Now and then I back off hobbying and subscribe to a date site for chatting and maybe hooking up.  I have probably sent out cumulatively over 100 date site emails and received about the same number back, but what I get back generally is suspiciously genaric relative to what I send out.  Also, I have only once in the several months I've tried this gotten to the point of a girl writing to my private email address, and never have actually hooked up.  Having fun regardless so I go along with the game, but petty convinced by now that most of the girls are the same person and probably on staff of the date site.  Anybody out there know how these sites actually work?  Would love to know.

I had some sort of luck on a couple of them. Kiss.com and another one that was free and has folded. The reason I say some sort of luck is because I talked on the phone to a couple of them and actually met 1 in person. They all seemed nice but turned out to be of a very flaky nature and possibly one was too high!

We all thought he was nuts. But, after he brought her out to meet us all, I & everyone else stopped thinking he was crazy. They now have been married for several yrs & have a darling daughter. But, that's the only happy story I have ever heard from the "civilian side" of dating services.

I think that perhaps if it's not a really well visited site, the sites owners might pull a dirty trick like that to string folks along. It's unethical. & I think if it walks like a duck, it's probably a duck. I'd go w/my instincts on this one. & I think you already know the answer your looking for.

So, I guess it just takes the right person to make you feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level. & you will know by reading their words, & hearing their voice.

Good luck!

Lisa

I have plenty of experience with internet dating sites.  The people who post fake reviews are not staff.  Rather, they are usually people who get paid to try to draw as many people to their sleezy sites by acting as normal girls, getting your e-mail address, and then putting you on a spam list.  Online dating can work very well if you know how to weed out the fake profiles.  For example, on Match.com, here's what to look for to identify a fake profile:  

1.  Picture in profile looks way too good to be true.
2.  There is only one picture in the profile.
3.  The age range of the woman's desired match is very wide ranging (usually 18-35; 18-60; etc.).
4.  The description is usually one short, generic paragraph that again, seems too good to be true.
5.  The woman's desired match section is all-inclusive with respect to race (especially this one), religion, age, etc.
6.  The woman's age usually is between 18 and 30.
7.  Usually, the woman has no kids.

The most important of the above to look out for are 1,2, and especially 3.  If you follow these rules, you will almost never fall for a fake review.  Hope this helps.  Good luck.

I met my wife on AdultFriendFinder.com.  We've been together 5 years.

Before becoming a provider.  Had my photo posted on Match.com, a real interview..etc.  If I had wanted to, I could have had a date a night at the very least but most of them were pretty flakey.  I did meet a few nice gentlemen though from them I understood that it was much harder for a man to hook up than a woman but isn't that the norm no matter where you go to meet someone?  I don't think they're all fakes, I wasn't.

Here is a link to FREE dating services. Although it's a United Kingdom URL, it includes a lot of American sites. There is no need to pay for access to a dating site. There are enough free ones to last you forever.

An exception is Lavalife, where the cost for answering an ad is next to nothing. I paid 14.99 in advance to write to 12 women.

Some women who advertise on these sites are providers BTW. Their ads will give them away with such phrases as "looking to meet generous man."

its like they get off on playing with your mind.
99.9% are not real. You might finally find one who is and then they will turn up being a psycho.

Its time to cut your loses and move on.

Shaye

Anyone ever been on any Boston date sites including Match or AFF and had any luck? We should get everyone on here to trade screennames of the REAL girls on there!  Post your replies if interested!

Lisa, IM glad it worked out for your friend. Ive tried a couple of date sites, While being a member, I must have contacted ( by e-mail ) over 100 women, with only 3 replies.

I WILL STICK TO BEING A HOBBIST !!!!!!!!!!!

RAYS500

Damn, how did I miss you??

AFF in particular is almost ALL fake, or at least it used to be.

Hey, big help from all you folks.  The worst I found was Eroticy, where I tried a few months with little success and am the most suspicious.  Others mentioned gave different results, but none very good.  Any further input would be greatly apprediated.  About to cut my losses by not renewing sites when memberships expire, but really not much dollar cost involved.  Mostly time cost in writing respondents, and actually that was pretty much fun.  Ah well, no easy answers ...

I've had great luck on match.com and nerve.com

My current SO was on both services as I was and we wouldn't have met any other way.

Yahoo and some other larger dating services have a high percentage of ads such as women in Asia looking for american sugar daddies, a few providers, and even tgirls. Match seems to provide a large selection of people looking for the same things you are, and seems to draw fairly high-quality people.

Like any other way of meeting people, it's a numbers game.

I met the Sweet Sexy man I'm currently dating on Emode....I have dated men I've met on Sexy Ads.net, Adult Friend Finders, and Lavalife. I've had good luck with the phone lines too. I don't do the "Bar Thing", and avoid getting involved with my clients, I'm not religious, so church is out, so what better way to meet quality, intelligent, articulate, educated men, than the internet. I've also made great friends with people I will probably never meet, but am so blessed to have met them on line and continue to chat both on the web and phone...It works if your selective, read between the lines, and are honest in your profile. True, there are some dishonest people on these services, but there are alot of good ones too...My last three swing partners, and two long term dateing relationships, came from services...I've been a happy woman...Good luck Sweetie..Kisses, Robyn

Mr Philly's list is a good one to start. The adage of if it sounds too good to be true holds true for sure in these sites. Seriously, how likely is it that some 18 yr old single college babe with a washboard stomach and a shaved pussy is looking to bang guys over 50?

Allow me to add to MR Philly's excellent list of things to watch for.
Any ad that asks for your real email up front.
Be suspicious if the account is the basic free no frills one.
If you write and they reply with an email to send a pic too.
Names like naughtytnancee69696969 or fuckmehardtonite.
In depth questions for the profile not filled out.
The city's right but the zip matches another state or country.

Watch and see if the profile you are interested in participates in the online chat rooms. Be suspicious of female profiles you find in chatrooms that are still pending review.

That said there ARE real women in these sites. I met someone on LavaLife once and we met 6 or 7 times. It was fantastic, we would plan day rendevouz's and have a blast. I once brought hot water in a thermos bottle and shaved her smooth, once no shit we were in my van no more than 25 feet from the elevator doors of an underground parking garage inside a sleeping bag. Alas she was diabetic and no joke I fucked her into diabetic shock one day. I had candy in the car with us and made sure she was ok before we split up for home but that scared the crap out of me and I stopped seeing her. I was horrified one time it would go beyond that and I would have to call for medical help.

I have since resumed looking so far with no success. LavaLife has changed for the worse it seems. You pay for credits that allow you to send email. And you get charged even if the person you sent it to doesn't read it. More than half of my mails wouldn't even get read and I didn't fire them off to just anyone that looked yummy, I targeted my stuff to those that were compatible. I complained to them that it looked like they might be stuffing the service with fake profiles to sell credits but they never did anything about it.

I caught IWANTU using a profile on their service to try to sell information on how to write better letters to get replys on adult dating services and when I complained they didn't even offer to remove the fake profile.

On BostonErotic I would write emails and watch for reply's. Most would sit unread for days and then all of a sudden in batches at the same time they would come back declined. Which made me think the service was being manipulated by the people running it.

I am currently on AFF and having just as little luck. Any service with free basic profiles, or free profiles for women has the ability to be abused by predators just looking for email addresses to spam for porn site advertisement.

I've written Adultfreeway trying to get them to do a better job on the billing aspect. They advertise that all profiles are paid. And I'll jump there as soon as I can assure that nothing incriminating shows up on my cc statement.

I'm replying to my own post because my girlfriend made me famous!