In reviews, what are subtle things you look for that tell you to stay away from a provider or a client? There are of course the obvious things, like thieves, fake photos, B&S, etc. I'm not referring to those. I'm referring to reading between the lines to infer that this or that person is someone you do not want to meet. For instance, if a gent doesn't like hugs, maybe he avoids ladies whose reviews say that she's very affectionate or likes to cuddle. And maybe there are things that are even more subtle.

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I find myself less enthusiastic when all the reviews describe the encounter the same way, or just a list of acronyms. I interpret this as her performing her set script and that's what everyone gets. There has got to be room for improvisation. I'm intrigued when there's a variation of in the descriptions of what transpired in the encounter (mostly positive, of course!).

One thing I look at right away is the Attitude and Atmosphere notes in the upper-left. Unless the reviewer says something like, "Great," or, " Really nice," and instead tell me how her attitude was great or the atmosphere really nice, that tells me a lot. Bubbly, sensual, playful, whatever it is I get an idea of what to expect in the lady, and I like to avoid the bare mattress on the floor incall, so the atmosphere clues me in on that.

There are reviewers I pay attention to.  Some reviewers write well - others (most...) do not.   Some appear to have similar tastes in women.  Others appear to be from another planet - that I don't want to visit.

I'm looking for upbeat and playful, open.  Disconnected, or distant, are deal breakers for me.  Although I wouldn't call that subtle.  

Mostly, just the overall impression I get of the guy's personality. The sense of him that comes through from his writing style, word choice, etc. I want to see that he's kind, considerate, thoughtful, mature, and that he LIKES women (I feel that some guys really don't).  

You and I could not be more opposite but I think you're a very cool guy.

At a quick glance I thought you said "sub titles"...

Was reading it wondering,  what does subtitles have to do with the hobby?  Rofl

My reviews were never the girl I was attempting to see's business.  

If she does not comply with all of your requests. If I am not what a guy expects he is free to find someone who is.  

of a group of our board posters standing around and "subtitling" someone's session. Struck me as potentially hilarious!!

I look for consistent scores. I really investigate the outliers, I want to know why someone gave her an exceptionally high or low score. Remember that on a scale of 1 to 10 that above 5 is above average.  

well - I really am flexible....   these days I mostly see k-girls through local agencies. They are young, fit,  athletic,  and very service oriented.    

how petty, how childish, and how mean spirited so many reviews are....  really downright misogynistic....  

Any mention of kids or unruly pets around

Other people in the house or apartment during the session

Signs of upsell tactics

Bad odors of any kind from any source

Illicit drug paraphernalia around the place

Her phone goes off during the session (especially if she answers it!)

Loud music or TV going on during the session

Any other actions that are indiscreet or dangerous

I know, bitch, bitch, bitch...8o)

is a very powerful plus -

and making a decision whether to book with me on that basis, or not - as well as taking some of my fairly obvious preferences into account -

That's why I read the reviews in the first place. To weed out the girls that wont do my preferred menu options. When girls use to read my reviews, they would try and tailor make the session to what she perceived as what I liked and it actually had the opposite effect.

I could see masking handle to avoid board drama, or something. Or if you want to reserve the possibility of leaving a negative review and avoiding retaliation...but in this kind of situation, it doesn't benefit either party....

And with guys that are really small, well they can go a lot longer than average or big. As with you, I deal with what nature gave me or rather how my body works.  

Considerate, yet knows what he wants and knows the right way to get it. If I could take what you dish, you would be an ideal date!!!!!!!

(Obviously this would exclude cases where they don't ask for that stuff)

I admit I wrote that post with me in mind as well, being the hooker. If it works for you, not a reason to change your MO.  

I've enjoyed reading these great responses, but they pertain more to annoyance, rudeness, ignorance and anything that does not come across sincere.  

Men always ask me what I like, the answer- whatever you're good at.  

And that is why as someone stated, that's the 'nature of THIS beast' and why I will never ever use this site to screen guys. While I know for a fact a 'few' gentlemen here have tried contacting me using just Jack's style (providing his 'own' references and when asked for his 'real' handle, you get the ol..."No I'm not a member of TER"), I know for a fact they were indeed part of this site just trying to pull a fast one. Problem is, I'm not a dummy. I may not have been here long, but I get the game playing and have seen and heard it all.  

