"As she was leaving, she offered to come the next evening for a freebie. We had dinner, spent a few hours together, had sex and she went home."


Umm.... read the above. lol

I doubt she's playing with you with all that she has already offered.

BTW, is she cute?

I met with a provider this week initially for an hour and we had a good time. I called her the next night and we met again and had a good time and she stayed for a few extra hours free. As she was leaving, she offered to come the next evening for a freebie. We had dinner, spent a few hours together, had sex and she went home. We live 700 miles apart. She has texted she would like to be friends with benefits when I come back to her town. I'm new to all this and am curious if she is playing me.

Thanks,
Luthier

9 times out of 10 it's a bad idea and someone starts getting clingy or wanting more.  If she wants you as a free f*uck buddy take it while she's giving it *shrugs* lol.

But he has access to PM him just like you.

So are we to believe his accounts are any less credible considering you both have the same M.O.?

And you're giving me shit about glass houses earlier...

Look before you step, motherfucker!

Sex is never totally free.

Sure there are good deals, but the laws of the universe, karmic or otherwise, insist that we pay sooner or later for any benefit we recieve.

To that end, it is not always a bad idea to see a provider OTC, even with sex, if she is willing; but it is a gamble.

So, are you a gambler?  Can you afford the loss if this becomes something more than you bargained for?

Until you can give an unequivocal yes to that, stay safe and pay as you go.

Me too, unless she is planning to drug you next time and sell one of your kidneys while you are still out.

His story is not so far fetched, I have had similar things happen to me.

Sometimes two people just "click", sometimes it leads to something serious, sometimes something more casual, but it happens all the time, just apparently not to you.


As to the OP' question, no this is not common, but it does happen. and yes there is always the possibility that she is playing you for a bigger payday, (marriage is a huge payday for some. lol) but you can only be played if you allow yourself to. In the meantime, why not enjoy what you have, watch out to see if she drags you into any unwanted drama and enjoy the ride.

I don't think she is playing you, at least not yet. A lot of posters here rail against anything more than just a business relationship with these girls and for good reason - they can be very good at manipulation.  I think that if you don't lose sight of that you should be fine with any type of relationship you have with her. These providers are just girls and have a difficult time dating outside their profession. maybe she just digs you.

and none of them have turned out any worse than any civvie relationships,

Everything in life is a gamble, and aren't we the ones always harping that the only way to tell if a providers feelings are genuine is to take the envelope out of the equation? Well guess what, she has already done so. Why fuck with a good thing? If she turns out to be "psycho bitch" she lives 700 miles away, what's not to like?

I disagree. I don't wanna steal Gamblers thunder(one cheek sneak actually)but I've enjoyed a lot of time OTC. No one ever went psycho about it. Neither of us ended up taking advantage of the stitch-uation.

I understand your reservations though, to play the odds.

In fact, the relationship i'm presently in went from P4P to casual encouters quickly. Maybe not quickly to others but quick enough for me.

You know honestly I find it difficult to have female friends. The ones I did have I usually entertained ulterior motives. I'm shallow I guess

more that she's becoming over-involved way too quickly.  "I've fallen for a hobbyist and I can't get up," is a recipe for disaster down the road.  The good news is, she's 700 miles away.  Personally, I'd have a hard  time not "riding" this one for a while.

Sometimes it's easy to tell if she's being genuine or not, regardless of her hollywood GFE acting skills. I think in this case the girl really went above and beyond to show him how she truly feels.

I've had a few cases myself where the provider no longer wanted my money. lol Not sure why anyone wouldn't but I guess some gals like drunk and wasted asians over the envelope.

As for "secret agenda".. lmao I'm pretty sure that OP's girl isn't a secret 007 agent from Britain plotting to hijack the next flight holding him hostage. Then again, maybe it's possible that she's trying to wait til he falls asleep, break both his legs, and then keep him inside his basement for about a year like in that movie "Misery".

Anything's possible! lmao

what's her phone #  lol   I say go for it, as long as you make decisions with your big head and not your little one!!!  Providers need lovin too!!!

I have enjoyed wonderful relationships with many friends with benefits and many long term relationships and brief relationships with providers and never did the friends with benefits ever start out as providers ever. A number of the providers became my friends (including three who are long out of the business but with whom I keep completely non sexual contact) but any sex was always always paid for.  I wouldn't want it any other way.

