I get that guys approach this differently, some just want in and out, some (like me) an hour or two but the overnight thing gives me pause.  I mean, it's a fantasy no matter how long the session but it strikes me that overnight may introduce a level of intimacy that is not necessarily a healthy thing.  So gentlemen, have your overnights by and large been amazing experiences that you'd repeat and recommend?  Ladies, I think us guys would love to hear how you really feel about overnights, but unfortunately you have quite the financial incentive to respond with "overnights rule!"  I'm curious, though, will any be so bold as to express their true feelings?  My $$ says no, surprise me.

There are pro's to this though, you get to see the full girl, you get to cuddle like she's really your girlfriend,  

blurred lines if the chemistry is there and both people are "open" for feelings.  Especially if the guy repeats frequently.  They are great fun in my opinion.  Also great financially.  Other girls hate them and prefer the client to go away after 1-2 hrs max.  It's just really an individual preference from the guys and girls standpoint.

There's an element of risk, which is usually a good thing in terms of the experience. But I don't think you can calculate it as you would a multihour session. It's just a different thing with different dynamics.

For me, it's most natural- we begin by meeting for dinner and then we graduate to more intimate epicurean delights. After some wild fun we sleep, and then wake up for more fun. Then we enjoy a nice breakfast together. It follows a very real path that's taken in real life with dates, and takes the "business" out if it. We can more readily be ourselves and behave like lovers.  

I posted this when I first started on this ter and I literally got hammered.  I am sure you won't be. I agree that the girl has to be  very special. I also think that the night should be well planned.  But i'm certainly no authority.  I can't seem to get one. Most guys I talk with say that the fantasy is better than the reality.  But why take their word for it.

They have a vested financial interest and it shades there judgement. SO many girls over the years I have done the 4 hour thing with will email me when money's tight/rent is due and say "how about an overnight? They're great!"  

I did load the question.  But as you said, you "can be yourselves and behave like lovers."  But you're NOT lovers, no matter how many reviews include the phrase "we blah blah blah like long lost lovers"...blech.  I'm quite sure an overnight has its moments, and that those moments are fun indeed, but what I'm more interested in is whether the overnight gets too personal too quickly and thus weird...but it seems your experiences have been positive, and I find that extraordinary if many of them have been with guys you're meeting for the first time.

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Disappointing as it may be, I have yet to meet an overnight that I didn't enjoy.  This includes the first-date overnights, which many people here will caution against.  If I had any horror stories, I promise I'd dish the dirt!  But the maximum gore I can offer is some bad snoring and the occasional bathroom related awkwardness.

I don't mind doing overnights with first timers -- Translation --> "I don't mind taking your money"

Some girls hate them, some won't even entertain the idea of them. So far all but 1 of my experiences have been lovely with overnights. I love the idea of not being pressured with time and getting to really relax with each other.  You have to be comfortable enough with each other to spend that amount of time and sleep next to each other ect.  
I Don't do an overnights with someone I was meeting for the first time though. You have no idea how it will go or how you'll get along.
But overall I'm a fan.

Such as being able to go out dining and imbibe without thinking about having to drive home that night.

There is also the joy of not thinking about the clock which I find very liberating.

But alas, they can be pricey.

...I'll even go for multi-day dates if "the chemistry is right".  But I'm aware I'm in the minority on my preferences on this point.

There is one young lady with whom I frequently do multi-days (where "frequently" = about six or eight times per year, and "multi-day" = two to four days per engagement...yeah, I really like her, and looking at it from her side, I don't care how good the money is, I know she must be genuinely enjoying spending time with me also).

And btw, not every provider likes to do overnights--some do, some don't.

Try it once.  Isn't the whole point of all this that you get to do new things and have new experiences?

for a number of reasons -

Does the client score the lady on her appearance when she first shows up?

If you are comfortable enough with her to try it, it is the real GFE. You are right about the level of intimacy. If you aren't ready to go there, don't do it.

if we met here? Why can't we be lovers within our little necessary boundaries? That's how I approach my friends. I have the ability to love just about anyone. That's why I'm here. Being a hedonist I would have chosen another path if most of this did not please me.  

