A few reviewers were contacted on TER by a "lady" & asked me if this is common practice:

I haven't been around as long as Carissa..maybe 1-2 but my reviews are great you should see me on my next visit love

or at least check out my site

and my reviews

muah!


I hope it's not because it's extremely tacky, ignorant, and reflects poorly on the provider soliciting a hobbyist out of the blue.

Gentlemen, has this happened to you and what are your thoughts on this type of action?

Providers are in business. Sometimes businesses do "cold calls" of likely prospects. They send mail, make phone calls, whatever.

Some providers are practically limited, because of LE and a murderer, to current customers only. (Room Service Girls, for example.)

I think that it *could* make sense for a provider to contact folks on TER specifically because that pool is probably a good pool to fish in.

I think, though, that the general ads on the regional boards are good enough for that.

Soliciting, directly, on the other hand; can be a big double-edged sword. Some guys may not like it -- at all. It could backfire. The guys pre-screen and if they haven't called you, they may have their reasons.

Where I think it makes sense is for a member who has posted a specific desire, fetish or whatever -- especially a fetish that if it were openly advertised as a service could drive off other business. If a guy posts something like that, I can't see a problem with contacting him directly as there's really no other way he'd know you offer the service.

If a provider were to solicit ME, that would be fine. But I only speak for myself. And, in most cases, unless the lady knew my particular "buttons" it would be fruitless as I typically spend months between providers. But she could send me an email anyway as I like corresponding with providers -- they are typically wonderful people.

something I posted, as I also do from hobbyists.

I know there is probably some marketing going on, but I don't mind it.  It provides a pretty good excuse to goof off during the day.

....Carrisa is beyond tacky. Personaly I don't believe in cold calls/emails. Unless I know a gent well enough and know that he would not mind a heads up on me being in town or some such stuff.  But to email/call someone I have never met? Ohhhh helll no.

I have received a couple PM from ladies advising they are in town.  These are ladies I had previously tried to set up sessions with.  I happen to like it.

here from ladies saying that they might like to meet me, or asking where I live. I have also gotten emails from ladies who have checked my profile on Date-Check. I don't mind it.

Sometimes it just feels good being chased, and as it turns out, I'm pretty easy to catch.

maybe she's just trying to aggressively increase her market share rather than decrease to a larger market.  Every business person wants a larger piece of the pie these days.

She'll end up eating crow though, since most hobbyists don't like unsolicited solicitation.

I get cold pm's and emails all the time. If it is done right, I sometimes reply or if it is someone I'm interested in. Don't see anything wrong with it, if it's done correctly.

Their presence looms large in every sense of the word.  

That is thesame thing as troling /soliciting.
I had one of my clients repost to me someone
who emailed him off my review saying she read his
nice review of me and that she would like to see him sometime. It was discussed and I hope that
practice she once did has stopped.

I understand a provider has to do what she has to do to get business, but that is in bad taste!

Personally, I would never contact a reviewer based on the providers he has seen. I feel it is tacky. It is especially uncouth to mention another provider’s name! I would not want another provider referring to me, as I do not want to be associated with any other provider unless she and I agree to associate ourselves for business reasons. Other than that, I would prefer others keep my name out of their mouths...to potential clients or ones we already have in common. So, while I do NOT prefer the business approach you mention, I would much rather have a provider contact reviewers I have seen and refer to me in general terms than specifically. Meaning, I would rather a provider contact a reviewer of mine and say, “Hi there. I noticed you like beautiful, curvy ebony providers. So, you will like me” than “Hi there. I see that you enjoyed Giamarie, so you will enjoy me.” The latter is quite offensive, as I am not interested in being associated with anyone but myself unless we mutually agree upon doing so for business reasons (clearly, this is a key point for me).

Besides the association piece, it really does not bother me who another provider contacts. I am confident that the friends I have who enjoy the time we spend together will see me again. If not, then perhaps they need to sample what is out there, which is their prerogative. I have no problems with that at all.

With that said, for their own self respect, I encourage providers who use such business tactics to try different ones. There are several out there.

Good luck!

Xoxo,
Gia

I'm trying to imagine being upset because a lady sent me an email, but then I'm shy and like to be approached (gently.) Perhaps I could get on the list for great kissers with large natural breasts - might have met Carissa and Erica and Gabriella and Kimlyn sooner than I did if they had contacted me.

Despite the DoNotCall list, it appears any company that one ever communicated with has carte blanche to contact for ever and ever. But as long as they use (infrequent) email, and not phone calls, it isn't much of a burden.  Can't see that occasional emails to my personal account would be a problem.

My nightmare would occur if popular providers began to sell their mailing, or worse yet, phone lists (of course, that would be impossible, since everyone deletes contact information after each appointment.) If the charities sell my info...

Anon O'Male

where I know too many people to post an ad on the regional board.

I also show my face, so it's less risk for me to PM a few regular reviewers that I am in town for a few days, check out my site!

There are so many lurkers that I would rather upset someone than have a friend recognize me.
In fact, I pm'd a few guys that had reviewed girls in Europe to ask their fave ad sites before I toured here & I got a great response!
Brennan

If this was meant as a joke.....it is not funny.


Allure`

I do not know this woman and the reviewers she contacted were given the impression that we were associates & therefore safe to see. I do not know that for a fact and I'd rather not have anyone linked to me that I have not agreed to prior as I would think most ladies are very careful of the associations we have in this business.

I do agree with several of the gentlemen who stated if this type of solicitation were to occur it has to be done in the right way. Mentioning my name in her solicitation is what really rakes my coals.

I know ladies have to do what they have to do, however, it is not in my nature to directly solicit in such a manner.

I do wish her the best of luck & don't begrudge her at all

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