Hey ladies and gents! Perhaps some of you have had this experience. It happened to me twice. Booked providers ahead of time(a day prior) and on the morning of the appt they texted that they felt they were having their period and for me to reschedule. But then a few hours later or almost immediately the same providers are posting! I personally do not believe this and think this is a common lie used by providers who are looking for a legitimate reason to back out of an appt. But my question is what could trigger this kind of action? In my case it just happened out of the blue.
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Thoughts please.
... that they switched to men?
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Thoughts please.
Whether like they started their period or not you will not know. Nothing you can do about it.
I understand that sometimes ladies cancel day of or last minute because they realize they b just can't go through with an appointment. It happens. Despite ant amount of money they stand to earn or not earn, this business or work is hard at times. In the moment they need to back out.
does it suck? Yes, you never know who has a legitimate reason for backing out and who is just flaking out.
If they seem to have a great reputation, give them another chance. If they have a sketchy reputation or history of cancelling, you may want to just move on.
that being said, I had one if my favs announce, while she was in full CG mode that she thought she just started her period. We were fully covered of course, but what was I to do then?
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Thoughts please.
On the front page of course.
Saying that she reserves the right to cancel last minute.
and yes it's happened to me where a woman started her flow mid, or just before coitus.
Just lay down a towel, that's what I do. A little blood won't hurt you. It will ruin a set of sheets, and the mattress pad underneath it however without taking the precaution of a towel. Make sure you take a long shower afterwards to get your junk clean or you will end up ruing a pair of underwear to boot. lol
rinse off the rubber for future use. That's a bit unsafe.
Just be thankful she wasn't sitting on your face with your tongue deep in her when she started
Are you implying that a woman on her period should be so incapacitated that she's unable to post on the boards? Just what are you trying to say?
I've seen many posts over time complaining that providers don't warn clients about it being that time of month, and what happened is the menu is limited. Would you rather that a provider go ahead with their appointment with you and you find out when you get there that she has her period?
Seems to me like posting ads or contributing to discussion boards would be a good way to kill some time when you're unable to work. Unless she's advertising immediate availability, I don't really understand what the OP's problem is.
I've seen many posts over time complaining that providers don't warn clients about it being that time of month, and what happened is the menu is limited. Would you rather that a provider go ahead with their appointment with you and you find out when you get there that she has her period?
I meant posting an ad of being available.
... as it would have made your OP a lot clearer.
If you're sure she was advertising for IMMEDIATE availability, then the mystery is, why cancel a confirmed appointment and take a chance on getting another one? It just doesn't make sense. I suspect we're not getting the full story here.
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Thoughts please.
totally agree...no reason why not to tell ahead of time...unless you have a medical problem that makes it totally unpredictable...but for the most of us we can guesstimate...i have an app on my phone that keeps track and can tell me a predictable time for my next cycle...that is the first calendar i look at before my availability calendar
Is there a postpone cycle button you can push, if you need to do something that day?
My periods are unpredictable so I stopped trying to time them a long time ago. There are ways to work on your period without the client knowing and I've never had any issues.
That's for future appointments.. I don't get your problem.. I have seen a few girls during their time of the month.. One was by accident.. she said she thought she was done.. but wasn't (yeah right.. I was covered so no biggie and she really smelled that day so no DATY anyway).. the other with disclosure.. what a mess.. small head.. with regrets..
I don't really have a problem with cancelling the appointment but I just wanted to know what folks think about it. I just thought that girls should be able to gestimate and schedule with that time period.
Lol sorry just teasing you. When you said they were posting, meaning posting for work on that very same day? Or maybe trying to book future appointments? Periods can last 3-7 days and on that first day it can be awful!! I won't go into detail but sometimes the date our monthly visitor comes can change and surprise us! It's not always exact same time every month.
I don't work on mine, especially not on the first day.
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...I got mine very unexpectedly on the morning of a very anticipated playdate. I didn't mention it until I got to the providers hotel. Then I told her about it and gave her the full donation and said maybe we could just fool around a bit or cuddle, but not have her perform any DATY. She insisted on giving me a full and wild session anyway. That's why she's my ATF 
Other than taking DATY off the table, everything else can proceed with a little extra caution to prevent flinging it around the room. It's never stopped me in civil life. Hasn't yet been an issue in this endeavor.
Each time I told the gal it was not a problem for me because I enjoy lots of other things besides intercourse, and each time they were caught off-guard mumbling something about not feeling right about it.
More than likely I lost out to some better deal that they had, or perhaps they had an opportunity to do something more interesting, etc.
We'll never know for sure.
