us guys can't resist answering some of these questions, so pardon us.
Some of the most enjoyable dates for me have been longer sessions like trips or overnight. Sure it adds complications to the date, like snoring, stinking up the bathroom, loss of privacy, etc. But the time spent together certainly allows you to really get to know the person better on a much more personal basis. It certainly is not stepping into reality, but an enhanced, extended fantasy. It's gives you the feel of what the other is like as a real person, not just an hourly fling. Obviously, it is not for everybody and I certainly would not do it with just anybody I pick out of the mall ads. They have to be someone I think that I could enjoy being with for an extended period of time.
The way I've handled the problem situations is to advise the other person of my sleep habits first. Secondly, I wear her out so that so sleeps well and doesn't have a problem with my snoring, lol. If I need to stink up the bathroom, I go to the lobby and stink it up there. Other issues can easily be worked out as long as you are sensitive to the other's needs. I hope I have given one perspective of this fantasy.
BTW, Sedona, how did you know I wanted a long weekend with you??? 
As Singer said it has to be the right person who wants to cuddle if you do, sleeps the way you do. But you do get to see the real person. Staying up just talking about nothing and then walking up next to them has been some of the pleasurable moments I have ever had. And you have sex when you want it so no time pressures. But small hotel rooms are a problem and you have to remember everyone including the hobbyist needs a little space.
It is not for everyone. Some people are just one hour encounters but it is such a different level of experience, everyone should try it once.
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As much as I enjoy the physical compenent of a "date", the intellectual portion can be equally exciting. In fact it enhances the physical side of things, for me. Almost never do I book less than a 2 hour "date", and more often than not they last 4-6 hours.
An all-day or overnight "date" is appealing to me as a vehicle to even further that cause. Insofar as the privacy issues, I would discount them. Almost every guy I know in this "hobby" has been with a woman at least overnight, and more often than not has had a wife or SFE ("Spousal Functional Equivalent" - I just like that term better than SO). So the whole concept of a shared bathroom, and waking up next to someone who hasn't "put on her face" yet is not as yucky as you may believe. In fact, it might be better, because the client has chosen that person he's waking up with very carefully. And putting that little bit of reality into the fantasy makes the fantasy all that much better.
Of course, one must chose that provider carefully. Personally I would not engage in an extended "date" with a provider that I have not dated at least 3 or 4 times before, or on that I had spent some extended time with prior to the overnight.
All that said, I have yet to engage in an "overnight". But that may end very soon, depending on the outcome of my nest trip.
F.
I've done several extended trips with clients and they have all gone well which I think has a lot to do with the guys concerned doing their research well and selecting a provider whom they believe will interest them out of bed as well as in it. None of my longer trips (weekend plus) have been with men I've met before which is a bit of a risk and I wouldn't really recommend it for either party. I didn't realise how much of a risk till I was on a tiny desert island with very limited activities for 3 weeks with a man I'd only meet briefly for lunch a couple of days before the trip. Thankfully, we got on great but it could have been a disaster if we'd not been compatible!
Obviously, I do my best to make sure I look presentable on longer appointments but I think the last thing any guy wants is a woman who spends half the day in front of the mirror. My trips have generally been to hot, beach destinations so I tend to wear little or no make-up during the day and make more effort in the evening - just as I would do normally on holiday.
As for bathroom time etc, well, we're all adults (I hope so hopefully not going to get easily embarassed about such things, it's all perfectly natural, after all.
but i did consume a fair share of cough syrup that night LOL
i wouldnt do an overnite with someone i didnt already know i liked, i dont see how ladies can, but some do...
but i structure my dates around getting to know the client personally anyway.
when you travel sedona, you'll meet some very nice fellows, and those fellows are the ones that end up inviting me for an overnite, on my next trip there or meeting them when they are out for a conference or something.
ive never had an overnite with a local... but maybe thats just atlanta 
have fun and play safe,
Nicole
well I suppose that I am likely far from the norm, but here is my position on the deal!
I enjoy overnights and long trips. (even though I sometimes have a tendency to be very generous under these terms). You bring about the whole Make-up bathroom thing. And I guess it could get touchy with a high maintenance (heavy make-up wearer too) kind of gal. But as for me. Well 1st, I do live under the microscope, so to speak! having 6+ webcams running 24/7. So I am not so worried about how I look in the morning! As I know many have seen me that way already! And I always remember that there are guys who really do like that raw look! REALLY , there are! So overly Modest, or visually aware, I am not! As for your comment on being "To Real". Well what you guys get when you meet me 1 on 1 is just that, ME! Maybe a bit more "showy", and more entertaining, but still just the same, it's me! 100% me. And I figure why would I be asked to go on a trip if "I" wasn't liked in the 1st place. So for me there are No worries!
But like I said, I do not think I fir the "normal" profile of a provider. Besides the cam site, Most all who know me, know what I do for income! Friends, Landlord, Family (mom, dad, sis, bro, daughter,....)Neighbors,... they all know, and they all still like me! And in NOT having a big secret to keep, I can be myself all the time! Much simpler that way!
there is my .02 worth of comment!
"A"
Like both Singer & orthodx I wouldn't consider it with just any o'l gal. She would have to be special and someone I feel very comfortable with(a lady I know in SD immediately comes to mind).
Just like a first time sleep-over with a civi' I would take extra care in not offending or being overly familiar in respects to individual "constitutions". Bean burritos would not be ingested. Mouth wash would be kept handily on the nite table etc etc.
The extra intimacy shared in an allnighter or a weekender would for me be well worth the risks of crossing the fantasy / reality line.
FR225
For the providor (at least for this one) it all depends on the client. Like you I never stay over in civilian life so I was worried about the overnighters and trips. My very first overnight was with a new man .... and we had ZERO chemistry. That made for a looooooooooong night. I would suggest seeing the man a few times before accepting a longer meeting. On the other hand I had a trip with a regular of mine and it was fantastic. This man likes to know the person and not live the "fantasy" so that was not a consideration. I don't know if the men actually expect the fantasy to continue for such a long time. My best guess is that men who book overnights and trips with a providor want the companionship as much as the sex so don't worry about crossing into reality. Just use common sense and basic manners and things will go fine.
I'm much more relaxed..
I love doing overnights and one of the ladies I see is the worlds champion in the snooring category. No lie, she can keep someone in the adjoining room awake. But she is so sweet and fun to be around, it's worth putting up with. Just a reminder, it's not always the men who snore the loudest.
18 days with my ATF - all over europe, Venice, Greece, the greek islands, Istanbul, Barcelona... etc...
whew...
It was a once in a lifetime incredible trip - just got better and better as it went. There is no way anyone can sustain the "fantasy" on a trip like this so you obviously have to be with the right person.
> 18 days with my ATF - all over europe, Venice, Greece,
> the greek islands, Istanbul, Barcelona... etc...
But Mel, you're in love with that girl and she's in love with you. That's a *big* difference from an overnighter with someone who is both friend and "business" partner, so to speak.