He most likely would not get a date. I can see both sides here, erring on the side of I would like to read a review or two, however, I am not one to put up with what I can't deal with and can say no and stand my ground.  

because I only concern myself with the reviews I am studying to make hobbying decisions of my own, or the ones I sometimes run into (but do not seek)  of ladies I have previously reviewed....

... in things good or bad.

I think we all got some perspective into the whys and hows reviews etc can make or break a choice to see or not see on both sides.

Just their cups of tea  LOL

I don't go thru the gals form mail so when I hit her up, I use her email and give my two rock solid refs from very well known women (more if she asks) and a verification site. No one to date has then said, after having all that other info from me,  "Can I have your board handle too please?" It just doesn't work that way Tobi, at least not for me.

There are literally thousands of ladies out there who would gladly take his money regardless of what he writes on the internet, so why not just see one of them? It just seems like a tactic to knock a hooker down a peg for being selective. I dun like.

That's what you want us to think JD. I bet anything you are not at all like that when meeting a lady.  

I also don't think that outside of Robbin Young any hookers are using their "real names" on their sites.  If they want to put that info out there...maybe more guys would be fine with giving up their personal info as well.

I agree that if she doesn't ask for it, you're under no obligation to offer that up. My question is IF a chick asks for that info (since you haven't come across that situation, then this is purely hypothetical), what would you say? Would you lie, say you don't want to divulge that, or just move on?

It has not been my experience that providers have tried to re-create the exact session I've had before and rated highly at all but I could see that being a concern.....    

I can tell you that 90% of the guys I see don't review but I can still spot an asshole via email. Some are too darn good at hiding it and then, well we deal the best we can.  

Now by "right" girl" I mean a hypothetical "I have to see her before I die" kinda gal. Haven't had that happen yet but I cant rule it out.

I don't see any reason to make anyone elses' life unhappy just to get my own kicks....

And treats a lady like shit during a session then yes, I want to know so I can pass

Unless you kill kittens and beat up women, I doubt you could have me running in the other direction screaming MONSTER!!!!!

they don't want to get into it on the boards but they figure I'm a prospect anyway....  

I use my alias for the forum, and my real handle for my reviews. I'd just rather have the ladies read my reviews, but not look at what I'm posting here. A few posts does not a john make, or something like that.  

I am a lifestyle Dom with several decades in the lifestyle.   I am also into S/m and am a moderator / rigger at a local club.  My personal relationships (girlfriend and administrative assistant)  are flavored this way...  

Not a reason I can think of for disliking you IRL.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha, I think not. But deff what you said prior to that statement. How bout just plain ol' board assholes, period. Yep, that'll do it. Unsolicited PM's or not, still assholes. Again, period LOL.  

I notice your reviews are not linked to your handle. Don't you feel we have the right to screen based compatibility? Don't you think your board posts give insight into who you are as a provider? Doesn't speak to your attitude towards hobbyists? Or do you think that is none of our business?

And Voodoo can correct me but she might post under her work name as well as "VooDoo" and be more than happy to have guys view her reviews. So they will know what's what. Aliases are used by both sides to protect their integrity or just to be an ass or to be able to speak freely. You may not be able to link VooDoo to anything but if she were really Tobi Telford (she is not), you would be able to. I do not know her real work handle.  

Nah....and where I the world am I not including CPA as a board asshole?

Posted By: Taylor Steele

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha, I think not. But deff what you said prior to that statement. How bout just plain ol' board assholes, period. Yep, that'll do it. Unsolicited PM's or not, still assholes. Again, period LOL.  
   
 What's with the pumping up of 'CPA' as a 'good guy' all the sudden there Papa? Are you afraid of being placed in the same bucket as the 'other' wonderful gents here? Perhaps you should school them a bit on messing up your rep. But it's ok ya know. I still like you, asshole or not.  
   
 

I used to have a board persona tied to my provider name. Earned me a stalker and in doing so,  ended up killing my former persona.  

But don't do shill review so she gets what she earned. Now warning reviews happen regardless of what the lady says. I don't use TER reviews to screen. Most of them ate corrupted. Scores are to a point that anything below a 8 is blacklistsble. I been blackmailed. I have seen reviews that read like rape fantasy novels. I have seen reviews posted of women the guy never seen. The whole review process is completely corrupt so I don't give a damn about them. I now screen backchannel and raw internet data. Hell most of the time I don't even have VIP. No pot meet kettle here.

