What do people in the hobby (hobbyist and providers) say when someone tells them "I love you"? I find myself speechless for the first few seconds and then think....well maybe he means "I love you" as a friend in which case I say I love you too.  

This life of ours is wonderful, I can say so from my perspective and I get the impression from providers that I've seen, the same, although for different reasons.

I don't respond.  I also stop seeing them.  I don't cross that line, personal stays personal and professional stays professional.  

saying it as early as the other person would like.  Those are very strong words and I have only said them to few people.

I've made it clear every time I say it that I don't have any idea who she is or what she's like in real life. I love the woman with the stage name that I meet in hotel rooms. Who wouldn't? I don't say, "I love you". I say, "I love Suzie Sucksalot", or whatever her stage name is.

to my ATF and sometimes she will respond in kind, but WE BOTH KNOW that this is part of the fantasy and NOT something that spills over into RL. It is something that has evolved over years and not just something I blurted out on the second visit. It just enhances the GF experience for me and makes that halo effect last a little longer.  

Unless it was something that turned the client on, and it was understood it was just a "fantasy" thing.

...have become friends to a degree outside of our sessions...we've gone shopping together and had dinners off the clock...we are close enough that a hug and "I love you" are perfectly natural...

....What girl wouldn't want declarations of love while being showered with champagne and kisses? Rox, send me someone to love; I'm lonely! Lol

(I mean paying clients) who say nice things to you because you are so awesome - the hottest, best, most wonderful hooker in the history of hooking - must be stopped because of all the attention they lavish on you!

Boundaries folks. I don't even feel compelled to tell the people I love "I love you" all the time, do NOT tell me that. You can love things about me, but don't be a creep. Please and thanks.

I'll keep you posted.

"I love your dick in me"

you are right
if guy says these words too soon, it makes me wonder if he says it to every girl
 

Sorry but don't you have fellings for people who have fellings for you?

And for sake definition I’ll talk about directing love to other beings (not things) where it’s a desirable and satisfying place to be with someone and a state of mind to be in when I keep thinking back to that other, however intense.  

I didn't start until two years into our "relationship," and she also knows that I'm polyamorous and would never settle down with just one woman, or expect her to settle down with me.  That makes everything non-threatening, and allows us to love each other as much as we want, with no silly expectations or strings attached.

I've NEVER said it to a provider and the couple who have said it to me were saying it as friends and even then I didn't think they should have used the L word   Say it to the wrong guy and you'll regret it. I think it's grounds for termination if a client says that to a provider. Warn him first that it not acceptable speech given the intimate nature of what we do.

now make me a sammich!

in the past and usually follow by ...f'ing me!  Soooo good!

I did that with my ex wife for a decade and it seemed to work on her.

This post just reminded me I love SavannahStJames

So as I was walking my ATF to her car a few weeks ago, after a very looooong night of straight up sport fucking each other, she kisses me goodbye and say's those 3 little words...without a thought I returned the sentiment, sort of out of habit I suppose. I have seen her 3 times since and she's done it each time since...

one of my atf's and i do a very specific roleplay, and and in character she said "i love you, [role play character name]."

Then I suggest no one ever say they love me in the middle of a session.  

at least she isn't naming the names of all of those creeps!

post!  You really woke 'em up...........

because by your own admission you become "speechless". So maybe it is their nice way of telling you to STFU.....

Rebbecca, just wondering does it make a difference if he says it in the heat of the moment or do you charge that to him personally if he says that casually in an email?  Also how important is it to you that your clients compartmentalize their emotions when they're in the hobby?  I know that you look at behavior as an important aspect of the business.  Would you say that you tend to be suspect when they call often for reasons other than to book? Or when they book more than usual?

If you want to stick to guys that want just sex without connection that's a reasonable strategy....but realize that people can love something or someone in the moment, for exactly what it is. They are not necessarily saying that you're my one and only forever.  The fact that you've connected with someone, or at least they you, enough to elicit loving feelings is a cool thing. That's a huge gift, and for some that's the ultimate of the hobby.  Yes it takes someone who can compartmentalize feelings and keep it in it's place, but there are such people.  

