Most providers I know do have a man and the ones who don't could if they wanted to.

And yes, I have a boyfriend.

Thay think it's hilarious that hobbyists fall in love with them and want to be boyfriends.

There are a record number of Stunning Newbie Providers in NYC alone!

All asking top $$$$

They may or may not have BF's but they need their Christian Louboutin, red soles and all, Jimmy Choo, Ghost, Lucy Barnes, Sorelle Firenze, plus, plus, plus. These things cost way more than a typical beautiful gal can make at 9 to 5 so on their backs they go and on their knees and, and, and soon they are lining to buy, buy, buy.

I've been married (more than once) and I love being "in-love" but I haven't found a man that could keep up with me.  Plus, love fades, reality takes over and, I don't know, maybe if I found the right guy it would work and last, but while the beginning is great, long term it dies.

Plus, my life is too complicated and a boyfriend would complicate it more.  Unless he could take on my bills and my debt (and my bill/debt are high), I couldn't just quit working and I don't think I could do this job if I was in a serious committed relationship.

So, for me, for now, I'm going to have fun, fall in-love over and over, and not have to pick up his dirty socks in the morning.

I agree. so many stunningly beautiful providers that sometimes it is hard to chose just one !!!

But we already know that which is why we pay for it. Most of these ladies like the idea of a SO but they are in this business for a reason and its not for a bf.
Think about this though. All of the reasons these ladies will give for not having a bf are the same reasons some of us don't want a gf.  I no longer want someone around me all the time, I'm looking for a best friend that's a beautiful woman,  likes to have fun and party, loves to have sex but is independent to where we can see each other for a couple of days a week but do our own things on the other days
We all want someone that knows us better than anyone else, someone that makes us feel safe, someone we can count on if in trouble or will drop everything to get us out of a situation we find ourselves in. Knowing you can count on someone like that vs. having them up your ass every second of the day are VERY different things.

MM

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You are hilarious lol. Psst, they also laugh when they have girlfriends and charge hobbyists to do a threesome.

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Ha, I knew you would come around to my way of thinking bwahahahaha. I've created a monster.

is my focus right now, so I'm not interested in a boyfriend.

I've tried having a boyfriend once while escorting and it didn't work for several reasons. So for me personally, no thanks.

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What other choice do they have. Lazy bums doesn’t contribute anything other than providing their dick.

I agree with most of what everyone has said already, +1 on MM's definitely.

I just wanted to point out, just because a lot of women seem like they would be perfect girlfriend or wife material when you meet them or see their site, doesn't mean they're like that at all in real life. Sure, you can be super hot and smart and seem like you have your head on right when it comes to your business, but when it comes to love - hormones are often not a woman's friend and she may not be the best at real life relationships when it comes down to it. So yeah, maybe there are plenty of people who would like to date who they meet, but in reality, probably very few of those women are really like whomever they are portraying themselves to be within their professions. Of course we all seem like great people to date, we pay attention to you, cater to you, have sex with you when you want it, don't give you drama or fights, the list goes on. But would we be like that without the money, probably not.
In real life, many of those very same women would be the biggest pain in the ass girlfriends anyone has ever met. Because we're humans sometimes you're just a bitch and your SO has to deal with it. It's amazing how much a beautiful woman's stock can fall the second she seems "crazy" or like a "drama-queen" or "high maintenance" to a guy, I hear all those adjectives constantly from my male friends so I know there are plenty of women out there, hot or not, that inspire that. So then that kills the good guys we probably would like to date and who are you left with? The douche bags who would date someone while they did this for a living or take advantage of it, and most of us would rather just stay single than deal with that.

Only unrealistic Love can survive. If it is unrealistic, is it love?

Admittedly there is a bit of anguish on his side over my work but our finances are entirely separate even if he does try his best to 'buy me out' of it!

"Living" with you may not be any better than the "bitch/wife" we are trying to get away from at home! :-

And visa-versa! lol

Ha, so damn true. You can ask my sugar daddy just how much off the clock time really COSTS him bwahahhaa. Too many people fall for an illusion of what they 'think" a person is. Spend a week with them, and see if that changes your point of view. Not ONE client has ever seen the real me in every aspect, or the poor thing would run off screaming. It is simply crazy to assume we are going to show all of our facets, kinks, and issues in a few hours. I don't know...maybe I am just not one for blind affection, but I can certainly sympathize with those who are.

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He hates what I do. Absolutely loathes it.
He has permission to sleep with other women but chooses not to.  

His friends don't know what I do and we're young people so its highly unlikely his friends would ever come across me professionally.
He tells his friends what I tell my friends - my cover story.

I am probably one of the most consistent people you will ever meet, mostly because I found out a long time ago that it can be exhausting to keep up with a lie.
If I tell you something about myself you can bet it's the truth, I have never seen the point in pretending to be something I'm not. My attitude and demeanor are pretty much the same day in and day out.

MM

What you see is what you get.

I'm pretty level headed and don't really get out of control too often, so when I do it's something I feel passionately about and will fight with everything I have. Like I said though, that rarely happens.

MM

Be patient. I'm on the way.

No, I can steadfastly say that I don't want a boyfriend - at least not at this point in my life.

Why bother?! I have a rockin' career that keeps me busy during the day, I have a part-time job during the evenings that I love beyond belief (both of these avocations are non-hobby related, by the way), I volunteer as much time I can to local community organizations, and, most importantly, I'm raising my kiddo completely on my own as a single Mom. With all of this going on, I simply don't have any time time or energy remaining to devote to the search, upkeep, and maintenance of a boyfriend.

But why would I even want to find a boyfriend when I have the privilege and luxury of enjoying the companionship of my gentlemen friends when our busy schedules allow? To me, it's a win-win situation for both of us.  

Just my humble two cents' worth....

I have spoken with a number of providers and many are insecure about themselves and have trust issues when it comes to relationships.

You may think that they are the most beautiful women in the world, but in their eyes, they are not good enough and constantly compare themselves to others.

Some providers long for having a "normal" life like their friends (yes, they are human and have friends too).

Almost all providers I've asked said that they want to get married and have children in the future, but they have seen so many married guys that they are worried their future husband might cheat on them (again, goes back to the point that women are insecure).

These providers know that married men cheat, and some of these guys don't think it's cheating because they are paying. So in the provider's mind, she will always be worried that he might seeing a provider because she has been there before..

You pretty much have to be in an open relationship to be able to work as a provider and have a mate...sorry, but what's the point? I fk for money, so on my off days sex is the last thing on my mind. Sorry, but it's true. I could not imagine being a high volume provider and then having to take care of yet another c*ck at the end of that day, who was at home. Hell no. This business gives you freedom, and that's how I like it. Then again, I have already did the marriage thing twice and had a child, so my fairy tale wedding dreams are covered. I guess it might be different for a woman who has never been married.