It's quite a beautiful experience to share a secret world with another and the intimacy enhances the sex. It has the same dynamics as a one night stand

I'm still just considering it and probably won't but it's fun to see what everyone thinks...some decidedly firm opinions on this subject!

undertaken by someone who wants to experience a person in her entirety- not just her body parts on call for 12 hours.

But if your trepidation is due to the price tag, then don't. You won't enjoy it if your mindset is on "getting your money's worth."

Diminishing marginal returns...I'm not sure I would value the overnight as much as I know I value the 4 or 5 one hour sessions I can get for the same money.

So to speak.

I've done over a dozen with several ladies, and all were memorable and most excellent experiences.  I would repeat with all of them, and probably will.    

I have no desire to spend that much time with someone where I had to be on for that long. I can manage an hour or two but that's about it. I like my sleep and would not appreciate being woken up to give a BJ because he needed to get his monies worth. And who the hell wants to watch a hooker sleep? A waste of money.

Not a surprise. However not all of us can stand it and prefer to make our money with a much shorter visit.

With me, we are usually both hammered at some time during the evening, so she doesn't have to worry, (nor is it likely that she is even capable) about being "on" for the entire time.

I treat most of my overnight "dates" just like I would if I picked up a civvie girl at the bar. Unlike most of the guys here, I don't put a tenth of the thought into them that they do. I simply "have a good time" Sometimes there is a lot of fucking, sometimes very little. I think one of the worst things about overnight dates for most mongers/hookers is "grand expectations" Frankly I don't have any expectations except that I plan on having fun with a sexy woman and that at some point during the evening I am going to "get my pee pee wet" I don't bother planning on how many times as that just sets you up for disappointment.

Women who ENJOY overnights make it enjoyable.

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I probably do at least a half a dozen of them a month, some with women I know, many with women I have never met. Like I have said before, the hobby gives an average guy with a few bucks to spend the ability to have the sex life of a rock star. lol

Personally I like falling asleep with a woman, waking up with her in the morning, having sex, and then having her leave without the issues of having to be responsible for another human being all day.

I don't feel the least bit awkward either, and I often have overnights with women thirty years younger than me or even younger, it's never been a issue for me.

I don't mind paying the girl,  but sometimes they just don't let me pay and keep giving me freebie overnights.  

Most have these lofty expectations that I could not deal with at the best of times let alone all fucking night...lol. IMHO, you do it right. It's the checklist dudes that I find annoying, but each to his or her own. I know I won't be doing one in this life time.

I don't have an overnight rate because I go to sleep at a decent hour and I will be sleeping the whole night UNINTERRUPTED. I mainly offer them to the gents I really like that booked me for dinner date to avoid drunk driving and so we can snuggle. Sometimes, they'll take me to breakfast or they'll drive me to work in the morning.

No, and even if I did that would be irrelevant to this discussion.  A person's marginal propensity to consume a good or service is a function of the utility he or she derives from that good or service.  If I don't enjoy wine it's not rational for me to pay $100 or more for a Bordeaux (or $5 for night train for that matter).  Whether consciously or not every guy figures out his expected utility and sees girls based on that, and perhaps chooses to forgo other goods and services (or not) based on that mental utility calculation; for example, by choosing fucking over golfing.  Sorry to anyone that thinks that sounds cold but this ain't coed dorm dating, it's the selling and consumption of a service (fictionally speaking of course).  I started the thread because I'm not sure the overnight "date" meets my utility threshold and I was curious how others saw it.

it is not at all impossible to become friends with someone in this biz.  Friends enjoy one another's company and the support of being able to talk to someone who has at least some understanding of their life, someone they don't have to hide a good bit of their reality from....

who really just like some companionship with someone they are comfortable with, someone they a can talk to,   who has at least some understanding of their context.....