Man! Are you ever going to get stalked ...

Before I met my ATF I had only ever said "I Love You" to one woman in many years.

Like a few others on this thread, my ATF and I say it all the time.  It wasn't something that happened right away; it evolved over a year to several years.  

And if it helps get you off, I'll tell you that I love you, just like when I'm fucking you and I'm getting close I'd like for you to tell me you're cumming (even though I'm quite sure you're faking, that's ok cuz it's fantasy).  

"I'm in love with you."  

were just confirmed by your last post.

...after we had been seeing each other for 2-3 years. It took me by surprise because it was totally out of character for her particular GFE style, which was, among other things, heavily non-verbal (English is not her native language). I responded by indicating my affection for her but stopped short of full verbal reciprocation.  

'are you married', I get speechless. Same type of inappropriate thing to say. But the last lady I saw told me she loved me. I think what she was really saying was thank you so much for the hard cums. I'd much rather have an I love you than are you married.

Lust talking......

Guys who go there don't want an escort, they want a friendship/relationship

You don't like me, or what I have to say? I'm heartbroken.

"I love you" is something that I only say when I'm certain. Ironic that I actually expressed these words to my ATF just 2 days ago while she was traveling with me on my business trip. It was just something that had to get out before I just exploded.

Assuming she really meant it then it is a tough thing to really love someone that doesn't fully do so in return.

...but seconds after I have inadvertently said it to someone that is little more than an acquaintance, I cringe realizing that it was said on impulsive and I just can't wait to either run away or quickly change the subject.

Hey Guys, let me tell you 80% of my friends visit me for real LOVE and INSPIRATION,  
Making love is beautiful  
 
If woman does it just for $$, it is painful I guess  
For me it is a great channel to express my love and care to the world. I have too much of love inside, it feels like an atomic bomb or volcano ready to explode  
 
Just sexual energy by itself is the most powerful force on earth, but it gets wasted quickly  
 
Combine it with love and you will get the secret of life, success, power, happiness  
 
 
Love is beautiful and it is also reflection of your hormones' function. Oxytocin  
 
Take  anti-depressants , and it will most likely screw your hormones. Will kill love..  
How simple is that?

With two long time lovers in NYC during a fantabulous double.  It's a sign of genuine affection, though not necessarily a prelude to marriage.  If your client said that to you, and is a regular and there is chemistry between you, plus the sex is spectacular, what else should he say?

Some people get emotionally involved and others don't as much.
I think he really enjoyed your time together and expressed it.
We are all different and yes act human at times even in this hobby.
Just as long as it does not get creepy on either side.
I really don't see a issue here.

I have two ladies I care about. It takes time to build trust that they know you will not take advantage of their friendship. It is their decision if they want to meet me off the clock, Inwill never ask. I would rather them tell me that it is not necessary.  

I would never name names that's for sure.

And here I thought there was a very wide variety of styles and interests in the hobby....something for everyone. But this does simplify it a lot...escorts are on this earth to fuck without feeling, connection, or personal interest. Okie dokie

That was what I suspected. I figured that either she must have been disappointed that I did not fully reciprocate, or she cut me off because she realized that it would have been too difficult for her to separate her work from her personal feelings if she continued to see me.

I have had that same scenario and I have said "You would not like the real me...I am persnickety, like so much alone time I might be called a recluse, I only fuck hot muscled guys/girls in real life and never want a full time relationship...etc." What you get here is manufactured and I am always happy to see you, happy to suck your dick etc...for a price...take that away and well, no more happy dick sucking illusion.

you dont have feel emotion, connection or personal interest in another's life (that is a civvie relationship) to have good sex. duh!  you can still have good conversation and a relaxing time without all that.  

i should start calling this site the erotic match.com

is antithetical to the purpose of this game.

No, not really. I meant your pics.