I actively check out the calendars of gals whom I am interested in and when I see Boston on their itinerary I contact them and make a date even if that is months before.

But many gals tell me that most guys use "sperm of the moment" thinking, so I'm not sure you can do anything about it.

A Hobbyist can not write a review-good, bad or otherwise-on an appointment that didn't happen.

When it comes right down to it, I don't know if I will be in the mood to be with on an exact day and time 3 weeks in advance.

... why is that concept so strange to a woman.

but now that you mention it, what a super idea!

Question??

Why is it so hard for Gentlemen to prebook calls???

As a touring provider I do not understand why gentlemen have such a hard time prebooking appointments or showing true interest in seeing the provider before they come.  Because this is how a touring provider creates there schedule.  If no one shows enough interest its a waste of time and money to even stop in that city.  So why is it that hobbyist get mad at the providers when the providers schedule is created from the hobbyist responses.  Most hobbyist are some type of businessmen and should understand where we are coming from, because a waste of time is a waste of money.  

So could someone please tell me why a hobbyist wants to give a bad review on a provider for not showing up to a city when an appointment was never made only advanced advertisement was done for that city to gauge the response.  And also if one person prebooks in a city that is 1 to 300 miles away from the provider it does not make since for the provider to travel that far for one person.

Remember gentlemen this is how providers survive so please be considerate!!!

From my own experience, I'd say that booking at my home base city is more difficult than when I travel from a TIME perspective.

At home, I work a lot, I interact with many people (business and private), fortunately mostly on a friendly basis, and they know my personality: Can I hang around a little longer? Sure! Dinner to talk shop? Sure! Help with a weekend project? Sure! Give 'em a ride someplace? Sure! If I prebooked and started saying No! it would be very out of character for me. So, shorter notice (one day to a few hours) works best for me when I'm "home".

Even just running around, I've always got "home" stuff on my mind. Make an appointment or zip over to Home Depot for those heavy duty pipe hangars I keep forgetting? (I like to make sure the pipe is well and securely hung.) Well, I sure can't shop at Home Depot while traveling so I'd better do all of the "home" stuff while I've got the time and I'm "home". Errands, work, shopping, work, etc. are all somewhat flexible (run an errand now or two hours from now) but not something I can easily schedule 2 weeks in advance. Besides, how many of you do your hosting at Home Depot? The mattress department at the furniture store I can see, and that would be very convenient, but NOT Home Depot. (Well, maybe standing up in a demo shower stall?)

When traveling, it's much easier.  I can plan to arrive in another city a little early and unwind without telling anyone. I can officially leave my hosts (business or friends) a little early and say I'm hitting the road when I'm actually hitting the sheets for a little while before hitting the road. If it's all business, I can get away in the middle of the trip by having reasonable "other plans" that night without arousing too much suspicion. Sometimes, I can prebook a touring lady in the place I'm going to be -- actually, that's worked out many times -- but sometimes it's easier to book the locals in that city.  

Just my two cents at home, three cents when touring.

As a Hobbyist, when I want to see a provider, it's on an impulse. Meaning if I want to have sex now, I'm going to look for a provider on Eros, Backpage, or cityvibe, for a young lady I can have sex with now. Not a week or two weeks from today. I have set appointments like this before in the past, and usually because it was a provider I REALLY wanted to have sex with, just so I could say I had that., so I'm willing to go through the hassle.

But as mention before, most guys when they're looking to have sex with a provider for 30mins or 60mins, they're horny now, and want sex that same day.

Also if a guy gets that upset he can't see you because of your prebooking standards, and want to post a false negative on you review, chances are you dont want to see him anyway.  You'll need to contact the TER Support team, let them know about the situation and they'll investigate the report. I

If review isn't pulled down, most veteran hobbyists can read a bad review, and tell if it's based on a lie, if the hobbyist was a jerk, or if there just wasn't enough chemistry between the two.

Hope this helps

1. I too, like mrfisher, book as early as I can when I find out a provider has added my city (Hartford) to their tour... Even if it is two months forward. It's the right thing to do. Plus, I'm selfish... I want the earliest morning appointment after their day or arrival or while they are here . lol.. Don't you just love a good modeling gig in the mid-morn to get the blood circulating? .. lol.

2. But, know what? I'm puzzled about....
Some providers (I'd say 15%) don't even bother to answer back on appointment requests made by email OR by filling out their web page form. And I have 15 verifications on Date-Check. And on Date-Check, I even see they looked at my Profile. Truly puzzling to me. All anyone can see on Date-Check is how many verifications one has ... the types of providers they've seen ... and a short profile blurb that doesn't provide much on the hobbyist (but should .. that's a different topic altogether).

3. But, back to your posting...
RE: "So could someone please tell me why a hobbyist wants to give a bad review on a provider for not showing up to a city when an appointment was never made only advanced advertisement was done for that city to gauge the response."
You did say "wants" and didn't say "gives", so perhaps this comment doesn't matter, BUT, it is certainly a huge No-No (I think... I'm a Newbie and not 100% sure .. but it sure seems to me) that a hobbyist dare write a review on someone they never ended up meeting. My humble opinion.
I get Providers who say they have to cancel or reschedule their trip to Hartford and I'm perfectly fine with that. So long as they communicate that beforehand. 24 hours is sufficient for me. YET, two days a touring person who confirmed me just never got back to me on location details. I wrote .. phoned.. left voicemail.. and texted on morning of our appointment. She didn't respond then, nor did she respond since then. I'm guessing she cancellled her trip and just didn't want to admit it. For me, I just quietly file the name away in my Black List mind as someone I will not contact in the future.

