If so, how do they react?

cop to it first.  Sometimes I will bait them into talking about P4P, and the next thing I know, they are fessing up that they do it.  So technically, the answer is "NO, I do not discuss it with non-hobby friends," but if they admit they are hobbyists, too, then I will discuss it with them.

I talk about it with some married friends. They are mostly unhappy in their relationships.  
I'm happily 2 times divorced and my friends are really jealous of my freedom.

unless you like to dig your grave with your tongue.

I only discuss this to the guys I know I have enough dirt on.

Married hobbyists, but for us single guys, absolute secrecy is not that important.

....it would be a huge mistake.

But not for burial purposes. That would just be weird.

That's an awfully broad brush you are painting with fish.  Virtually everyone I know knows I am a whoremongering pig, just what do I have to gain by hiding it?

Other than the ladies I play with and a few hobbyist friends..
I am too old to start over if the wife caught me and too damn horny to do without..lol

...the new TER format is completely fucked up!

even though much of my reply was directed towards fish.  

Absolutely not! This is my secret world. While some might understand, most wouldn't. About 20 years ago, I ran into one of my best friends at a strip club, twice. One would think that we could go strip clubbing together sometime, but in the last 20 years neither one of us has mentioned it. The topic is taboo.  

Are you sure? Maybe they're doing it too, thinking you'd never understand.

that I agree with you and BigP agreeing with me disagreeing with fish.

Lol I wish!
My extended family is so PG you wouldn't believe it. A trip to Disneyland is a BFD to them. They have annual passes that they use regularly. I just can't relate to that. o_0

I remember showing up late to the bar where I was meeting some friends one afternoon. The reason I was late of course was that I had a session with a lovely young lady right before I was to meet my friends at the bar and our session ran over a bit.  

After all, you are married to a former hooker, and I swear you mentioned before tgatvuour kids know you hobby. So how is it that you should absolutely not talk about it to non hobby friends?

I don't go around broadcasting that I do this, but I don't deny it, and have discussed it with people who admitted to it first.

don't discuss it with others, even if you're married or single, remember the rules of this hobby, BE DISCRETE!!!

I'm sorry but I can't relate to that.

I went into my first strip club right about 43 years ago. It was also the first time I ever fucked a hooker.

Haha. Well, the OP had said friends, so I wasn't even thinking about family. I don't see me talking with the famn damily either. I'd say mine is a lot like yours, except mine is occasionally aghast at PG. let's just keep things in a nice safe G rating. LoL!

What is said can never be taken back, and sins of commission are far worse than those of omission.

The movie, that is, not the Bible.

True, each of us has a different situation, but as I point out above, it is best if possible to never let this cat out of it's proverbial bag.

But a LOT of my stories start off with "I was with this hooker one night....." lol

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Oh I remember that line. Though admittedly I'd forgotten it until you brought it up. My answer stays the same lol.

You guys keep talking about that shit all you want. I'll just take Niki's advice and just do it.

Gotta love the irony of that phrase being associated with a GREEK Goddess.

To me, discretion is never doing anything to draw attention to myself at or on my way to an appointment, never saying or writing anything incriminating before I've met her in person, and possibly not even after that depending on her lead. I would also not tell the close friends I talk to about this WHO I've seen.

it's COUNSEL not COUNCIL (a noun)

Absolutely not. Part of my life that is Strictly, a personal part of my life without exception.

I've just recently got lay and lie figured out (until you bring up past tense, anyways.)

...not because I must but because I choose to limit possible exposure and unintended consequences.

in a closet ain't all that bad.  Lol

I only post from my phone anymore. I don't even own a computer. I just need to take time to go back and correct those stupid typos and autocorrects.

If they can't handle me as I am, a guy with an open marriage that enjoys the company of sex workers from time to time, well I hope they don't let the door hit there ass as they leave my life. If I can't be honest with my friends they aren't my friends.

It's not generational. I went to my first strip club in 1976 as a 16 year old. I still go to strip clubs occasionally. While not everyone in my life knows I pay to fuck hookers, everyone in my life knows I have gone to strip clubs. (This includes both parents when they were alive,  all my male and female siblings, relatives,  work mates and friends. Many of them have gone with me. Nothing  "taboo" about strip clubs.

Is that you have someone to tell all your hobbying woes to.  I have mostly male friends who all have experience with this and they come to me for advice or to tell me about their experiences.

are easily poured and impossible to recover.

However, from time to time I'll talk to a escort friend.

I've been called "preachy" on this board on more than one occasion.  I guess living with certain codes doesn't always sit well with others in some of my responses.  

being afraid, ashamed or otherwise unwilling to admit to it is quite another.

I am one of those individuals who could be hurt by it if it became common knowledge.  Officially, the subject did come up not to long ago and I did admit to the fact.  

