I do believe that I got a name off my caller ID since it was much different from her provider name. I erased it right away, it was none of my business. I did one time read on that silly PERB of Vancouver that some dopey client right on a open forum review devulged that he was able to recognize the real name of an escort seen on a medicine bottle. That breeds contempt to give some crackpot client something to look for.
Not the kind we use on the board, here, I mean the provider aliases.
How many gentlemen know the /real/ names of any of the providers they've seen? Ladies, how often do you enlighten the gents as to your legal identity?
I ask because I have encountered the situation a few times over my, um, career, and there are indeed a few clients who have become friends and for whatever reason have found me out, or perhaps been able to help me immensely with that information. I know all too well the risks involved with divulging anything as revealing as even a license plate number; thankfully that one is secondhand experience.
But since most draw that line in the first place, when and for what reasons do you cross it?
Thanks for any responses you might have.
When I read your question I found out that I know a lot more "real" names than I thought. It was the ladies who decided to give me their real names as I never asked for them. The only times that I used this information were to the ladies benefit (I once gave a lady some frequent flier miles to allow her to go see her mother).
I don't think I would ever ask for a real name but I do feel a little closer to those whose real names I know. I guess it shows a bit of trust for a lady to give me this information so I naturally try to act in a manner that deserves this trust.
I think I have forgotten more than I can remember ... but I agree with Mike I also feel closer to those whose real names I know.
I've found that, if you establish this trust with the ladies, they are willing to give it back to you...often sharing more information than just a real name.
thirsty
Believe it or not, I use my real name. Yeh, I know that is hard to believe, when I am posting under an alias now! LOL!
I have used many aliases in my day and I found that I worked best under my real name. (not something that I broadcast) I understand, this would not work for everyone, but it does for me.
I have been in the business for awhile and feel that this is who I am. It has made me the Lady I am today, and a Damn Good One at that! LOL
Hey, a Positive Hooker Story! Can you believe it? LOL
Hobby On!
Mrs. Robin(sin)
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I do believe that I got a name off my caller ID since it was much different from her provider name. I erased it right away, it was none of my business. I did one time read on that silly PERB of Vancouver that some dopey client right on a open forum review devulged that he was able to recognize the real name of an escort seen on a medicine bottle. That breeds contempt to give some crackpot client something to look for.
That was when I went to her house to check up on her after her phone was reported "temporarily disconnected" for two days. Turned out to be a screwup with the bill and she was unaware of it. I think she was really pleased that somebody cared enough to take the trouble.
We were on the way to becoming friends anyway.
I know the real name of a provider who dumped me and who also was my ATF. However, I would never compromise her true identity to anyone. It is the principle, even though I was deeply hurt by her rejection.
I agree with Mike.
I know the "real" names of the women who I've seen more than once who have become more than simply ASPs. I know the real name of one Lady through an inadvertant, I think, mistake.
I have helped all of them out in one way or another. It is important to me that they feel safe no matter what I "know" and I think they know it.
and just about everything else you could think of about my ATF. But then, we're as close as any two friends could be in addition to (or in spite of) being provider and client.
She told me some of this information as we became better friends. But the line was completely obliterated when she found herself in a (non-legal) situation and felt that I was the only one she could trust who could help her. Whether I was or not, she turned to me for help.
Later, after the crisis had passed, we talked about it. She knew she had given me enough information to more than ruin her. I told her that being trusted with that information had made me extremely uncomfortable. Her response? "That's why I knew I could trust you."
We vacation together, so I still have some of that information. She has the same type of information on me. It facilitates making travel arrangements and either one of us can make them. That's probably a good enough reason for each of us, but then we trust each other implicitly.
The ladies who have provided this info to me have become my prized and highly valued friends. I cherish my time with them and I believe that they know this.
However, the only thing I would ask of a provider (and ONLY if she's like an ATF) will be her FIRST name and nothing else. This is just a 'thing' with me - and I don't ask for other info. If they wish to volunteer it, then so be it.
And, to be brutally frank, help has flowed both ways when such was needed.
but I don't really care. Its a name. They don't have alias, we have a rule that we must know their name.
It really really depends on the provider and how comfortable you feel with your clients and who you want to know.
Shaye
just as they know mine
no big deal
A few do tell their trusty clients, but no SP fully comp herself, remember there are no true friends in this business.
I can't agree. I think that you can have true friends, but it is a slow process. I think making real friends is a slow process anyways, but in this enviroment it is even slower. When a provider tells me her name( on purpose, not by accident.) It is a sign of trust, and I take it as such. In the process of becoming friends, it is the first step.
I did not mean it quite that hard about not able to have real friendship, it is just that watch out, they do not get handed out like hotcakes.
I have provided my real (first) name to some clients that I feel particularly close to...if someone that I consider a friend and lover calls me by my alias (particularly when being passionate), I just feel like it degrades the authenticity of the experience -This feeling was particularly strong when I first started this and didn't feel a strong connection to my alias.
Now that I actually AM Sydney to some degree, I feel more connected to the name, and any experience that includes calling it out. I still find that I want to share my name with some special friends though....like someone here said, trust is a two-way street and I like to share my trust with those that are worthy.