Like in sports

You need a good starting line up for various reasons.  A solid rotation of 3 - 5 dependable, reliable providers.  Why?  Because each can bring a different experience and that only enhances the fun (and that's the point of all of this right, to have fun).  Also, schedules don't always line up.  So if you have a few different options at any one time, someone will be available.

Also like sports, a good bench is key to success.  If for some reason the entire starting line up is unavailable or if you just want a complete change of pace, it's good to have that spark off the bench.

Put me in coach, I'm ready to play!

lol

If I find the physical chemistry is there and we both enjoy each other's company, then I'll see them repeatedly.  Once in a while I will seek out another just to keep things in perspective

it usually does not last though.   Either things start crossing lines and it falls apart or the guy naturally sees other women.    

Any number of hobbyists have gone through this phase.   Maybe one or more will IM you.   In my own case I be=riely saw an ex provider exclusively in sort of a FWB arrangement but as quickly as it started she ended it.   I now see a lady who was UTR fora long time but it is not exclusive and either someone has ripped off her photos or she is working for a local agency part time (though she denies it.

it is just difficult to keep it in perspective if it is truly exclusive.  We do this to avoid the entanglements and complications of relationships. Why risk encountering them.

I'm sure that there are many lonely guys who also see just one.  Makes them feel like it's a real relationship.

The increase of loneliness increases exponentially at this time of year.

Exclusivity isn't usually synonymous with this hobby. Yet once, for about 18 months, that's exactly what I chose to do. I didn't think it wise to tell her, so it was just something within myself. She was an amazing lady. Her sessions went well beyond what anyone else had ever done. First of all, her 90 minute sessions lasted 3 hours + every single time. When I asked for a session, I had to make sure my schedule could accommodate it. At first, because of standard protocol, I didn't feel comfortable. She made it very clear that we were to create our own protocol. Secondly, every session ended with lunch or dinner. Don't ask me how or why. It's something she just insisted on. Besides the hot sex, conversations were awesome. We discussed everything under the sun, and often exchanged books, music, and gifts. Plus, our senses of humor were a perfect match. We spent so much time just laughing. In between sessions emails flowed frequently. To me it was a no brainer to exclusively see only her. While many sessions with other ladies often included a few of those things, with her it was so encompassing, it was more than therapeutic.  

It's a true statement when one says that hobby relationships are fleeting. They will always end, as did this one because of her retirement. Before her, I was like the gentleman above. I had a series of wonderful ladies I would party with. The funniest thing was that when my favorite lady retired, I attempted to renew those prior relationships. All but one were so pissed that I hadn't come around to see them for so long, they refused to see me. I laugh when I read other hobbyists saying that all you have to do is lay down the money, and the lady is yours. That's not true at all. One has to be extremely delicate when choosing with whom, and how to party. One can never assume that just because this hobby can be a bit jaded sometimes, no one has any feelings. Feelings abound!! By the way, she still has one of my books. Since she still writes, I like to tease her that she stole it from me.

and i found one provider that I would have been happy just seeing her. We talked about  that and as the newbie that I was, she extolled the virtues of this "hobby". She built up the greatness of variety, that she enjoys. She suggested that I go out and experience more providers, so I would not get too emotionally attached to her.  

I have done just that, and what fun I've had. But I still go back to her regularly.  
I've learnt to be "friends" with the detachment necessary to enjoy myself.

As a lady, I do have a client that only visits me and has so for several years. He is close by and that makes it convenient for him and much easier to arrange the time to get away from the wife.  I have no issues with him nor he with me (and it works out nicely but we always manage to work it back in.) lol

I often wonder why I visit other providers.

Every time I see my ATF, I walk away feeling so great and so recharged.  One visit with her packs the energy and intensity of 100 visits with anyone else.

Every other provider I see is unfairly compared to her. And in that regard, there is always the tiniest bit of let-down. I still see multiple providers just because I like the variety, but to be perfectly honest, I am seriously considering just seeing my favorite exclusively.

Don't see any reason to make any fanfare out of it or to wonder if it's alright. If I do it, I'll likely just do it and then not really think any more about it I guess.

I know, I cheated on her ocassionally but there was no real reason to do otherwise. The sex was ELECTRIC. Real. RAW. We had feelings for each other, but there were no emotional strings attached. We didn't get tired of each other during that period of time Of course, it was P4P. Have only found that level of intensity a few times since. and spent a lot of time with them too. Love variety, but prefer connection. Next up .... hmmmm