I guess this is for both the men and women.  But I decided to stop pleasuring myself until I saw my next provider or had sex with the SO.  This lasted about two weeks.  I was going crazy but thankfully daily meditation got me through.  

The reason why I stopped is that I wanted to see if my load would increase.  And man did it ever.  I don't think I have had one that big in years.  But it had an unexpected positive side effect.  The SO seemed to be really happy that SHE aroused me like that.  I was to embarrassed to tell her the truth.  Although I fully admit it made the sex much more intense.  

So far I have lapsed a few times.  But I still am fighting the good fight.  Which is not easy because I have been self pleasuring since 6th grade.

Have any hobbyists and providers completely given up self pleasure?  If so how do you get through the day/week?


 

Our bodies are constantly producing semen. Now I guess my 55 year old body does not produce as much as it used to. I seriously doubt if going two weeks is going to be that much better than withholding for three or four days. Is it really worth it to wait for two weeks? You may want to ask LG but I doubt if you gain much volume waiting that long.

Orgasms with little or even no ejaculation feel pretty darn good. The sexual intimacy of being with a woman is more important to me than the amount of semen during orgasm. Their is a thread on the Erotic Highway board that addresses men's obsession with semen volume. You may want to check that out. If your sexual partner believes that the amount of semen volume is correlated to how much the man is enjoying himself she needs to also check out that thread.

But hey if going two weeks works for you and does not drive you crazy then you will just have to find another way to strenghten your wrists
Maybe you need to start a contest. By the way who won the contest on Seinfeld, can't remember. I know Kramer was the first one out.

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The time I feel most like masturbating is after I have just been with a provider.

I find that replaying the events in my mind leads to arousal and I can't resist.  This is even after coming several times with her.

Later on, even if I go over a week without seeing someone (rare), I just don't feel like it.

when I was in my twenties though, I would masturbate once or twice a day.  It has subsided quite a bit as I age.  (now mid fifties)

I definately get a better "pop" if I've withheld for 2-3 days before.  
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I have never given it much thought. I have no reason to stop though.

Yes, at 55, amazingly enough I actually do have days when I do not pleasure myself. I also do the exact same thing as you pleasuring myself after a wonderful date with a sensual beauty for the exact same reason.  

I still have moments in time from 2 and 3 years ago I will never forget that I enjoy immensely.  I do usually restrain myself 3 or 4 days before I see someone.

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I often ask my primary mate not to masturbate during the day while I am at work, and ask my secondary mate not to masturbate between visits (and he only comes [rimshot!] over once or twice a WEEK!), because I go absolutely bonkers over the idea of a man storing reserves of his spunk just for me.  Yes, I suppose I do also enjoy the fact that it is a lot easier to drive men wild if they have not been pleased in awhile.  Mmm.

The only potential downside is that with some men it changes the consistency and flavor of semen in an unpleasant way.  However, that's a more than fair compromise, in my mind.

I seldom do so because nothing beats the real thing. I sometimes think my SO has sex with me just to check my levels (semen), to see if I've been horsing around with someone else. So, I'm not certain if she is so pleased with my load because of it's quantity, for this reason, or she just likes a lot of cum. But "who am I to reason why?" I don't know where that came from, but perhaps it's more permissible free-associate on this board vs. the Erotic Highyway. LOL.

Two Weeks! I don't think I could be "master of my domain" for more than one. I do try to refrain for a few days or a week before a date to build up the fun and intensity of the encounter.

You know I can't help myself when Pooh Bear is mentioned and there you go and put it in another thread. Now I've had two posts removed from TER and both of them were about Pooh Bear.

Now I feel like LG is watching me really close I hope she has figured out I'm the good boy who is easily misled and you are the troublemaker

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You better steer clear of me, I'm a real trouble-maker. I've even ventured into posting on the P&R board. LOL.

Now you've both had posts removed over there, and the last one was in response to my post. I hope I'm not the troublemaker.

Nah! I think we should blame it on Bostonguy, though it was my free-association he responded to. No, wait, let's blame Showmecal, since my free-association was to his post.

I used to.  but now I either fuck an escort, my girl friend, or my wife.  not necessarily in any specific order.  just depends on who is around.  I have sex usually 2-3 times a week so my spunk level is always pretty high.  And it makes the sex much more enjoyable as well when I do not pleasure myself.  

I find that if I watch porn I need to masterbate so I do not watch porn unless I know I am going to get some immediately following the viewing.

I'm just a humble midwestern boy who is addicted to the song House at Pooh Corner.  LG will believe me!

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that an hour on the couch wouldn't cure.

Christopher Robin and I walked along
under branches lit up by the moon

Ah! much better

I think you are all in kahoots (spelling?) equal blame for all of you Naughty Naughty Men. I love bad boys they are so much more fun to play with.

xoxox
Nicole

sounds to me theres a shortage of sensual entertainment going around. I'd lose my mind if I didn't have a romp in the sack at least once day with my SO.(nevermid this play time) Whats this world coming to??

I think she's onto us, boys.

most of the time. Single, not into regular dating. Live in a relatively small city so I have to travel for my dates. So when I have a hobby date it is like a special event for me. A very very big deal and something I really look forward to!

Best watch yourself missy. Now, how fast can I get to Boston?

you know, I had one in college, we went out for a while and then were just good friends who had extra special privledges. lol  well that was college. We are still good friends so many yrs later, I'd still play with him if we had a chance. He was fun.

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Oh my God I started undergrad school in 1971. Casual sex was quite the thing. I was shy, insecure, emotional and kind of a hippie counterculture quasi intellectual type. And yes to the disdain of many on this board very liberal in my views on life. Not even close to being a ladies man but kind of cute. Even with all those qualities that do not attract most women their were always a few that were intensely attracted to me so sex was never a problem.  They basically picked me out.
Maybe I should try to find a fuck buddy. Might be tricky in my town but you never know.

In the mean time I have had the privilege of meeting some of the most beautiful, sensual, sensitive intelligent women with this kind of dating that I have ever known. I've met women I will never forget.

Talk about free association. I'll blame it on two glasses of wine


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even if you had this "thing" with a good friend on occasion feel free to still come out n play with us. lol

be sure to bring your Loggins and Messina cd when you come to Boston.

I can go easy 1 week before sex intrudes on my mind.  I only have sex so it clears my mind and body for more important tasks.

Passion Intimacy and Sensuality are all so important to your inner soul.  You have sex to clear your mind for more important things?  True there may be more pressing matters at times but in a way of balancing out all aspects of who you are it is no less important.  It does not definately define you but it is a huge part of who you are. It isn't always sex, but Sensuality, It isn't just physical touch, it's often times sweet Intimacy, Passion is rooted deep with in ones being,it's sharing this inner self with another to create a deeper bond.  In a relationship it is so soothing to share your inner self with your partner,it's desired and really needed. So stop making room for other things, and exploit your inner passions.


I don't know, maybe thats just me I guess.

Play nice everyone...
Nicole~~