However, I have this note to add..in reverse..

I recently got a call from a client from his friend's cell phone as his was out of order. He was golfing with a friend/business client in SD (they don't live here) and wanted to give me a call to see if we could get together and maybe I could recommend someone for his friend? Well, last minute things are exciting and flattering, but rarely work out, and as it was, I was on my way out to another obligation, so it didn't work.

However, my phone number was still on his friend's cell, and the friend called me a couple days later as he was going to be in SD later that day and wanted to know if I'd see him? Now, maybe it's just me, but I didn't want to do that without talking to my client first to see how he'd feel about that? If it mattered, then I wouldn't. Plain and simple. I am not about to stand in the way, even slightly, of a marriage, relationship, or in this case a longtime friendship and business relationship.

As it turns out, I called my client, and we ended up seeing each other the following day as I was going out of town, to a town that he frequents. It was great! When we started to say our goodbyes, he so casually mentioned he really didn't want to share me with his friend, but that I could recommend someone for the friend. He's rather I stayed with only him.
And I will.

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I know a fair number of dancers and boy are they competitive!!!!  They can tell you within probably 10 bucks how much every girl in the room is making that night and where they are in the standings.  

I have a well healed friend who hangs out at these places and when he walks in the room its like throwing blood into a tank full of sharks.  WHEW!   He has a group of about 3-4 gals he spend most of his time with and as long as he spreads the wealth fairly evenly, everything is copasetic.  If one of them starts to get a noticeable amount of extra attention it can get pretty gnarly.  And Goddess help the outsider that tries to horn in on their party uninvited.  The weirdest thing is they don't fight among themselves (at least not in public) they take it out on him, like he's betrayed them somehow.  Pouting; crying; name calling, cold shoulder treatment, none of which isn't immediately curable with a c-note.  

Want to know what it feels like to be a wallet on legs,  check out a local SC.  I won't say how much he spends when he goes into a club, but let's just say he could have a MUCH better time with some of the ladies listed on this site and save money too!

I danced for four years and had no problem sharing customers.  I enjoyed sharing them with friends I had at the club.  If I knew one of my good patrons was coming in at a time I wouldn't be there I'd call around for him to make sure there would be someone there that he liked.  

I have the same kind of attitude with escorting and in my private life.  It's really just about treating people like people not property.  I don't consider any person MINE.  "We are not objects fixed in time but perpetually occuring events."  When you KNOW that you are treating people right there is little reason for insecurity, fear of abandonment or rejection or jealousy.

I want my friends to be happy!  If they find pleasure or happiness with someone other than me it might sting just a bit but it's almost ego maniacal to grudge them that.  Not to mention unrealistic as I don't believe that any one person can totally fulfill the needs of another person.  

Jealousy may be a natural emotion to FEEL, but acting on it is unproductive.

Considering human nature in general and the fact that some of the ladies were dancers before starting in this business I am sure you will find some ladies who are jealous or feign jealousy when a regular sees another provider.  Based upon what I have seen and heard the acting out that accompanies this jealousy may be directed at the client, the new lady or both.

I am not saying that this is the case with many providers but it would probably be wise to sound out any lady about her feelings before you use her a reference in order to see another provider.