The thread below got me wondering about this because there have been clients with whom I had an amazing time but they did not become "regulars" after that.   And yeah, I'd really like to have some playtime with them again with or without the meter running.  

and obviously my answer is "Why the hell not?"

it very rarely happens..but it does happen..

on a higher level, I always want to explore more! It would probably work only as a "fuck-buddy" scenario, at least with me. I've had close relationships with providers outside of the business and it was too awkward/dramatic to continue. But thatis another topic.

It's fun.

That includes friends with benefits or dating.  Or if  my ATF wanted to hook me up with a friend of hers, or whatever.  If there's chemistry, I'll go for it, donation or no donation.

Was she still with CosmicSuckUp at the time?

But she's made no bones about how much she likes me as well.  

In terms of playtime, I've gotten OTC a few times, but nothing regular.  Depending on who it it, I'd be open to it.

I saw a wonderful provider and at one point it became pretty regular. We had many occasions that we would go over on time and she would not be bothered at all because she was there for fun and this was as fun for her as it was for me. If she were to contact me and ask for a hookup off the books so to speak I would have dropped everything and met her. Not because it was free but because I had a legitimately good time with her.

Couple of reason that I feel it's a good idea:
1. It will make it appear more "normal" and not cross the line and a better chance of getting him to come back.
2. You can do a test drive and see if the connection is real. If it's not real then you can change it back to regular rate.
3. If he won't take the bait of a big discount then he's probably not going to be interested in anything else.

If the attraction and interests were mutual - a definite yes !

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

The thread below got me wondering about this because there have been clients with whom I had an amazing time but they did not become "regulars" after that.   And yeah, I'd really like to have some playtime with them again with or without the meter running.    
   
 Now, I don't think I personally would ever actually throw that offer out there to someone but as a hypothetical:  
   
 If you met with  a provider once or twice, and then out of the blue she contacted you to tell you she'd like to hook up just for fun, free of charge, no strings attached..... what would you think?  
   
 Would this be crossing the line?  
   
 Would you just be too suspicious of her motives to take her up on it, even if you were physically inclined to do so?  
   
   
 Any other thoughts or opinions??    
   
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

and is completely contrary to what SHE seems to want.

I don't mind some extra time if not services, but to go all out FB can really open the door to, let's say, misunderstandings, and worse

Just because they enjoy it. Perish the thought.

There are a couple I wouldn't pay to fuck again, but for free? Hellz yeah! I'm with GaG on this one - what's complicated about this, and what kind of idiot would turn an NSA offer down?

There are more than a few women I have seen that I would not see again, even for free. OTOH The overwhelming majority I would love to see again, and if one of those lovely ladies were to reach out to be unsolicited to invite me out, I would not only be honored and flattered, but I would do everything in my power to be available as well.

I wish things are simpler, but they are not. If a provider ask me to be her fuck buddy for free after 1 meeting then I will probably not reply nor go back to see her. I would have a huge concern that she could become a potential BSC stalker. I am not in a position that I won't have to be worried about it (SO, job, friends, etc.). That is just me. A direct approach won't work on me. She should know all the possibility and decide what approach works for her.

Why not give it a chance and try something new?
If the sex is that good and it leads to fuck buddies.
Then it's a win for both parties involved.
I am sure the lady will still get gifts at times even when it's not required.  
The guy does not have to think about how much time or the cost. LOL

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

The thread below got me wondering about this because there have been clients with whom I had an amazing time but they did not become "regulars" after that.   And yeah, I'd really like to have some playtime with them again with or without the meter running.    
   
 Now, I don't think I personally would ever actually throw that offer out there to someone but as a hypothetical:  
   
 If you met with  a provider once or twice, and then out of the blue she contacted you to tell you she'd like to hook up just for fun, free of charge, no strings attached..... what would you think?  
   
 Would this be crossing the line?  
   
 Would you just be too suspicious of her motives to take her up on it, even if you were physically inclined to do so?  
   
   
 Any other thoughts or opinions??    
   
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

So I have only met a handful of ladies, but there is only one that takes my breath away.  I would always welcome her even if she just was having a bad day and wanted to talk.  I would listen.  She offered to meet me off the clock once when my friend past away, but our schedules didn't click.

Of course it's because she's off her meds.

There have been a couple who I would welcome this arrangement with. As long as we both are in agreement about boundaries.

There are many ways this can go quite negative, based on personal experience, such as the following.  

Don't forget there are a bunch of us waiting to see that chick fight before you have your freebie.

I am reminded of the old Groucho Marx joke about not wanting to join a country club that would have me as a member.  So, I am with Mr. Fisher on this one:  no freebies from a professional.

Like the scorpion, it's just her nature.

Dear Debra:
I was just wondering how would you go about establishing the nature and scope of the relationship? Also what are the main questions you would have in terms of frequency of visits and a preferred price for those times as well?  Also what are you questions regarding boundaries and how much lead time would you need as well?  Those are critical questions that you might want to ask yourself and go over with those that might fall in to that class of preference.

I only speak for myself, but if life has taught me anything it is that love is free.

I have to disagree with your statement.  Love isn't free at all.  True love is far more expensive than sex.  I'm a bit surprised you'd see it backwards.  Did you ever marry that other woman?  I lost track of that period in your life.