...that is her with linked reviews. That would be two accounts and TER doesn't allow that. I'm sure there are those that get around it but still isn't allowed.

I am really wondering. For me and other men this board serves the same purpose. I rarely review or look at the reviews here any more. I use hobby boards to vent and to BS with friends too much drama to use them for more. Why are you entitled to my venting more than I am to yours? I had a provider threaten my wife over an 8\8 review I showed her thinking she would appreciate it. My mistake. Bat shit crazy dangerous loons exist in great numbers on both sides. Give me why you are more entitled than I.

Lot don't. If it reads like porn movie, case closed. Nothing is believable in that case. In other cases, consistency

While I do not have board posts, i do have reviews (which I did not particularly want, but so far it has turned out for the best...I have not 'claimed' them out of a desire to remain low-key) and I am on p411. So a guy can be assured that I am safe and reliable, as advertised...he can backchannel, do whatever he needs to do. I am not an unknown. The type of experience one will get with me is quantifiable.

And she threatened my wife's safety. Short of rape it don't get worse than that. And if I give real information and with that the power to look into my real life, and give real information to LE, blacklist sites, or who or what ever is necessary to deal with what ever bad behavior I could engage in more readily than any handle, who cares about a handle on a hobby board?  

With enough references or p411 Ok's, I do not require a real name. I do not ask for TER id as part of my screening, I look it up by email address, if there is one. I use whatever information I find to help make a decision about whether or not to make a date.

With enough references or p411 Ok's, I do not require a real name. I do not ask for TER id as part of my screening, I look it up by email address, if there is one. I use whatever information I find to help make a decision about whether or not to make a date. So I do care about review handles and they have helped me both ascertain that a guy is a good match, or that he NEEDS to be avoided...

Sorry for double posts. I am on my phone.

I've seen so much bull shit regarding reviews I give them no credibility unless I know the reviewer. It is coming from all sides. Providers backlisting over less than great reviews or worse. Clients using them as leverage, real reviews reported as fake, providers reviewing themselves or paying for said review, favors for good reviews, threats off bad ones unless the lady does X, and more. How often do we read rants about grade inflation? Hell more than once I have seen a provider try to get a guy banned for giving her a 7/7. Even the guy your responding to will not post a bad review. Guys are afraid ladies will not see them if they review honesty. Then you got the free. VIP reviews. A friend of mine got three reviews after she retired.  

As for reviews, they are not even always available for me to read. If they are, I  just basically want to know that the you aren't a total asshole. There are a few other things, but that is the main one. I have not read your reviews, but from your posts, you are not an asshole

First of all I respect your right not to link your reviews to your handle. I have no problem with that. I am not equating those so called hobbyists with you. Those creeps need exposing but as you experienced, they will just give a secondary handle created just for fooling you. My hobby email is not my hobby board email so that will nor work if the guy has a brain. I am comparing your not linking your reviews to my not outing my handle. Those of that mistreat providers are scum. Sadly only real information offers real protection.

woman who enjoys foreplay, like to give and receive pleasure, good conversationalist, non-smoker, dresses well, courtesan, and aims to please.

nothing but the truth."  Yes, Jack Nicholson said, "You can't handle the truth" to Tom Cruise.

I think we're on the same page now. I can totally get you finding it odd that I'd require a board handle as part of screening, but hide my own.  

...all odds are against him, yet he pulls through in the end. (I always liked Gary Cooper in High Noon as he personifies the one who was almost influence by what others said to throw fear into him, than changed by thinking the hell with that, I’m going to to stand on his own two feet and do what I know is best.)

I feel a great many reviews are BS and honest reviews are with held do to review inflation. I don't know the total percentage of reviews that are not fully truthful but it is far to large. Large enough to taint the whole system. I do not trust the reviews here that was not written by someone I know. I have been let down far too often, seen to much manipulation to trust them.

using 'CPA' in the 3rd person. It's freaking me out, so cut it.  

And the fact that he has the insight to at least empathize a little as to what some of us might deal with. He also comes across as understanding limitations and working with them, a huge plus in my book.  

Feeling valued then it’s all good