I've always been private with my private life.  
When I was young I had more temporary GF's than I could count but as far as guys knew I had no GF.  
Even among my closest  school mates  I would never kiss the Gal and tell.  

However, I do exercise some discretion.  For instance, the sex-negative feminazis at my workplace will never hear about it, but they're in the minority.  You'd be surprised at how many of my female co-workers think that what I'm doing is cool, and love to hear my stories about it.  I've also chewed the ears off my local representatives about the topic of decriminalization.  I understand that married mongers can't be as open as me, but I sure wish more of the single mongers would jump on the wagon and start getting this "normalized" like the potheads and the gays have.

Just wondering for your friends who know you exceptionally well, would they even have a hint of your proclivities in the hobby? I am just asking because if you have been to strip clubs with them, then I am wondering if you paid for a lap dance as well as the conversation you might have on other topics encompassing sex, then I am sure although it hasn't been said yet if they have a question although it is untraditional being a woman if you had pay for play.  Also I am wondering if they are really sharp listeners and if they can concatenate certain things within the conversation that might take them down the road to inquire about your potential for such activity.  At some point, someone is not going to be slow on that.

she then became a provider herself. Shes more UTR ...but very shocking to me since she also was very private in personal life and the fact that she is with someone.  

Dupy tries to be uber articluate and Fancy talks like Tonto.  But both are equally incomprehensible.

I'm single, so I really don't care too much about discretion. Just as long as family/work doesn't find out. I'd rather not tell all my friends, but a few know.  

..... with a group of guys. A few of them asked me for referrals to some of the ladies I play with.  
Now I'm not sure that I want to share.  
Hhhmmm, I need to take a look at that and see where that is coming from.  
Maybe, I don't trust a couple of them to not be arseholes.

Very similar for me also.

I wouldn't vouch for any casual buddies that I don't trust to be absolutely safe with the ladies. There are quite a few guys out there who think "paying for it" gives them the right to take certain liberties with the girls, and I wouldn't want to be the reason a girl got stiffed, hurt, or worse.

You are right. I need to trust my conscience on this one.

Unless your 110% sure they will behave themselves, not waste the lady's time, and pay as requested best to pass on being a reference for others. After all you haven't been a female sex worker alone with them, people's behavior changes in different situations.

Nothing good can come from doing so, and a whole lot of bad can happen. I enjoy attending M&G's so that I can talk about the favorite part of my life.

I made this mistake once years ago with a best friend who inquired, and I let him know in the affirmative.  He later reverted to form, and told me I would be much better off following his lead with My Time.  Maybe, but it's not yet My Time.  Even though this friend dates back to childhood, the attitude of disapproval was evident, as it always is with folks outside the Hobby.   Doesn't matter that we've been and are friends for now forty years, taken vacations together, shared civvie girlfriends,  did other things I can't mention here with 420 and whatever else; with civvies, you are supposed to play the game despite the fact that the failure rate is in excess of 95%.  Hobbying is cheating, which is absurd...for me, that eventually became intolerable.    

The problem with talking with someone about the hooker world and one's involvement is that you never can be sure that the person you talk with won't tell their wife, SO, or someone else -  all of which can bite you on the ass down the road.  Best to stay quiet on the topic.....

I have been divorced for well over 20 years, I don't have a boss, I don't have kids. Quite frankly there is nothing anyone can do with the information that "I fuck hookers" can do with the information that can do me any harm.

It's like screening an escort. If you don't know who you can trust, then NO NO NO ... But I do. Oddly, I'm going to a party this summer, a reunion of sorts, and I met a friend in Philly last week who asked ... "can we bring a hooker" ... my kind of guy.  

what people think about my lifestyle. For the record, I'm not married or in a relationship. That might change my feelings a bit depending on the audience.

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JUST KIDDING ... I get your point.  
Neither quantity nor quality

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If they're still in the closet.  But I get your point.  
You? And hookers? Right ... lol ... I heard you're  
still in the closet and still a virgin. Just sayin ... lol

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and that was after he told me about his recent visit to an AMP, and street walkers back in the day. Never got into any details at all though, just told him that I had some experience too. He started by telling me an AMP rip-off story- kind of needed someone to open up with and vent.

As a provider whose family and friends know this thread is sooooo interesting!!! Here's to my successful divorce and amazing friends!

I have never talked about the hobby with non-hobbying female friends. I have talked about it with five of my male friends. Turns out that two of them were also hobbyists. Of the other three, their reaction was moderate curiosity. I answered all their questions, and in one case strongly recommended that the guy give it a try. All three had the mindset that they would never pay for it, though the divorced one understood that he ended up paying his ex plenty for the sex that they had.