Seeing another dude leave as you arrive or arrive as you leave?   Not something fishy like to make you nervous, but just seeing the other clientele.

It gives me the willies and I think it freaks out some of them too, as I look LEish.

I know beggers can't be choosers but I like it more when a lady's schedule has more gaps to keep up the fantasy...

Not a rant- just my two cents...

It used to bother me, especially if I really liked the lady.  However, I've cum to realize that making me happy is her business, and that she is not in love with me or me with her.

As long as she cleans up nice and fresh and has enough energy for me, I'm ok with it.

Hobby On!

GG

I totally agree Sully.  It's not too much to ask for them to allow some time beween appointments.

Yep, it would flip me out.  I've been in the situation in which I really liked the girl, she like me, and although we're all grown ups here and understand the situation it's still weird for me.  

The long time folks in the hobby are probably immune to it.

'fraid I might fall in, or get lost with my little Anaconda.

I've almost stopped seeing visiting agency girls because of the schlong-to-schlong appointments, day after day.

Twice I've been leaving and have seen guys I knew in the lobby.

With daytime and early evening appointments it's not so bad.

I kinda get where you're coming from, if by fantasy you mean you'd like to think she'll take the time to clean up and change the sheets.  I'd hate to think I'm licking your nut off her tits.  Blech!

I never did like seeing other clients, for the same reason.  Especially if I like the girl.  Just creeps me out.  No offense, guys.

how about the incall establishments that have two or three guys waiting around in the living room all self conscious as hell ?

I am not sure I would want to spend time with a high volume provider that saw more than two clients a day. I realize when doing tours that there is no way.. I would kind of prefer to see the provider when they are not touring in my city, but rather when I am on their home turf. For some reason I have this belief that if I am seeing them in their city I am not just a number. Less likely to have this issue.

I agree we are all grownups, but I think we all would like to feel alittle special, and seeing clients lined up is demeaning..
I can't imagine that a caring professional would intentionally let that happen.

Ladies what is your perspective on this?

There are quite a few different opinions re: this subject, all have a degree of merit.
You guys fantasizing about seeing a girlfriend; you gotta get over that!
There was an establishment on 34th st; that moved a few blocks away; now they're closed- anyone know why? Anyway, the atmosphere was a little more relaxed. As much as they attempted to protect the anonymity of their clients, and they did if a client insisted. From time to time being a 2-3 X a week customer. You could get a few guys waiting, having a cocktail, perhaps smokin a doobie & exchanging info. Wouldn't it be so much better if fellow hobbyists could relax & not feel so uptight and celebrate the fact we share this common hobby?
Not too long ago -, I would hesitate discussing being into "the hobby" with anyone except one friend who turned me onto it.  I do not wear a sign publicising my enjoyment to pay for sex. Today however,  I feel I can be more open about it, especially because I believe it is a "safe" hobby, good for the head and it is my therapy. I also enjoy the looks I get from certain people who then want to know more about it. Over the last 10 years, I have introduced the hobby to many, many friends and associates.
Talk about  embarassing moments: I remember one day I was leaving that 34th st establishment, I was in the elevator door  coming down fom 8 which opened in the lobby. A former girlfriend's best friend was standing in front of me. As good an actor as I am, and although nothing was really said; I am certain I was busted! She knew where I was coming from! That was embarassing- guys! So you shouldn't worry about running into another hobbyist. unless you are concerned it's the
PI your wife hired! I believe the real issue here is a matter of preserving our egos which is nobody likes sloppy seconds, thirds, fourths, etc!!!   It would be better to give a friendly "good day" & chill, relax, it's all good.
The only thing I would truly be concerned about is that wetspot!........................................................................................................................

Everyone has their own comfort level, whether it's taking one's turn with a provider, speaking in public or something else.

Yeah, perhaps it's the fantasy thing, too.  Seeing other clients coming and going reminds us of of what we're really doing.  Maybe when we look at other clients, we see ourselves, and we don't like what we see.  Some of us like to feel special, at least while we're there, anyway.  Not just another boxcar in the train.

To each his own, I guess.  Looks like you're well-adjusted, in any case.