Now I just naturally have kind of a suspicious  mind.  Whenever I take my car into the shop or am looking to make some other kind of major. . .financial commitment I always have the "Spider-sense" activated to what their angle might be.  Especially if it seems to good to be true.
So you know what came to mind as I was reading your situation and some of the responses?
Kathleen Turner in "Body Heat".  If you have never seen it, it didn't turn out good.
But that's just me.  I'm just sayin'.

I haven't found any higher incidences of "psycho women" in the hobby than I have in the civvie world. Truth be told my breakups with providers that I have dated have tended to be less drama filled than those with civvies. I think it might be that providers walk away from those they sleep with on a daily basis, where most civvies chicks think once you stick your dick in them, you are in a relationship.

The only real way to remain safe from the occasionaly psycho bitch is to "keep your dick in your pants", not an option for me.

I don't see a down side at this point.  Be a bit cautious.  Don't lend money.  Don't give out too much personal information...  lest she show up on your door step with a suitcase...  at least, not without an invitation on your part.  You need to remain vigilant...  because you never know.  At the same time, it puts a burden on youo to be a gentleman and not take advatage of the situation.
This has taken off very fast & it souonds like "the provider has fallen for you & can't get up".  It happens more often the other way around but it was not too long ago a provider posted, having fallen for her client.
These relationships usually do NOT work ouot but just enough of them do that one can not say "NEVER".  You do not say if you are fully available for a civie relationship.  If you are then you might want to let this situation evolve.  Probably slow it down a little...  You need to decide where you are willing to see this relationship go... I expect a range of options.   Then see where she sees it going...  and see if there is suffient overlap.  If a relationship comes out of this...  you can NEVER throw the provider or P word at her.  Can you do this?

Some providers provide over a considerable period...  some only for a short time.  The wise lady plans her business with the proper credentials for the next phase of her life...  "after her life as a provider".  Nothing wrong with this.  I have noticed several who worked their way through school & graduated with no crippling student loans...  and seem to have moved on.  Good for them.  

I have jumped the gun here and speculated on a bunch of facts not yet in evidence...  but we have seen a few of these situations evolve.  I would go in with my eyes open...

But depending upon how bad of a Psycho Bitch she is, remember she is ONLY 700 miles away.  Can you afford to change your locks?  Move?  Get a new job? LOL

but the trick is to not get over involved.  If it tuly is a FWB situation and you can deal with her still providing and she can deal with you seeing other providers, WTF!  Give it a shot!  But the first one that blinks and decides to give up your side of the business, then you are getting too close!  Have fun my friend but be careful!

We work in the same manner? That doesn't make any sense.

???

HH

No, of course I believe it can happen. Why would you infer that I doubt the possibility?

I just don't believe the OP post as presented. No big deal, really.


HalfHour

We had the third date as I described and it was great. A few days after getting home I texted her and we started talking again. I'm not going back to her town until September, but I offered to fly her to my town for a 4 day weekend in August and she agreed. The ticket was only $256. She is staying here for four days and seems to expect nothing from me. I'm really looking forward to it and will keep you all updated.

This is not BS...I'm a plain, nice 46 year old guy. We just clicked and really enjoy each other out of bed. She is giving up mucho earnings to come be with me so I think her feelings are legit.  I'm not naive, I just think I've hit the lottery.

I do appreciate the responses but really don't know why some of you are doubting why I would post this if it wasn't true? What motive would I have for that?

As an update, she is still planning on coming and we are planning out activities for the weekend. We talk daily and interest in having a personal relationship is growing. We are going to use the weekend she is here to gauge if we really are compatible.

I'm okay with dating with a provider. I know what her business is, I'm not naive. I feel intimacy goes beyond sex. She is doing what she needs to do right now. I am an unattached middle aged guy with no illusions....I'm going to see where this goes and she and I will figure it out as we go.

The intention of my original post was to see if I am somehow being scammed as I do not have much experience with escorts. After reading all of the replies and knowing what I know about her, I feel this is a legitimate chance to just have some fun with a gorgeous woman who seems interested and we'll take it slow and see what happens.

Thanks!