because I don't care whether someone knows whether I am married or not (I am single).  But if I had an issue with it, I would say "I would rather not discuss it".

-Hoot.

That is a damn good question!  I hate being asked too, perhaps it is because I'm married and then I feel like I need to somehow justified why hit the ATM when I get sex for free at home.

I don't like to be rude or outright lie, so please - don't ask.

Of course I always wear my wedding band.  If they're asking you - does that mean you slip it off before a session?  Then maybe the slight discoloration and indentation on that finger causes them to wonder...

I'm ask that question very seldom, and when I have been asked I usually answer without an answer.   Like when asked, I will let the lady know any question is ok to ask, but some questions won't get an answer.  If said with a smile, the conversation will move on, she can assume anything she wants by my non-answer.  There have been a couple of times when I've been asked that question, and I have answered truthfully about being married, but on those occasions the conversation moved there more naturally, and not just blurted out as question.

I got the feelings from the ladies that they are interested in knowing why a single guy will choose to pay for sex.  I also felt that for the younger ladies that are relatively new to this business, they felt relieved that their client, me, is single.

Some of the ladies are single moms that are divorced from their husbands or broken up with their boyfriends because their men cheated on them.  So this is an important issue for them.

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I used to get asked that in strip clubs all the time. One lady told me it was so that she knew not to make as much contact, apparenly to avoid getting too much of her perfume on me. Whatever.

With providers I just tell the truth. If it has a negative effect on our experience I just won't see her again.

I never ask that question of a client. That is his personal business.

I have never been asked, because I always wear the wedding ring. However, that has had benefits. On several occasions, MP girls have given me their phone/pager numbers, in case I'd like to see them away from the MP, or go out on a date. They alwasy say they know I am married, and understand the rules that come wit that situation. Sometimes I take them up on it, and in one case it led to a several month relationship.

I continue to wear my ring, because I am open to having a similar relationship with another MP girl or escort, if the opportunity comes up again, and I want everything to be out in the open.