Part of this life that we call the hobby. You have to roll with the punches
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Professionals wouldn't have business without customers. Professionals shouldn't be only ones making decision.
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reserved three hours, say, and was looking forward to it.
And then woke up the morning of the "big day" with fever-chills-etc; I would, of course, cancel.
I know a period is not an illness, but for someone who --like me-- loves DATY, it interferes with a date as much as a case of the flu.
Am I being too hard on the providers? You know when we were growing up that was what girls used to say when they didn't want to see you intimately. Thoughts please.
Periods. Airport delays. Food poisoning the night before. I'm just not into it tonight... I have heard them all.
At first it made me quite frustrated as spare time does not come easily to me.
Then one day it struck me: trying to figure out why a provider cancels is like trying to broker peace in the Middle East - it ain't gonna happen.
I've had enough kind feedback over time to know it's likely not anything about me that's causing this cancellation - esp with someone I haven't seen... so I just look at cancellations now as if someone gave me a totally unexpected gift of between $400 and $1000 I take that cash and treat myself to something that will last a whole lot longer than a couple of O's. I should start naming them after the provider lol: the XXX laptop; the YYY suit...
And then her "booker" posted the ad without the lady knowing...that's my take.
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It's happened to me. She tells me she can't do Full Service. But a BJ is fine. I went and saw her. If I'm in the mood for Full Service and a provider is on her monthly cycle I'll call another one I know. Not all providers are on their monthly cycle at the same time.
For the first time recently I had to back out of an appointment with a client last minute because of my period- Normally I don't, because my services are a little "alternative" & I don't do full service, but I provide something separate from my usual for this client and I cum so hard with this guy I was worried the menstrual cup would bust out.
FYI, btw: most providers use a menstrual cup & just provide services anyways, and the client rarely knows.
So....either these girls don't use a cup, or, like in my personal case, liked you enough that they were worried about making a mess.
It is an honest concern you have, especially about the posting right after, I wouldn't believe it either if I was you.
But what a lot of clients don't realize, is (at least in my experience) is you have to continually post wether you are working or not to stay relevant and in peoples minds. When I post today, I don't expect to get a legitimate client from today (it is rare) as I have a work schedule and 24hr notice and I screen, plus just because a client contacts me doesn't mean I will see him, if I don't think we are compatible it's a no go.
So when I post today, it is for a client for next week.
Some girls are like me, but not all. Maybe those girls lied, it is possible, but in my experience most providers work on their period anyways, and will try not to mention it (it breaks the fantasy) unless they have to
twice on me with same provider. First time was after FIV. She was my second provider ever, so it killed the mood for me even though it had happen to me many times in civie life. The second time was after CFS and noticed it as I was cleaning up in the bathroom. It wasn't a lot so I didn't mention it to her (didn't want to embarrass her) and we continued the visit with another great round. I just didn't do DATY. I mentioned it to her in a text afterwards. She apologized and said she thought it was close. I told her things happen.
I'd rather be told upfront, so that we can reschedule. If it happens during the visit, I'd play it by ear.
Where they on BP ?
Your lucky that they had the decency to cancel on you. It is possible that they were seeing guys who don't mind seeing providers on their periods.
I advertise and post but most of my dates are scheduled 3 weeks to months in advance. Every so often it's a same week appointment.
It's a monthly thing that can last 3-7 days. They most likely are telling you the truth. OR they may really have gas, diarrhea, or cramps.
When I'm cramping I don't go out. I can barely walk if I don't pop a few Advil before the pain starts.
If it's too stressful for you, and it'll get to you, just move on.
several reasons she cancels on you after being screened, many "legitimate". It would depend on how hot I was for her or how she responded in my subsequent attempt to book with her. I find reliable escorts appreciate your understanding more than you may realize. Most don't turn away good business without a good reason.
Even if you're getting blown off, it's almost impossible to prove. I too dislikeirresponsibility. I don't think you mention seeing her before or being a regular, but that might provide some context to speculate.
If it's difficult to get out to see a provider (married/SO) the more important it might be to have a backup plan. Agencies help a lot
in this regard as they often have another lady available to help.
I'd wager more than one ATF was discovered this way.
I've never had to cancel a date before due to my period, but I can understand why some providers feel the need to.... Between being cranky, bloating, cramping, and well bleeding (duh! lol), you really aren't in a position to entertain another person.
Really and truly.
It is just so much simpler to assume that she's being straight with me, send her a nice email/text that I regret that it didn't work out this time and.... book someone else. It's just not that hard. Move on..
Thanks everyone for your contributions and thoughts. What great perspectives you've given me. I appreciate it.
Happy holidays!
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