Toking reefer and sipping cocktails ? If only.... more likely guys trapped in suffocating marriages or on the greased corporate pole who are scared shitless about getting caught. Mix this with single guys who couldn't care less staring at the tv while their clothes absorb the nicotine suspended in the air.
 Tension, paranoia, competitiveness... not helped at all by incompetent management who may say that a girls is available when she's already set up with another guy, but, like, if you want to "relax" on the couch for a while.... and get fumigated with enough cigarette smoke and cheap perfume to rid yourself of body lice once and for all... or phones ringing constantly and everyone in the parlor yapping so loudly your dick can't hear itself think...
 Or knowing that the house is jerking you around on time, with the excuse that the hour runs from the time you select the girl... who will then take ten minutes to get ready or take her time with a lengthy inessential conversation on the cordless  phone right outside the door while an obese guy whose toenails are cutting holes in his socks who is supposed to be on top of things has the short term memory of a gnat because he blows all of his money on ultra-primo weed and there's a bunch of crunched out butts in the ashtray along with a massive wad of grape chewing gum next to the boombox that's tuned to an obnoxious rap station and the floor lamp has a 150 watt bulb in it but the girls won't do it in the dark 'cause she wants to check you closely....
  WHO is thinking girlfriend under conditions such as these ?

That's great! Thanks for sharing the view from the other side of the fence! CC

I have actually felt two ways.  When I was  just having fun, I have actually told the guy following me "knock yourself out up there".  But when I really was into the fantasy I wouldn't like even knowing that she sees other guys.  I know it's nuts.

But my all time freak out was while seeing an out of town lady who was touring my home place.  I had booked a day time long appointment which included a meal and a little guided tour of the city.  We had palyed prior to going out then had plans to do more after the tour.  Well when we returned to her hotel room she opened the lock and sort of stood aside for me to open the door for her.  I pushed the door open only to see another guy getting up off the bed!

She had apparently seen this guy the night before and was planning another evening with him that night.  She had given him a card key to the room!  Damn!  I milled around outside for a few min. while she went in to talk to him then she and I walked for a while so that he could dissappear.  Sure knocked the edge off the second session.

The atmosphere was sooo different in those places.
Relaxation Plus in the old Commodore Hotel above Grand Central was one of my first hobby experiences after the divorce from the marriage without oral sex - MWOOS.
There was a very spacious lounge area as you entered with probably ten different couch seating areas separate from each other. Drinks and coffee were free. Guys did not look scared and occasionally I would see an old pal from law school, and wave with a smile.
Ten hot ladies in the 8-10 range were circulating about, in no hurry. You sipped a drink, relaxed, then when you felt the urge you picked a vix and went back into the luxurious spa area for a shower, with a locker for valuables. I first went in 1972 and still remember the incredible experiences with Toni the Vix, and fifteen others - the works for $150 with customer service at its peak. Even when a heavy guy had a heart attack and was wheeled out by EMS on a gurney in a bag, the City did not hassle R+.
Always a PE - passionate experience.

We need places like that again in our major big cities.

And I must admit been put off by this subject.  As one of the reasons I became an indy, spacing my clients a more than reasonable time apart is one of my highest priorities!  I would love to say I do it all for you guys, but myself, I like to take a shower, clean up and that way, when you arrive it is as if you are my first client of the day.  Not to make the impression that I don't see other clients, but to make the impression that YOU are important enough to me for me to be fresh and completely prepared to meet with you.

The comments about the wet spots, they almost threw me into a fit!  

You wanted a ladies perspective...

XOXOX

Anik

I think everyone is different in what they look for and what they provide.  It is something that I cannot do and agree with you, but that is just me and doesn't mean that it is wrong when ladies do this.  It just takes a gent that knows what he is getting into and not minding that kind of scenario.  

Lauren

Spot on (so to speak)!   I do this hobby for the occasional carnal fantasy fulfilment of it, so its all about the fantasy that this is some thing I do that no-one else can do or does.  Of course I am ware of the community in theory-  but I might have  great life and never meet any of the guys here in person.  Seeing another dude almost ruins the whole thing.

The last time there was another guy at the foot of the stairs as I left the apt and we had a very weird passing in the hallway

What's worse is that I also think I ought to be more grownup about it

This hasn't happened to me yet...well not exactly.  I have shown up while the boyfriend was getting ready to leave and that disturbed me because I don't want some dude getting in my face.  Even if he knows she's escorting, you still never know.

In general though, the idea doesn't bother me.  Maybe I've gone to too may strip joints where sharing a girl with a bunch of guys is just the way it is.  I don't have fantasies about providers being my girlfriend.  I just want the girl to be clean.  I always leave on time or early but I think girls should allow at least a half hour between appointments to handle slight timing issues and to clean up.

This reminds me of the slight awkwardness that occurs when looking over the porn at the video rental place.  There's an unspoken spatial etiquette between men during these times which I hypothesize is related to a competition instinct.  Although it is as likely to stem from the desire to maintain the secrecy of one's kinky interests.

This one big advantage of being self-employed.I always try to be the first one of the day.The thought of kissing or DATY after God knows how many others is a real turn off for me!