I was supposed to meet with a very well-reviewed provider last night.  Our date was set up over a week in advance.  I went through her screening process, providing all the information she requested and following her guidelines to the letter.  I was completely polite, gracious, and respectful throughout the process.  Twice, in fact, I even agreed to change the day of our appointment to accommodate her schedule.  This probably should have been a red flag, but I was excited to see her.  Besides, her reviews on TER are so overwhelmingly positive that I was convinced she was on the level.

You are entitled to feel your feelings. Some providers are flakes and completely unorganized. Move on. She's already flaked on you more than once.

This is a leisure activity - feeling wronged is not a good attitude to hold on to.  Move on.  You don't have a right to service - she doesn't have a right to patronage.   Really - we need to reserve being wronged for real problems -- like getting cut off on the freeway.  

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Of course you guys are right.  There's nothing else to do but forget it and move on.  Just needed to vent a bit.

...And didn't pull a NCNS, which is what the bottom feeders do.  

In her defense, she did at least tell you she couldn't make and didn't pull a NCNS, no THAT would have been worth outing her for, but a short notice cancellation, while annoying, could be explained by a thousand valid reasons. It's quite possible that an emergency came up 2 hours and one minute before your scheduled appointment and she only had a moment to send you a brief email before attending to her emergency. THAT is the only thing one person owes to another is the common courtesy to at least not leave you hanging.

Fair enough.  I thought 4 pages of glowing reviews ensured I wasn't dealing with one of the flakes.  Thanks for the insight.

Thanks Melissa, it's good to get a provider's point of view.  I still feel like she was stringing me along the whole time, but it's certainly possible she had a good reason for cancelling.  In any case, I was never going to make a big deal about this or confront her.  Posting this thread is enough to get the frustration out.

Just my speculation, she must have found a redflag about you, with your reviews or references. Like your post is an alias, its hard to determine which story is believable if it's one sided and btw you have to realize that ladies runs their own businesses and at the end of the day, she has the right to refuse her services to anyone, she can come up without any excuses or all kinds of magical creatures and nothing you can do about it. It's her own business her success and failures is it's up to her...like most everyone's responds, move on.....

...that has a section labeled "Rob's, Ripoff's and NCNS". It works very well for that board because it is a pretty small community and there isn't too much real drama there. Something like that would be a perfect place for us all to "out" those who pull shit (both providers & mongers) since we can't review someone here if they are a no-show.  
 
In fact they also have a "Flame Wars" section over there too for those threads that get a bit too visceral.
 
I wonder if TER ever considered something like that here?

But don't get too upset, all kinds of stuff could've happened. Maybe she got busted. Maybe she found out she was pregnant and wanted to end it but had to fly out of state to do so. Maybe there was a death in the family. The brevity of the email suggests it was more than something like her manicurist appointment got shoved back. Let it go.

.... It just goes to show you don't ever know. That's the attitude I bring to every encounter.

request from a well know gentleman last nite (very late at night) it was obvious that he got stood up by someone else and then... he sent me the request as a last minute choice. I politely declined. I like to be a first choice not a second or third or.... I never see anyone on a last minute request. I like when someone take the time to book with me because he is actually interested in seeing me, not because he didn't have another option.  
Good luck to him in the future... I wont be seeing him. Specially when he has never taken the time to book with me, but we exchange messages and usually those are again; last minute request.  

You're wrong to feel right.

I do last minute requests all the time as I really can't plan things in advance as my business schedule is too unpredictable. Rather than being "that guy" the one who constantly books appointments that he has to cancel, I prefer to simply take my chances on who is available on short notice.

right, from the business perspective no.  
I am saying about that specific person that always contact me every time he gets stood up. lol.. he's reading me right here.

It's amazing how some of these situations have turned out well for me and my customers. Granted I don't get calls late at night and I'm not a provider. Everyone is entitled to run  their business the way they want to and can continue not wanting to be a second choice, but I'll continue to bail my customers out.

it's a common occurrence with hookers of all price ranges and regardless of review accolades. This board is proof of that.

it's just part of life and the nature of this world.  

That's interesting, but I can't say that i was ripped off or ditched without notice.  And I certainly dont want to have a Flame War with anybody.  I was just letting off some steam after a disappointing night

In many businesses it is not uncommon to send a substitute service provider when the person "hired" is not available.  

When I was booking Hookers to feed my addiction I found quite the opposite.  
     
   Maybe one out of twenty was flakey but still performance oriented.
   I had a total of  two I would consider inconsiderate,  Grade A reviewed at the time.
   Both had subtle warnings in their reviews.  
   My Bad for believing I could tame those Beasts.
   One was a no show, my first and only experience with that.  
   
    The other thought the World revolved around her.  
    I let her know I disagreed with her point of view and walked out on her naked dumb ass.  
    She'd likely claim I was inconsiderate for not tolerating  her insolent nature.
   

By your post. Because I do want to know if reviews are inaccurate. A provider with stellar reviews but who can be this unprofessional is someone I want to be warned about.

Avoiding NCNS is worth something.  In general if gals aren't easily available, even if it is just a mutual scheduling conflict, it's best to move on.  As for giving reasons and excuses, you never know if they are true or not.  So no point in worrying about it.  The best thing she could do would be to express apologies.  Doesn't matter if they are not heartfelt, it just is good business and shows attention to good business practices.  Only then would I consider seeing her at some future opportunity.

I've always enjoyed your posts -- but this one goes straight to the Hall of Fame. Bravo.

The question we need to ask in many situations is 'how many strikes does someone get'

I am far from looking for a relationship. LOL
But it's about having a little bit of respect for my self.  
"this" person, contact me several times... never booked appointment but request every single time at last minute only  because someone else ditch him... (even tho when he knows my protocol and that I need 24-48 in advance notice). If he take the time to book a date with me and not just contact me as the other option.... and showed a little of respect that would be a different thing.  

Maybe 10x was a stretch, but for sure there are plenty of flaky escorts. And when you go beyond these TER borders and include the women who advertise on other (more questionable sites), the number of flakes will increase exponentially. So yeah - there are sadly plenty of them out there just waiting to fuck up a monger's day

On the first date with the guy, he insulted my body.