But seriously, I really enjoy the overnights.  So much so that I only charge $200 - $400 more than my 4 hr rate.  That breaks down to about $25 - $50/ hr vs my $600/hr (2 hr min).  And you really can't beat morning sex.
 

with overnights  

I feel very strongly about drinking and driving, and since I always have booze at my incall, it just makes sense.

Posted By: MarkusKetterman

with overnights  
   
 I only do them with friends in the biz  
   
 I have no expectation of overnight sex - we both need our sleep  
   
 it's safer than driving late and possibly under the influence :p  
   
 and it's pleasant  
   
 since I only do overnights with friends and am not looking for all night sex,  I am not asked to pay overnight rates...  
   
 and breakfast out is one of my favorite things to share with a friend

I'm not saying friendships can't form. I'm just fascinated by how many men here are so opposed to giving a woman compensation for her time and yet will readily gobble it up under the guise of "friendship". I just think it's taking advantage.

That was just in response to the "ladies love it because it's easy money" trope.

The only way you can determine your valuation of the service for such a calculation is to actually experience it. The opportunity cost of experiencing a single overnight (you put it at 3-4 one hr dates) is only meaningful if there are only a definite number of dates in your future.

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And I can tell you for sure the worst thing for her is looking at your ugly mug in the morning, lol!  Of course, that's one reason I don't do overnights myself.  In the morning I look luck a fucking Cro Magnon Man.  She would have every right to take one look at me and run shrieking from the room.  I won't inflict that on any woman.  You, on the there hand, are a heartless bastard.

Don't you know that you are REQUIRED to do things  according to however public opinion on this board tells you to do???

In all seriousness, it is your money AND your choice. Hopefully you have a few new thoughts on the subject that you hadn't considered before. Personally, if budget were even the least concern, I would opt for several one hour or two hour sessions over one overnight. I enjoy doing them, but if you want to talk "value" I doubt that there is any, unless of course you really enjoy spending the whole night with a woman.

I personally don't see how it blurs any lines unless you are one of those guys who falls easily for providers, and I haven't noticed that propensity in any of your posts, not that I recall of course.

It's funny how we are "cheap" about some things and couldn't care less about money about others. I don't have any issues at all about blowing a grand for dinner, but when I go to the market, I'll be damned if I will pay $20 a pound for filet mignon. It's all what you think is worth it.

I hear he likes overnights... :

I am hoping my number is 7,974 more dates left before I kick the bucket. So I guess if I have to reduce that number to 7,970 to allow for an overnight, I guess I can live with that, but in my case I am hoping that of my finite number of remaining dates, at least 20% of them will be those of the overnight variety.

advantage of her?

... and you're absolutely right that with an overnight date, you get to know more about the person behind the escort persona, and she gets to know more about the client.

None of them ever have to actually look at me until they are about to leave, and my ugly "morning look" ensures that they actually go. That's my safeguard against women getting too attached to me and not wanting to leave. They don't necessarily run shrieking from my room, but most of the time they do leave without a lot of undue encouragement. lol

If one is obsessed with getting as much bang for his buck as possible, I'd suggest staying away from extended engagements. If at some time you want to just have a great time with another human being, following a more natural course of events rather than an appointment to do a checklist of things, then extended time with your preferred lady can be stellar. Nice to know some here get it. ;

In all honesty you probably don't deserve my wrath on this one, but your post triggered an issue I have with men taking advantage. You have to understand that most of the men who brag about OTC time with ladies here are referring to very young women and the power dynamic is terribly unequal. Those young women are manipulated into this OTC time as they fear a bad review or some equally unappealing consequence of refusal. I really don't know if this pertains to you or not. Of course nobody wants to admit they are taking advantage of anyone.  

Then definitely don't do it.

and I recall only once - and that at invitation - to even suggest OTC activities -  

This lifestyle runs the risk of crossing intimacy boundaries no matter what the amount of time...  What counts is knowing what it is you hope to get out of the experience, and choosing a companion that suits that need and is on the same page with that intent.