9 out of the last 10 providers I have seen always ask me this question.  Some while I am undressing, some while I am getting dressed.

I don't understand why.  I always thought they didn't care.  What difference would it make to them if I was or wasn't?

Actually, I find it a little annoying.  If I am married, I don't really want to reveal the information.  If I am not married, how would that change anything?

I have answered both ways to see what would happen.  When I say yes I am married, they stop asking questions.  When I say I am not married, I get more questions like what I do for a living, where I live, and some even have asked what I am doing next (after our session).

I don't have the nerve to just blurt out that it is none of their business, so I usually make up some little white lies that I hope give them little or no answers.  But frankly, I am not used to the little deposition that takes place while Mr. Johnson is at attention or after he has puked his brains out.

How would you answer the question?  Why is it even asked???


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because I don't care whether someone knows whether I am married or not (I am single).  But if I had an issue with it, I would say "I would rather not discuss it".

-Hoot.

That is a damn good question!  I hate being asked too, perhaps it is because I'm married and then I feel like I need to somehow justified why hit the ATM when I get sex for free at home.

I don't like to be rude or outright lie, so please - don't ask.

I'am always up front with anyone who asks that question and always give the same reply NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS (LOL)

Of course I always wear my wedding band.  If they're asking you - does that mean you slip it off before a session?  Then maybe the slight discoloration and indentation on that finger causes them to wonder...

I'm ask that question very seldom, and when I have been asked I usually answer without an answer.   Like when asked, I will let the lady know any question is ok to ask, but some questions won't get an answer.  If said with a smile, the conversation will move on, she can assume anything she wants by my non-answer.  There have been a couple of times when I've been asked that question, and I have answered truthfully about being married, but on those occasions the conversation moved there more naturally, and not just blurted out as question.

I got the feelings from the ladies that they are interested in knowing why a single guy will choose to pay for sex.  I also felt that for the younger ladies that are relatively new to this business, they felt relieved that their client, me, is single.

Some of the ladies are single moms that are divorced from their husbands or broken up with their boyfriends because their men cheated on them.  So this is an important issue for them.

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I agree with what you are saying and usually laugh to myself when I have been asked that question. It is often followed by a question that sounds like the female version of the male question "What is a nice girl like you doing in a business like this".

I used to get asked that in strip clubs all the time. One lady told me it was so that she knew not to make as much contact, apparenly to avoid getting too much of her perfume on me. Whatever.

With providers I just tell the truth. If it has a negative effect on our experience I just won't see her again.

I know you are not looking for an answer but the number one answer to a lot of questions is stupidity.  I have never asked a lady that question but have had a few volunteer that information after I became a regular.

-- Modified on 10/30/2002 4:17:28 PM

Guys ask because it feels silly to call someone by a fake name.  It makes the whole experience seem phoney.

I could also see the issue as one of "equal footing".  The provider knows the hobbyist's name.  The hobbyist may want same.  

-Hoot.

I never ask that question of a client. That is his personal business.

I have never been asked, because I always wear the wedding ring. However, that has had benefits. On several occasions, MP girls have given me their phone/pager numbers, in case I'd like to see them away from the MP, or go out on a date. They alwasy say they know I am married, and understand the rules that come wit that situation. Sometimes I take them up on it, and in one case it led to a several month relationship.

I continue to wear my ring, because I am open to having a similar relationship with another MP girl or escort, if the opportunity comes up again, and I want everything to be out in the open.

Hell I don't assume the name they give me is not their real name.  As long as she responds when I yell it or whisper it, what do I care?  It isn't like I'm going to take her home to meet my parents - that isn't going to happen, even if she does bring the Bud lite!

Fitguy

I think they all ask for different reasons. I alwyas get the impression that if you spent some time with them and they seem to genuinely like you, and like me if The client doesnt have too much experience in the business, the may want to know if your married because they may go ahead and give you a bbbj or a cbj. I dont know. Im usually honest.

Why do ladies volunteer their real names? I have an ATF that has done so, but we are "all business". We don't see each other outside of her working environment.  Maybe she was just being friendly...?

-Hoot.



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I would never ask a client if he is married and find it puzzling that some providers do ask and the answer may influence their behaviour.  The way I see it, every client deserves to be treated well for the time he is with me.  What he does after he walks out the door at the end is really none of my business