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ShaneofPhilly See my TER Reviews 871 reads
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For me, ask me in advance. That way I can get the references checked and feel completely and totally safe.

Go for it.

Shane

Would you providors out there like to be contacted well before an actual date is planned or would it just be yet another of many emails?

Here's my scenario. I am going on a trip 2 months from now and am planning on seeing a few ladies and was considering making an intial contact just to introduce myself and let them know that I was interested and perhaps start the screening process and then set an actual date closer to when I go on the trip. Is that a bad idea or would you like the gesture? I know most of the ladies probably receieve a ton of email and won't feel like responding to someone who they won't be seeing for a month or two. On the other hand I thought that it might help me get fit in their schedule when the trip comes around. Just want some opinions/feedback. Thanks!

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I know that I prefer contact as ahead of time as possible in order to at least det the screening out of the way. This is also good if you know your time frame, because the lady you wish to say could be touring at that time. It is good to have a vague idea ahead of time of who will be available that you have on your wish list.

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for me to send an e-mail 2 or more months in advance of a trip, it virtually always includes a request for a specific date and time.  Doesn't have anything to do with their schedules or screening, they are mostly accustomed to dealing with a day or two notice, I'm just a hopeless planner, LOL.  Could be off base here, but I doubt most ladies will go to the bother to screen you until you have committed to an appointment.
Frankly, even with a specific date and time requested, my experience is that only somewhat over half will bother to respond to a request that far in advance.

Yep, I know you asked the ladies, but us guys can't help butting in...

I love it when a guy lets me know ahead of time. It allows me to check my schedule, get the screening out of the way and plan for the event.

Personally, I'd welcome an advance request and have taken them before!

I will schedule appts as early as 4 - 5 months ahead many times.  It helps me in that I do travel quite often and then can plan ahead and make sure that I don't take that vacation during that time.  It also helps that I have a financial/corporate background and kept track of many schedules and accounts for a living so it isn't hard for me to do.  I see it as a professional courtesy.

Unfortunately I think I am in the minority on this one I'm afraid.  I do seem to attract the gentlemen who like to plan ahead and know that they have a gauranteed date.  Perhaps this way they don't get stuck out in the cold when that  elusive appt is not available at the last minute.  I am selective though and don't see multiple men on the same day let alone the same week so it just depends on the providers availability.

Email me closer to the date- sure id love to get together -

Business plans and vacations always get cancelled or postponed for some reason or another-

Email her a few weeks before -


because it's difficult (for me) to expect great chemistry from the time she opens the door, I like to send emails in advance. I'll screen first but if she responds it helps build some relationship so the appt doesn't start from a dead stand-still.

I would say 25-30% of the providers have engaged in it (my experience). I don't blame them at all because all the things that they deal with. Flakes, NCNS, guys that want internet friends, etc. However, I will say that if they checked my references they should get a pretty quick sign that I'm respectful, serious about getting together, harmless and sometimes quiet.

When it does work, I find the experience to be more comfortable and when I feel comfortable I will see that provider again.

I think it's good business, but it is time consuming on their part. Some estimates from providers are that 20-25% of all the calls, emails, IMs etc lead to actual appts. So that's a lot of BS as you can see.

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I personaly wouldn't want to schedule that far ahead. As for making contact that much in advance, that's a great idea. Get the references checked out and get the 'all clear'. Then pin down a day and time within two weeks of the appt.

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for me that sort of situation would be ideal...part of my normal process is to communicate with a gent extensively in order to get a feel for one another and see if we would be compatible....THEN, if everything feels right, after a week, 2 weeks, a month, or 3 months, we'll finally meet. i always ignore those who contact me trying to set a date that day or next, what i call an "insta-date."

Typically, I plan way ahead of time. I'm sure there are a few ladies who thought I was a screwball, but most have been very cordial, and I've had some wonderful dates. Besides, I think that anticipation and imagination are just fantastic things. BTW, this is a great question, because I am also planning a trip in a few months. Hopefully, the ladies' answers will help us both out.

I think I will definitely make contact and see if they would prefer to go ahead and schedule or just get to know each other a little and schedule closer. I know my exact dates and definitely won't be cancelling. I am counting the days. First vacation in a year from working a 55-hour a week job. I will have 10 and 1/2 days in a row off and I can't wait. I am planning at least 3 dates for my trip too. Great, now I am all excited and can't wait.

For me, ask me in advance. That way I can get the references checked and feel completely and totally safe.

Go for it.

Shane

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