Nice info, Julia...

Plus I clicked on your TER reviews to see who you are... which then led me to your date-check profile...
If Hartford is ever a stop for ya, I'll pre-book when I know of it

i never book unless i can think i can defend the scheduled appointment, the reasons for canceling or rescheduling have to be illness or some similarly serious emergency. normal work pressure is not an excuse.

that said i once asked a traveling lady for some time. i had met her sociallyonly in DC, made a connection and to say that i was enthusiastic about meeting her is an understatement. so seeing that she was returning i made an inquiry but i did not get a confirmation back.

work pressures mounted and not knowing whether i had an appointment or not i sent an email saying that i had to withdraw my request for a meeting. ONLY THEN did i hear from her that "i was giving up a firm date".

now i have no idea whether that was really the case or not, or whether she was simply waiting for a better offer a clearly accept. but all of us need to make ourselves clear and non cryptic in making arrangements. otherwise, misunderstandings and troubles follow unnecessarily.

Its not a bad review, but I had a few different hobbyist wait till the day I was going to be in a town to call to schedule, then when I wasn't in town state they didn't see providers that cant stick to a schedule and that they would put the word out that I didnt show up on an advertised date.  Even after explaining the situation, there response was I shouldn't of done advanced advertising.

Though I am pretty new to the hobby, this feedback is beneficial but I don't see how being a 7-eleven will work either! For a month, I posted ads with days and times I would be available and sat around and waited. Besides the hassle and expense of waiting around, I didn't do a good job of screening the guys that did call and met some whackos just because I needed the cash to cover my costs for the day. I do think appointments are necessary but only if they are made within the same week or for early the following week. I am sure this is especially hard for a traveling provider but I do think posting an advertisement too early hurts business since most guys are "sperm of the moment" LOL! changing travel plans or canceling a tour would suck too and hurt your reputation. Such a mess!

Great tour advice, thank you.

...it isn't hard for hobbiest to prebook. At least not for the ones that can prebook. ( I'm not trying to be a smart ass with that statement.) You see from the responses so far that many do prebook. I have always prebooked. There are however those that just don't have it together. They always do things last minute it's the way they do everything in their life. Then there are those that do have it together and their work and life situations make it impossible to prebook they just have to take the opportunity when it arises. In this hobby just like in everything else their are all kinds of people and the reasons they do or don't do things one way or another is as varied and numerous as they are.

In your case you may have even been dealing with new guys that hadn't thought about the fact that you need to make it worth the trip. They just figured that you said you were coming to town and so they waited. Maybe they didn't see your ad 'til that day or the day before. You'll never know what the reasons potential clients do what they do. Even if they tell you. Is it the truth?

Maybe your ad (from now on) could mention that you won't make the trip if their isn't enough response. I'm sure you could word it better than that but you get my point.

I'm sorry anyone has to deal with unreasonable people. It does go both ways in this business but then it does in all business. Hang in there. There will be better days ahead. They will get you through the ones like this and maybe even worse ones.

full. Large part of the flexibility has to do with the fact that I set my own time. I go in whenever I feel like it and take time off whenever I feel like it. If I wanted to, I can book a flight to wherever and work there for while. (It's amazing what laptops, virtual private network, and a cellphone can do these days. lol) But then I have other crap that I got myself involved in locally that needs my physical presence and ties me down for the time being.

However, not everyone's schedules are as flexible as mine. Some people don't know what their schedule is going to be like on any given week. I know a lot of people who are in various sectors that travel constantly and do not know their schedule far out in advance. I am suspecting that this would be one of the top reasons people avoid prebooking.

If providers gave a "prebooking incentive", maybe that'll work wonders?
I certainly would take advantage of it but then I pre-book anyway. lol

I found that many of the local providers will say they have incall but will tell you "Get a hotel".

Most seasoned hobbyists don't have a problem pre-booking. I've done it and some of the ladies have sweetened the pot by giving discounts or extra time. You also have to trust that even though you might have great reviews in your home area, it doesn't always translate well to larger cities where there are lots of looks, styles, and price-points in between. In a place like Chicago, you have to build your reputation before your card gets filled. Sometimes, you may not make as much, but like anything you have to build a following and always come with you A game. Good news travels fast. First off, you must advertise and in particular on the local boards and TER. Do it often as allowed and even befriend other providers here to help know some of the better places to set up. If she's good at what she's done, there won't be any jealously.

limited so when I know I will have some "alone time", I try to find a provider to keep me company.

Like the anticipation, the build up.....  I think it's esp important if she is a visiting provider.  I like to make sure I get the appt time I prefer, and prebooking is only way to do that.

Swim

If a corporation or other entity went on the tele and did advanced advertising and then didn't come thru there would be a huge public outcry and their stocks would plummet etc. How is this different? And if you accept even one pre-book you darn well better show for it!! You don't want your time wasted-niether do we. Do you contact that one pre-book and explain the situation? Now if you posted I might be "blah blah blah" to gauge response that wouls be a different story.