Had a hangover this morning, sorry! :P
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Anyone here literally dating a provider? Would like to share your experience how to make an escort fall in love with you? I'm pretty sure anyone of us whom has seen a numerous of girls, at least felt in love one time and it just recently happened to me when i saw this girl. She's just gorgeous and of course love sex but what impressed me is that she also a hard working lady. She had a job and being a provider just her side work. I don't know if it possible that girls who chose to be an escort had taught each other not to fall in love with a client. Everything is strictly business!
There was an Awesome Provider that used to work in my city for about 15 years. Super Nice and Great Performance. She was the only one I was seeing. Then she decided to move to another state when things got slow. I was pretty Sad on hearing that. So I decided what the Hell, I'll drive to visit her. Now after a few trips to see her, it was worth the drive. She's still Nice and Awesome since the first day I met her 20 years ago. Am I or her in Love with one another? I'd say it's close. I just consider us to be great long time Friends. I'm leaving on September 9th and staying with her for one week. What the Hell, yeah I Love her.
Someone knocking your socks off in bed or being drop dead gorgeous to the point that she makes you dizzy, is NOT LOVE! And, why would we want to fall for a damn client? They are usually married men who are cheating on someone else, so not exactly the best way to gain trust from another woman if you know what I mean. I don't much care and am not judging, but I would have to be a complete dumb ass to think someone already cheating would not continue when things went south between us.
In short, I would never "date" someone who paid me to fk them.
What you said is right but IN your case. Maybe most of your clients that you have met are married man so you thought all men are cheater, but what about those single guy? Like myself i am single and don't have a gf so that's not consider cheating, right? When the thirst come, provider are basically the fastest way to hydrate( sorry if this sentence offended you guys LOL).Yeah right i paid girl to fk me but that doesn't mean i am a heartless beast and i will settle for the right woman.
In short, I would never "date" someone who paid me to fk them.
Wow. Seriously, some very lonely people in this world. Not mockng you, but I just don't get it. What is it about some people that makes them sooooooo dependent on others for their so called happiness? I am just not built that way I suppose. I need my family and God to be happy, and that's about it.
The fear of carpal tunnel syndrome.
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A lot of ladies act. I incorporate my personality, but there are times I really, REALLY, have to act because the chemistry isn't there.
When I say chemistry, I mean good back and forth conversation, some attraction, good sex, good time... all around smooth.
I'm not saying it can't happen... it does, but be really careful. And a woman will act for a SD.
Just FYI
Again, not saying it's impossible. Watch Pretty Woman, LOL
my friend. There is a reason they call this a hobby . . . Be clear that fundamentally this is a business transaction, a wonderful, fun, exciting and most times quite satisfying transaction with beautiful, sexy and very accommodating ladies - but it begins when you walk in the door and ends when the door closes behind you and frankly that's the point . . .
I've done it, quite a few have done it, but it takes an iron fortitude to do it. and what London describes is not love, here in the English language, we have another word for it, its called LUST!
While I've met a few great gals where there was some sort of chemistry or something between us that was a more real emotion that's not the norm in this hobby. Big diffrence between lust and sexual chemistry than love, this should be a required course in high school maybe there wouldnt be so many divorces. If you're looking for love here you're in the wrong place. Yes you can make some cool friendships here but to test you're theory call the gal that you think is in love with ya or vice versa and say " hey I'd love to see you but I'm a bit strapped for cash and listen to the crickets chirping in the awkward silence. The Beatles said "can't buy me love" they were full of shit. Well maybe not but ya get the point you can buy a couple hours of it anyways, but once the meter stops running go back to reality.
People wonder why we PREFER married guys...duh, they are not fkin stupid for the most part.
Yes it is, what's sad or funny depending on how ya look at it is if some fellas are this emotional or delusioned here imagine what the poor gals have to listen to behind closed doors. Don't know how y'all can keep a straight face sometimes!!!
...insisted I say I love him, just so he could imagine I was his girlfriend during session. (this was a long time ago.) I obliged. I then got text after text saying he would take care of me and if he could be my real boyfriend. He would pay all my bills...
after he ripped me off $80 and never paid it. Yeah... no.
