...that another provider may be calling you for a reference and you contact her first?
That's not the usual S.O.P. You should wait for her to contact you. She may have verified him through other providers or other means.
You've also been around less than a year so your recommendation may not carry so much weight.
I am asked if I have met a particular girl, and I check to see if they are interested in meeting that girl... And if they are, I send the provider a heads up.
And I'm confused as to why my recommendations carry less weight simply because I haven't been active for a year or more.
What I am taking from what you are saying is that I should not credit newer provider references as I would more established providers references.
Oh well, to each their own. Thanks for responding!
I guess it wouldn't be too much of a big deal but it could raise an eyebrow. I would be ok with I it the provider reaching out to me was reputable and established. It just makes sense though that when the guy reaches out to schedule an appointment for me to then do my work and reach out to check his references. That is very nice of you though to do that for your clients. 
Seems more likely to create suspicion. Unless the two providers know each other personally. That's just a john's view.
That makes a lot of sense, I am a huge overachiever smh
I didnt take into account that my contacting another provider, who does not know me, to tell her that my regular would be contacting her in the future could be seen as suspicious.
I forget that bad things can happen, and that people arent always nice. 
Ill stick to the traditional method, but even with that I have been ignored or insulted.
I would strongly urge you NOT to do this, someone is going to get the wrong idea about your intentions. I guarantee it.
and just how are you ignored or insulted in the "traditional" method? In the traditional method the other providers reach out to you for a reference. Please don't tell me that you have been giving out proactive and unsolicited references. You are not doing yourself or your client/s any good by doing so.
Instead of a provider reaching out to you for a reference for a guy you have seen in the past.
You want to ask the guy if he is interested in seeing someone and if so contact her first and give the reference instead of her reaching out to you?
Is that what you are saying?A little confused sorry.
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usually if a gentleman is whitlisted by reputable ladies it takes the waiting game out of the screening process.
Posted By: amberraeofdc
Provider you have seen in the past, and can vouch for you, proactively contacts any lady you're trying to see?
Ive done this a few times for gents and received mixed reviews from ladies, although none were malicious.
An issue I frequently encounter is receiving a message from an established hobbyist who provides references, but those references take days to respond...
Is there any hope for an idealist such as myself?
But it's prob a logistics thing. As the client/ hobbyist, I think it's easier to find the right provider for my schedule and then to let her email my references vs selecting the girl AND emailing the references.
Posted By: amberraeofdc
Provider you have seen in the past, and can vouch for you, proactively contacts any lady you're trying to see?
Ive done this a few times for gents and received mixed reviews from ladies, although none were malicious.
An issue I frequently encounter is receiving a message from an established hobbyist who provides references, but those references take days to respond...
Is there any hope for an idealist such as myself?
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...in each case I first made contact with the provider for an appointment giving her my references. I then immediately contacted my references giving them a heads up. Within a short time a couple of my references let me know they had gone ahead and contacted the lady I wanted the appointment with. It's important to note my reference and the provider I wanted to see knew each other well. Since they knew each other neither will care if the usual sequence of the process isn't followed.
In the case of you reaching out first and not waiting for the provider he's interested in contacting you the ones that don't know you will be concerned that the usual process wasn't followed. Also consider what happens if you give the guy a reference and he doesn't reach out to make an appointment with her. Just because he voices an interest doesn't mean he'll follow through.
You are attempting to be proactive and provide good service because you have had some not so good experiences getting references. That's commendable. Based on things I've read here this is a problem providers deal with regularly. Because you are new it may be more problematic. People are usually uncertain about those they don't know especially so in this business. I'd advise sticking with the usual process at least with providers where you haven't already established a good business relationship.
...she'll get contacted by the OP with a reference for someone the second provider has never heard of. That could be disturbing and raise LE suspicions.
How many references will women give one client before it just seems like he's bothering them too often?
i recently attempted to set up an appointment with a lady visiting my city for a few days. I failed to book early, though, and with a couple days before before her arrival, I sent her three references and requested an appointment. I let my references know, and at least two replied back that it was a done deal.
BUT, the woman I wanted to meet emailed and said she was booked up, and unless there was a cancellation, blah, blah, blah.
Well, you all know me. My libido was revved and I was probably feeling sorry for myself, so I pulled up my favorites list and started to book another date.
So would I give the same references again? Wouldn't that seem like I was pestering them? Just didn't seem to fit my usual way of doing things, so I gave a couple of other references, and booked the date. Got me thinking: do women get tired sending out references for the same client over and over?
