.
If you choose not to, and you and I ever cross paths, I will instruct you in the ways of being a gentleman.
If you want to have a character debate, you should stick with me, because MiMi is way out of your league.
Just the notion that I'd have to answer a question such as that is enough to keep me from that bullshit.
What I'd really like to say in answer to that question is "it's none of your fucking business". An honest answer to that question can only come back to bite you in the ass. A dishonest answer to that question, well the same really.
I don't need to belong to anyone, nor do I want anyone belonging to me.
And in case you don't know...it's a small small world LOL
I guess YOU do have an agenda!
You're not getting spousal support...quit whining already and get a decent paying job.
What I'd really like to say in answer to that question is "it's none of your fucking business". An honest answer to that question can only come back to bite you in the ass. A dishonest answer to that question, well the same really.
I don't need to belong to anyone, nor do I want anyone belonging to me.
What I would tel her is I've been tested an am clean.
There's never been anyone like you.... and I don't kiss and tell.
If directly confronted with a direct question about hookers... well then, I highly recommend what a wonderful professional lady once told me -
Deny, Deny, Deny.
Honestly, it's none of her business
I heard that civilian pussy stinks.
What's surprising is that even the most desperate of hookers will see him, can you really imagine a woman tolerating him for free?
"I have enough experienc to bring you to a screaming orgasm. What else matters besides that?
In which case, you say you don't know as per above but say you have been tested & will do it again with her.
Most people have had different sexual partners in the past, I would never say anything about this hobby, it will just create a shit storm to talk about it.
would not be mentioning P4P.
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Make her an offer. Say to her: "Tell you what. We'll both go to a medical clinic together and we'll both get a full panel of STD tests at the same time. You pay for yours I'll pay for mine. Then, when the results come in, we'll both go together to review them at the same time."
If she agrees to that, great! If she doesn't, then maybe it's time to see someone else.
her sexual history as well... Awesome!
OTOH... probably a much better idea to just keep your previous partners
and especially your hobby time out of the discussion.
...Then again if she volunteers that she's had some hobby experience
of her own, it could be the beginning of a very interesting relationship! LOL!
Most people are happy to live in a fantasy world if there is no particular danger in doing so. Why would you deny them this pleasure?
But seriously, my GF & I were both 15... Unless they really are a Virgin, everyomne else has a sexual history. Some are obivious like known GFs & and an exW. I would NEVER produce a LIST. And who would verify it?
If SHE produced a list, who would verify it?
I would say I've been with a number of Girl Friends over the years. How long they were my GFs for in a matter of symantics... it might have been only hours.
I'm interested in how this sharing would even work? Do you give a number? Do you name names? (How embarrassing that might be.)
I maintain the number or list is unimportant. Being tested is.
Especially when that number is in the thousands.
Just look at how squeamish a bunch of johns can get when finding out just how many other dudes the hookers they fuck are fucking too. Even hookers have commented to me about my "number" in less than flattering terms. Like it or not, to "some" people the number is very important.
BTW don't count me in the group that cares. As long as none of her previous sex partners tries to join us in bed, I personally don't give a fuck how many men she has been with.
Civvie gal I was dating some years ago says out of the blue: "I think I'd be a terrific call girl", which she qualifies by saying that all her life she's been desired by men. Heck yeah she was desirable, but I'd of had to give her a "YMMV" review. I don't feel that any good could ever come from revealing my interest in the hobby, so no way I took that bait line
Nothing....Absolutely Nothing......about the Hobby......Nothing...!! Now read that back just to be sure you have it !
Depends on where you see the relationship going... if it's just a fling then let it be known you got around quite a bit (no need to deny or confirm the particulars about money exchange) but go get tested with her and you can both share results and let it be. No matter what that's where you should start your base at- you can always build from there or leave it as is.
If it's serious enough that you could see marrying her it depends on how you view marriage. If you think marriage is more like two companies merging in a friendly and reasonable way that improves the lives of both parties then never say more than you did originally about it. Deny it if it ever comes up socially. Oh, and obvi you'd have to leave the hobby and all hobby contacts behind completely and pray to God the whole truth never comes out.
If you want to get married for love and it's really important the person love you back in an idealistic way then you have to tell them everything unless they specifically ask you not to tell them any details. It's as much for yourself as them...how can you value the absolute love of someone that doesn't really know who the fuck they are actually loving? Every lie you tell in these kinds of relationships just builds a wall that separates you from true intimacy.