It does seem that the clients (of mine) who profess to have feelings for me are definitely the stingier ones.
I said in a post before...if a guy has to insist to me that we are friends, then I know I'm about to get screwed (in a bad way).
I guess there are those out there who just open up their pockets - buy girls cars, condos, REAL jewelry, etc. I've even met a few like that. One followed my completely indifferent friend around like a lost dog. He was very nice but super-clingy. I just don't have the tolerance to deal with that.
Can't handle the velcro effect some guys produce. Everything comes with a price and those big gifts might look all shiny and new in the beginning, but sometimes the ladies find out the hard way that there is a lot more involved. Those guys usually want a lot more of "you" for the price of that gift. Gifts are supposed to be given free of strings, not so much in this business.
Well we did get married and pledged to give half of our assets it away when we part. Smart
Honestly (WARNING: brutal honesty ahead!!) it's pathetic! You don't even know her. She's a pretty girl, she was nice to you, she was willing to have sex with you. ALL OF WHICH YOU PAID HER FOR. Some guys just take basic kindness/professional friendliness and RUN with it to the nearest Vegas chapel!!! Until they turn around, and the girl is running away screaming.
And this???
In the absence of her throwing herself at you and saying that she loves you (unpaid) you really have no right to make these demands of her. Or even ask her on a free date. YOU PAID AN ESCORT FOR HER SERVICE. Aside from that, your relationship is strictly platonic. You are her client.
I am sorry, but too many men wonder why they are taken advantage of...because it is really THIS freaking easy to get a guy to think you love him, and keep taking his money. There are women in this business who do just that. Me...not worth the hassle. I can't lie too well, and I would actually feel guilty about taking things so far just to be a hooker on retainer. If I want a SD, we will work that out, but to lead some guy on for years on end is pathetic.
I'm on Eros under MY TERMS. I want to get paid per date. End of story. I purposely DO NOT detail long-term arrangements or make any provision for them on my site, because that is not what I want.
Guys who want more just stress me out. I'll usually try to keep things real, and keep them as clients (on my terms). But that never works. They might pretend to agree with me, and might book me for one or two more dates. But they always give up when they see that I'm just not that malleable. Then, I guess it's onto one of those girls who will gladly put up with that sh** in order to milk them for all they're worth.
... you have to be soooo careful. The PROVIDER doesn't know the guy!
Also, I've had many occasions where I've befriended guys who seemed lonely because i wanted to help them. Well, they stalked me constantly and I had to get some dudes to open a can of whoopass. (Not physically, btw. These were nice gents.) It actually hurt me to know they had to sit the guy down and discuss it with him, it broke my heart, and I don't want to go through that again.
Guys and gal's see what they want to see. Make sure you're looking through a clear lense, and not YOUR lens... the lens of wisdom and reality.
xoxo
Said in respect.
and I've also had some clients I've really liked. A few of them I remember to this day, and would really like to see them again, but they probably don't know how to find me. 
But I'd keep it professional because sometimes, friends who don't see each other so much can have a much better time...
I know my original post was harsh, but I'm really not heartless. It's just that when I've lost three clients this summer to this kind of thing, and I never encouraged it in the least...and to be called names that I really don't feel that I deserved...it's like, dude, just get a LIFE, you are grown a** successful businessmen!! I'm just a kid and have nothing in common with you anyway!! WTF, do they think I'm gonna be their kids' stepmom? Are they gonna come 'hang out' with me and my bff's at the hip places? It's just lunacy and honestly I feel a bit put upon because I asked for NONE of it. Lol.
How utterly mature of them. I bet when they don't get their own way at the office they pout and stomp their feet in defiance.
Another example of fantasy turning into their own personal reality and when you didn't buy into the silliness, they got butt hurt and left or you had to "dismiss" them into the no book zone, at which time they pitched a hissy fit and started name calling
All of the ones who called me names this summer asked me on free dates after they met me ONCE. When I had to put a diplomatic stop to their emails etc. (for example, one guy asked me to take pics for him at my house - it just SO wasn't a cool request - way out of line, and kind of creepy, since I was afraid he wanted to look up my location in the metadata), suddenly, I was cold, businesslike, fake, using them, and even once, 'Oh, I see now, I'm just another john. I guess I forgot you were a W----.' I'm like, I used you? Where did you find me (answer: eros or p411)? I advertised paid dates, and that's what you got. I never advertised girlfriend-for-life, or in any way hinted at it. Insanity.