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Unless one or both of the parties are BSC, the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out and they both go their separate ways.

Never would happen to me anyway, I don't even play at home.   Anyway, I happen to love my W and I like the really clear lines offered by the green stuff in the envelope.   My big head tells me that the day I sleep with someone without having the envelope as a facilitator, then I really should just call it quits on the marriage.  

the issue. Without pay, there is no reason to be together but mutual pleasure and enjoyment. It can be the best sex of your life, which happened to me twice. But both times there was more than sex happening. By hour, the sex was far less than the talking, the laughing, the baths, the Sundays, the dinners, etc. It can slide right into a relationship without either trying. Meanwhile, The Hobby continues: Reviews, unavailable evenings, the pillow/shop talk, etc.

Rationalizing to yourself that only having sex for pay is somehow less like really cheating is something that even a "non cheating" guy like me can understand. I have dated a lot of hookers and what they do to make money I never considered "cheating" if I found out they were fucking some other guy for free I would in most cases find it a "betrayal" of sorts.

I would never have a fuck buddy where I didn't enjoy her company. That doesn't mean I would have to fall in love and "own" her. It would just mean that two people who enjoy each others company, have at least one or two interests in common, and are great in the sack together. For the life of me I can't figure out what's wrong with that.

Are okay with him never paying again. Really hard to give it away and then when that gives out, go back to p4p.  

I'm in DC right now, isn't she in Baltimore? Three-some?! Bahahahahaha!

I know I asked about a particular boy, but he's single and I'm more fully interested.

but if you would like to take LWAM off my hands so I can concentrate on "earning" my freebie, it might prevent us from completely trashing a hotel suite

Interesting approach, a private advertising plan.  Here is how I see your approach because I have two that let me know when they are available to play.  I can't always see them when they are available for various reasons, budget constraint being one of them.

their own ego.

Ha! Dinner bell..

Well, you can't always see them but I said favoriteS, not favorite (which I'm sure you are).

is what I'd call myself if I ever say NO to such offer (LOL)

I'm just LMAO at the thought of you and LWAM in the same area code much less the same hotel room.

I would have no interest in having a hooker girlfriend. My mindset is different when seeing a whore than when seeing a civilian. I would certainly not be OK with the idea of a girlfriend fucking other men. If it starts as a hooker/John relationship it ends that way. Yes, it's inappropriate.

Re: Ha! Dinner bell..

I would hope that they each consider me a favorite because sometimes we all play together.  The benefit of spending time with two ladies who are also good friends

As much as most guys would jump at the thought of your buddy idea, I've seen too many ladies cross too many boundaries to believe you. So let me just turn down your wild offer. But if you want to give me a huge volume discount, and throw in a freebie on my four fake birthdays, I'll give it some thought.

I am afraid my attempt to be ironic has landed with a thud.

I think you can count on this not being an issue for you.

"Maybe" she would stop obsessing over me if you gave her a good fucking?

and you're definitely not. But enjoy your tired old stereotypes if they comfort you. And don't forget, light's out at 8pm sharp, right after 700 Club!

As it happens, I've known more providers who HAVE dated a client than those who never had.

Besides the hookers that somehow wanted me as a BF, I can think of dozens of hookers that I know or have known personally that have had monger  boyfriends. I bet you if I think hard enough, that number might actually be in the hundreds.

This shit happens all the time and so does the "I fell for a hooker scenario" and providers wonder why they are being stalked, then outed. Gosh....

is providers don't have enough sex? My second thought is ... What's the catch?

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

The thread below got me wondering about this because there have been clients with whom I had an amazing time but they did not become "regulars" after that.   And yeah, I'd really like to have some playtime with them again with or without the meter running.    
   
 Now, I don't think I personally would ever actually throw that offer out there to someone but as a hypothetical:  
   
 If you met with  a provider once or twice, and then out of the blue she contacted you to tell you she'd like to hook up just for fun, free of charge, no strings attached..... what would you think?  
   
 Would this be crossing the line?  
   
 Would you just be too suspicious of her motives to take her up on it, even if you were physically inclined to do so?  
   
   
 Any other thoughts or opinions??    
   
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

but regardless of your financial status, I agree you have nothing to worry about.

You've "seen" them? Pray tell, where and when did you "see" this happen? You were right there, at the dinner table perhaps, watching a SW try to "latch on" to a "rich man" with her mercenary little claws? Are you sure you weren't in a theater seat when you "saw" this?

Posted By: Oldtimemonger

   
 From what I've seen it happens but it's relatively rare. I have seen sex workers try to latch on to rich men.  
   
  I'm glad I have nothing to worry about.

"Seen them." No. Told by agency owners and hookers who knew what their hooker pals were up to, Yes.

Then the correct statement would have been "I've HEARD that sex workers try to latch on to rich men." But that doesn't fit as well with your "been there, done that and I'll tell you how it all is" narrative, right?

I might ask what your agenda. I've SEEN madams and hookers who TOLD me about it. Did I get that correct enough for you? What is your point? Arguing for the sake of arguing

I'd go deaf I'm sure.

OTC we went out for dinner, to movies and sports events.  dates did not include sex.  that was reserved for "pay time".  after all , she had to make a living.  she retired a few years ago, but we keep in touch