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HAHA, good morning everyone.
No, if you can get a provider, you've not only got a hot girl, but you have someone who's a professional in the sack. Score!
xoxo
Had a hangover this morning, sorry! :P
xoxo
and no, I don't really feel like sharing all of my experiences in this department, get back to me when I am PUI, and I may feel like sharing. lol
Most providers, just like most women in general are seeing "someone" why can't that "someone" be me? Honestly, it's not that big a deal, but it does help to not be a lying, cheating pig of a married guy if you want a "professional" to start giving it away for free.
Even, in the unlikely event she does fall for you, are you comfortable with having an open relationship? Or are you the possessive type and want her to quit the biz?
I fairly recently had a date and spoke to a provider that fell for one of her clients. On the one hand, she is turned on or has feelings for the guy or both, on the other hand, she doesn't want to give up her independence.
I'll give it a month or two, maybe six months, tops. Anyway, meanwhile, she's obviously comfortable with seeing nice clients like me...
YMMV...We humans are tricky apes, ain't we?
If a provider is really good at her job I guess this is the result, men falling for her. We all get it and it's not fun or flattering(well a tiny bit) but then I just get annoyed and then have to have the chat and then risk losing money when I hurt someone who now wants to walk because I don't fel the same.
Guys, it is a fantasy and those of you who are falling, need to give your head a shake and realize she is great at her job
Much is said and written about what is exactly being bought and sold between ladies and gents who frequent this board and in what context do these transactions take place. Well, after speaking with a dear friend today, a perfect analogy hit me. We're all at Fantasy Camp.
OK, I'm a failed musician. It was fun, I tried,I failed to do it as a pro and got a real job. A buddy of mine who I met in Nashville is a little bit less of a failed musician, but he didn't make it too far either. But, wouldn't you know it - he just got back from fantasy music camp run by a huge rock star.
He paid his money and had the total rock star experience. Did a concert with the star, and it was really good. Great chemistry on stage with the band, all fantasy campers and the rock star. And then it ended. And then they went home. And they have great memories. And if they want to go and have the rock star experience again the pay their money and go to camp again.
The tough thing is that my buddy felt he still had it and maybe he impressed the rock star. And the rock star said really good things to him - totally stroked his ego. A lot of it was probably true to a point as my buddy is really good -- but it ain't gonna happen; it was all part of the fantasy cap experience.
He's not getting a second shot at music fame with this guy. He's going home.... if this rock star found the next Jimi Hendrix at this camp would he sign him and start touring together? perhaps. But the odds of that are about, well we all know what those odds are. It can happen, sure. But a lot of guys here are successful for succeeding when people said they are crazy. It becomes an MO, but in the end a CEO at Fantasy Camp is still a fantasy camper.
So...welcome to fantasy camp, everyone. I think the best thing everyone can do is just enjoy the moment. The fantasy is in being here - not the dream of what happens next. And at least the dining is better here than in camp dining halls ;
Love is all about chemistry. I care deeply about some of my long term clients whom I've gotten to know more intimately and personally. By the way, none of them are married and all of them are much older than me. What set these gentlemen apart was that they gave me little (and Big) gifts that I never asked for.
They saw me so often that we really got to know each other and became real friends. Money was never a issue for these gentlemen so it wasn't always an issue for me, besides, it seemed to rain from the heavens at times.
I am thinking of one person in particular right now. He took me away from these boards for two years. Read my reviews if you doubt.
Yes I love him . . . But he is much to old for me . . . Which is sad . . . For him . . . And me . . . Because there will be no happy ending . . . But many many wonderful memories! (And yes I still see him once and while when I visit Atlanta . . . and I never ask for money because we are the best of friends).
Yes you can find love on these boards but I wish it didn't make me feel so sad.
For the good times . . .
And many more loves!
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